Pay It Forward Blogging – A HarsH ReaLiTy

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When I first started on WordPress I noticed very little community. Blogging 101 wasn’t invented yet, the prompts you see frequently now around the blogosphere hadn’t been thought of, and bloggers were busy finding the newest way to corral followers by giving out endless awards. People wrote in the night, artists still painted, bloggers still grumbled about a lack of […]

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vLog – A Book of Triggers page 3

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It is amazing how much meaning a name can have and yet not have at the same time. I suppose much of that has to do with acceptance of what that name truly means. We are given words to mark us as singular in an overcrowded world that will rarely see you as an individual. Who does that name mean […]

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My Online Community – Part 1

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Ritu – https://butismileanyway.wordpress.com/ orbb80 – https://orbbsfashion.wordpress.com/ Deb – http://debwashere.wordpress.com/ Dominique – https://jacquemardcollections.wordpress.com/ Thumbup – https://juststuffifoundontheinternet.wordpress.com/ beautybeyondbones – http://anorexiarevealed.wordpress.com/ Souldiergirl – http://www.souldiergirl.com/ whimsical90 – http://whimsical90.wordpress.com/ lexborgia – http://lexborgia.wordpress.com/ Kunal Thakore – https://randomrantsruminationsramblings.wordpress.com/ jilldennison – http://jilldennison.wordpress.com/ Diana – http://toastandteatogether.wordpress.com/ Akhila – https://wordsandnotion.wordpress.com/ LindaGHill – http://lindaghill.com/ Linda Lee – https://healmycomplexptsd.wordpress.com/ Belinda Crane – https://belindacrane.wordpress.com/ anroworld – https://anroworld.wordpress.com/ pseudonymous – https://consciousnesscreatesreality.wordpress.com/ Aarya – https://thefreebird.wordpress.com/ jacquelineobyikocha – http://acookingpotandtwistedtales.wordpress.com/ navigator1965 – https://navigator1965.wordpress.com/ YesterdayAfter – http://yesterdayafter.wordpress.com/ mommyx4boys – https://mommyx4boys.wordpress.com/ Diane Brander – https://dianebranderwrites.wordpress.com/ Holistic Wayfarer – http://holisticwayfarer.com/ #Maesha – Ms Nightshade – http://www.msnightshade.com/ dray0308 – http://dreambigdreamoften.wordpress.co/ Tessa – http://tessacandoit.com/ KG – https://booksmusicandmovies.wordpress.com/ Janice Wald – http://mostlyblogging.com/ Capt Jill – https://captjillsjourneys.wordpress.com/ elementhealing – https://elementhealing.wordpress.com/ amommasview – https://amommasview.wordpress.com/ davebarclay1954 – https://barclaydave.wordpress.com/ […]

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Gambling, Bad Decisions, a Deer, and My Poor Eclipse

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Disclaimer: Language “Four Kings,” the man said with a sneer in my direction as he immediately began to greedily scoop up the numerous poker chips in front of him. “Motherfucker…” I mumbled as I reluctantly got up from the poker table. A small Asian man scurried over to quickly take my seat before my second ass cheek was even out […]

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How I Blog – My 33.3% Rule for Networking

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When I began blogging in 2013 I quickly found that there was simply not enough hours in the day to get everything done without some sort of game plan. I have always found formulas to be a great gauge for controlling time and interest, and so I created a rule for blogging to help keep track of where I spent my […]

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Great Bloggers and Networking Opportunities! – Part 1

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Here are some of the great bloggers I interact with daily. Add them to your list and grow your network with other responsive bloggers! -OM Mark Reynolds – http://any1mark66.wordpress.com/ Katy – https://walkerkaty0.wordpress.com/ Stomperdad – https://allinadadswork.wordpress.com/ #Maesha – Ms Nightshade – http://msnightshade.wordpress.com/ Swo8 – https://swo8.wordpress.com/ CC – http://www.ccchanel41.wordpress.com/ Gary – http://www.skipahsrealm.com/ Alvernon – http://embracenerdythings.com/ willowdot21 – https://willowdot21.wordpress.com/ Br Andrew EFO – […]

