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I’m soooo OVER social media!

Yes, I am included in the mass followers of social media. Yes, I have accounts in a few platforms. Yes, I spend abundant amounts of my time on them daily. No, I do not particularly find mindless scrolling on Facebook enjoyable or engaging. No, Snapchat is not then end all be all of comedy. Yes, Pinterest has some neat ideas. Instagram, meh. Well, that pretty much sums up my not so impressive social media forums. I mean, I did at one point have MySpace but I’m certain all of that is lost somewhere in cyberspace.


Awe, MySpace! Such a fond memory. I think MySpace was the introductory social media platform for most people in my demographic group. Oh, the days of old! Ha. A space online for yourself! Fill it with who and what you want!

It was new, seemingly uncharted territory. Create a…

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Changing Blogging Habits

I started this blog in 2013 and began my quest to connect with as many bloggers as I could. I reconnected with people, but that was never my main focus. Sure I push dialogue and communication through my posts and forum like atmosphere that I host here on HarsH ReaLiTy, the old forum mod in me loves it.

Actually it craves it.

People often ask “what good is connecting with all those people?” I have always given the staple response that I like having a “WordPress Reader” that is a mixture of posts like a magazine or newspaper. That is the easy answer to give and I give it often. It isn’t the full truth though, but you can’t explain “networking” to people that don’t want to listen or understand.

So this post is to all the networkers out there, the grinders that follow this blog because they love the feel of the grind. The people that like numbers, that like to push their platforms and to expand their reach. This post is for you.

I view networking like fishing, particularly since the “net” analogy is easy for simple minds to grasp. I’ve also explained many times on this blog that I have never gone viral, all my posts got viewed because I worked for each view, I was never Freshly Pressed or had help, and I CARE about views and numbers.

I do NOT need to hear why you don’t care about numbers.

Don’t care… over there.

I connected with tons of blogs my first three years here and I now have two sources for connecting and reconnecting with bloggers. I have the active reader and the personal reader, I utilize both today. You have to to broaden the net. The thing about my personal reader is that not all those are active connections, but the work to find them has been done in the past. I did that work for three years and have a head start. For me it is never a question of “where are all the bloggers?” Instead I focus on what group I want to connect with that day.

Social Networking is an active engagement with the community around you.

But what community are you a part of?

There are thousands here on WordPress, if not millions. I don’t prescribe myself to a singular community, I have my own, and I enjoy spreading my posts across the tag board. This enables my site to be seen by a poet that only posts poetry, but might like my Daily Denver Photo. By not focusing on one group at all, I am in essence focusing my blog… just in a general way.

I’ve changed my blogging habits this month and this is a big deal for me. For 4 years I’ve had a set procedure and blogging method daily. Those methods allowed me to mass network and I enjoyed it, I love networking and getting my posts out there. The change in process for me is utilizing my personal reader more and engaging those actively posting “on my side of the fence.” I will admit I’ve been guilty of overlooking those I’ve already connected with. That is the bane to always looking forward. I hope that attitude and outlook changes as this year continues and I already see a difference in the engagement I am receiving daily.

To all the grinders I send you encouragement. No one knows the work you are doing. I do.

-Opinionated Man


Weighing Blogging Relationships

How do you weigh a blogging relationship or any relationship online? Isn’t it the same as a relationship in person?

As with anything in life we have to determine what is in it for ourselves. What do we get out of the relationship and is it worth having? Are we being used and all that is left in the morning is a hershey kiss and a thank you note…

The longer you blog the more you’ll consider blogging and the intricacies that make it so hard. You’ll see ranting about unfaithful following, fake subscribers, and lack of views. You’ll see these posts because people care and why shouldn’t they? Bloggers pour countless hours into their sites, posts, and the people they interact with. Blogging is a social media, it isn’t just a media of presentation. Because of that time is valuable and we want to know if who we are using our time on is worth it. We want to know if we are wasting our time.

I make this very simple for myself, but some might say “well Opinionated Man has that luxury.”

You see I don’t focus on the response back, but instead on my activities that generate response. I don’t click around my site for hours waiting for people to care… I make people care. I don’t reread old comments to glow, I go out and make new connections to stimulate new comments. That is how I blog by cutting the “relationship” out of it.

That isn’t for everyone.

You’ll have Helga who has to be best friends with every blogger she follows. And everyone better be best friends back or they’ll get a warning, an email, and a door knock.

You might even be a Gary who does Gary things, but that is the beauty of blogging. We get to do what we want!

So how do you weigh a blogging relationship? Is it based off one comment and the response, or lack thereof?

Do you base it off regular visits or nothing at all?

-Opinionated Man


You took the time…

I think one of the most important aspects of blogging is “you took the time.” I can’t count how many instances where I have visited a blog and seen something cool enough to warrant a “I can’t believe they took the time to do that! So cool!” It is noticeable in life and in blog when you take the time to do something with care or come up with new ways of doing old things. So many ideas are washed down the drain because the blogger thought it wasn’t worth the time or that no one would care to notice.

I take the time to visit as many blogs as I can. I want people to see that and say to themselves “wow… he took the time.” It is really that simple and that connection is so easily missed with networking. The grinders, the doers, the ones out actively networking and meeting new bloggers each day are the ones growing their platform.

I get it.

It is very easy to get stuck or to get into a place where you no longer put in the effort you once did. Time gets taken away or you have other things to do.

The problem with blogging is that it is very much a momentum driven activity and endeavor. The moment you stop pushing your blog is the moment it stops caring to move and becomes stagnant regardless how large your subscriber list is. Taking the time to keep it moving is what it is all about.



Narcissistic Me

I was never called a narcissist until I became a blogger. I often wonder if my subscriber number was lower if that same accusation would be thrown at me. It is the same with opinions really, if no one were reading and commenting on my opinions no one would care. They would roll their eyes and shrug them off, but because I will often have a 50% appreciation rate (yea I made that term up) people get butt hurt and feel the need to crusade. And when I say crusade I am actually not speaking of religion this time, I am most definitely speaking of those that carry particular banners.

I love it when I come across a post or a blogger comment in which they say “that OM is such a narcissistic loser! Always carrying on about powerblogging and reveling in the positive comments he receives.” Honestly kind words are a dime a dozen online and I don’t write to have people say I am great. It is even more amusing when those SAME BLOGGERS say “I am just here to promote my book when it releases next year.” Well don’t email me for help with that pumpkin because you already have a piss poor attitude. You won’t ever succeed with the mindset you currently have.

We all have narcissistic tendencies and that isn’t always a bad thing. We all need motivation and there are many kind humans out there ready to offer a positive word of encouragement or a helping hand. That is not a bad thing and the people that say it is are far more cynical in nature than I. And I am one of the greatest out there. If you want to promote yourself or push your dream do so! Do it! Don’t get weighted down