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Help Please! Disqus/Discuz – WordPress Comment Section

Does anyone know how to add the WordPress comment section back under the disqus comment section since it automatically removes it? I have seen it on a number of self-hosted sites, but can’t recall which ones. Can anyone help me out? If it is a coding answer please email me at aopinionatedman@gmail.com. If I can readd that under the disqus […]

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Mixing Races? How I knew I would marry my Color

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If you have read any of my previous work you have no doubt begun to garner some idea of who I am, or who you think I might be. You may have been able to piece together, detective that you are, that I am Asian, I was adopted and grew up with white parents, had white and black friends growing […]

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Disqus – Feedback Wanted!

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I removed the WordPress comment section and installed Disqus. The notifications weren’t working and jetpack was acting janky… so I removed it as a comment feature altogether. You should now receive notifications when people respond to you in the future. This is a “must have” feature that I must have working. Hopefully disqus works better than the plugin I was […]

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Online Friendship and Loyalty

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I won’t apologize for having people like me online. That isn’t a crime and no one should feel guilty for having a “larger subscriber number” than someone else. People will try to make you feel badly for it though and will try to discredit your support with trendy words like “fandom.” If people gain fans online it is normally due […]

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Chasing Hope

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Hope is a funny thing. Such a blessing at times and a poisonous curse at others, it can cause you to do the craziest things. One day you are content with your life and then Hope knocks at your door. She tells you that your life is not complete and that you must travel across an ocean to seek something […]

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Small Time Bloggers

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I often have people say to me “thanks for helping us small time bloggers out.” We are all bloggers here. If you blog you are a blogger. Your audience size has nothing to do with what you call yourself. If it does I missed that memo. I don’t consider my blog large. My subscriber number is growing, but the thing […]

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Changing Lanes

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I find myself coasting lately and I dislike it. The middle lane is for coasting, the right lane is for the slow pokes, and the left lane is obviously the fast lane. This is the lane where the speeders dwell, the ones that know where they are headed in life. They zip past those in the other two lanes and […]

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Why I Blog on WordPress

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Can I help you to smile when smiling has become unpopular. Allowing you some respite from the struggle we all share in our own way. I extend a virtual hand because it is virtually effortless to do. Caring to see if care is needed and showing concern where concern has become extinct. Can you feel the want that comes from […]

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Today my sun died

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Today my sun died and the earth rushed to take its spot. I walked inflamed by a world on fire that had no clue it was burning. How brightly it burned, flames casting the shadows of my doubt onto a wall of observation I could not ignore. My life became a storybook with pages ready to fall… how they fell. How beautifully […]

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Blogging {Social Networking} – By: OM

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I browse a lot of blogs daily and that is the first part of social networking to me. It can be a chore and hard to force myself to do daily because we all want to reside in the comfort of our own blogs and wait for the loyal to lineup outside. It doesn’t work that way though. It only works […]

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I stopped by your blog today…

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I stopped by your blog today and noticed something off. Curtains hung that matched a different season as snow piled high around the blog you once loved. I thought at first you had built an igloo to comfort yourself while creating word strings in the night. But it was not so. Instead I heard with alarming clarity my own voice […]

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Blogging – Be Responsive

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I think the most important thing with “blogging” is to be responsive. I understand of course we are all here for our own reasons. We all have goals for our blogs. Some are here to share, some to care, some to sell, some to promote, and some simply to spill our thoughts and minds. I have my reasons for logging […]

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10 Reasons I Would Quit Blogging

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The Justice League finally accepts me as a member. North Korea kidnaps me. And then makes me Emperor. WordPress makes me a member of their Freshly Pressed staff. Wait… never mind. That really isn’t a moon up there. The Broncos accept me on as Peyton Manning’s backup. People find out who I really am. My robotic arms stop working. My […]

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The Tone of my Fingers

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What is the tone of your writing? Do you feel it in your fingers? Sometimes I feel like my ten digits write the sound of my heart. I allow them free reign upon the playing field of my keyboard. The taps of the keys lessen the stress I feel in my shoulders. My body looks to my fingers for guidance, […]

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WordPress Meet and Greet – All Bloggers Welcome!

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One of the best posts I ever made was the Meet and Greet post on my original blog. I was going to port that link over here, but instead decided a new post was in order for the new place. I’ll keep this on the slider to make it a sticky. All bloggers are welcome to promote their blogs or websites […]

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The Night of the Big Game

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It is a Friday night and I am just now getting ready for the school football game. It is my sophomore year of high school and things have changed somewhat. My friends and I are able to drive, life is a little bit more fun, but the bullying still exists on a frequent occasion. I yell that I am leaving […]

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A Story of Two Rings

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I have been asked only three times the story behind my two rings. Most males, obviously, wear only one ring. The second ring is not an engagement ring; it is actually a second wedding ring. I have lost 2 wedding rings in my life. One was due to… circumstance. The other fell off my finger at my old job. I […]

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10 Annoying Things People Say

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“I hope you don’t get offended by this but…” You are about to say something that is going to make me want to punch you in the face right? I never understood why people feel the need to say this. It must be due to a weak backbone because they normally follow this phrase with something highly offensive. “I hope […]

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Blogging – To niche or not to niche

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We all blog in our own way and we find what works for us. Some of us seek out like minded bloggers and form communities around our niche. Others, like me, enjoy a wide range of blogs and topics that keep our readers interesting. We freely share our lives and our lives will never belong to a specific category or […]

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Blogging Tip 309

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Rescheduling or respinning posts is an effective way to share articles people may have missed. When you reschedule a post by altering the published date in the quick edit or edit screen it will place your post on your follower’s readers. It will also place it on the overall WP reader according to your tags. Here is a tip. Because […]

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Tagging – Spreading the love

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I know everyone by now has read a post on tagging. I have read many of them and I find that sometimes people leave out some key pieces of info. I thought I would share some of the points I think people leave out. Yes, we know by now that you are allowed up to 15 tags per post. These […]

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Blogging – Helping Others

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How many of you help others daily? Why do you do it? Do you gain some personal satisfaction from the act or do you physically feel your halo grow brighter each day? I help bloggers daily because I want to. I get bored easily and I find inspiration from seeing other individuals motivated. I feed off that motivation and also […]

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Adding HarsH ReaLiTy To Your WordPress Reader!

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Danny from http://www.dreambigdreamoften.co/ shared a helpful tip for adding my new self-hosted blog to your reader. He suggested the below steps! “If you copy Jason’s URL you can create a List in Reader and add his url to that list.  I do so for Self-Hosted bloggers and am able to keep up with their posts easier because I can read and comment […]

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Hoping to Die

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There was a time in my life when the land was covered in darkness. It did not matter what time of the day it was there was simply no light. I walked the world a ghost and prayed to any god that would listen that he or she would simply end it for me. I wanted to die. I wrote […]

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Journal Entry .1

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You may wonder why this journal entry is numbered .1. It is a simple reflection of the feeling I have right now as I rub the eagerness from my eyes. I haven’t felt this energetic about blogging for over a year and I am surprised at the renewed vigor I have received. It is directly related to feeling like I […]

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Opinionated Man on Facebook!

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I went ahead and reactivated my original Facebook account for this website. I appreciate the connections! https://www.facebook.com/aopinionatedman/?view_public_for=212884802202999 -Opinionated Man Jason C. Cushman  

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Google+ Group: Social Networkers

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I started a community tonight on Google + called “Social Networkers.” I will use this community to bounce ideas around with people on networking, social media, seo, traffic, and site growth. If you are interested in joining the group please use the link below! Thanks! https://plus.google.com/u/0/communities/104042776816946301210 -Opinionated Man Jason C. Cushman @smokendust

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Inner Networking – Blogging 369

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“Inner networking” is my term for using your previous connections to refresh your network daily. What if I told you that many of you already have an active list of people you should be connecting with when you have the time? It is a list full of people that want to talk to you and comes with easily clickable links. […]

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Nine Reasons Being Asian Is Awesome

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1) I can walk to the park and start swinging my arms around and claim it is some form of martial arts when it isn’t and people will join in. 2) My eyes are so small I don’t really need shades. I buy them anyways because they make me look badass. 3) If I am ever lost in the woods […]

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My Thoughts on Moving to Self-Hosting: Part 1

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Many of us wish to get paid to blog and for some of us WordAds on WordPress.com is not an option. We are forced to seek our fame and fortune elsewhere which begins the journey to becoming “self-hosted.” There is a lot of fear behind the idea of going self-hosted and much of that fear is bred from the idea […]

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The Day We Killed Jesus

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As I grow older I sometimes catch myself lost in reflection upon specific times of my life. Usually when this happens it is a pain point I am revisiting as I ponder a decision or lack thereof I have made during situations in my past. His name was Josiah. We laughingly called him Messiah because that is funny right? Well […]

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That is just stupid

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I figured out what was happening and it is just stupid! So if you self-host and run jetpack you may run into a situation where you can’t “reply” on your own website when jetpack is enabled. Once you disable jetpack you can then comment on your site… but guess what happens? You can’t comment on other wordpress sites without being […]

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~!Share a Post!~

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Feel free and share a post today! All bloggers are welcome! -OM @smokendust

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The Beautiful Weed

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Someone said you were bad, not worth keeping around. Your single flower droops, letting me know that you heard their unkind words. They were jealous, do not mind them, they tried to grow a cactus and thought there would be flowers. They are ashamed that something that is free, such as yourself, could possibly outshine a forty dollar rose. And […]

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I see your eyes still

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I see your eyes still, even though parted we have been. They look back at me while bouncing against ice cubes, caught in the turbulence of the alcohol of my choice. Choices, they line before me like pawns. Only these pawns do not look so small while standing on the chessboard of life. Who the hell upgraded them to badass […]

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Thank You Lori for Sponsoring HarsH ReaLiTy!!!

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I got an offer out of the blue yesterday from a reader to sponsor this website for a year. Lori was kind enough to pay for this site to be hosted for a year. I’ll of course promote her site and blog, which you can find at http://lorieb.com/ by the way, when I can. Since I no longer am on […]

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Taking a Break!

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My eyes hurt. My ass hurts… from this stool I have been sitting on for hours. I may have caused an increase in my blood pressure due to this change, but it is coming along. Finally got “some” things working! I appreciate all the help and patience from many of you. It wasn’t nearly as hard as I thought, nor […]

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A Book of Triggers – Full Active Book

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If I were to imagine a book of life it would best be described as a book of triggers. For what is life other than a slowly revealed circle of need, want, and more need? My book of triggers has always been my journals that I have kept throughout my life. Triggering thoughts, feelings, and emotions of the moment laid […]

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Site Update

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Ok so I basically am rebuilding from scratch here. This might take a little while! Please be patient! I finally got to the mod settings so your comments won’t be held anymore in queue. I hate that! I still can’t get that dang WordPress subscribe button to work and I am not sure how to place ads other than with […]

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Windows and Mirrors

I see a social media of hanging windows and mirrors. Brief glimpses into the lives of some, reflections of the moment from others. Represented by cookie cut square images, we are how we portray ourselves to the world. Photos spinning in the wind chased by the concerns of the daily. We present dots waiting to be connected, tiny bubbles of light that represent […]

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What have you posted recently?

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If you want to share some links, news, or your blog the board is open. I have to clean house for a party tomorrow. None of you are invited. Note: I will catch up on comments soon. Sorry! -Opinionated Man @smokendust 44   

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The Grind

People ask me “when do you work?” I am always working. I got bills to pay with the daily gig and the dream to chase at night. I also have a family to take care of. You do what you do right? It is called the grind. -Opinionated Man @smokendust

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The Daily Opinion – Favorite Blog?

What is your favorite blog? Share the link if you can!

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Share a Post!

I am looking for things to read tonight. Have a post you want to share? Drop the link here! -OM

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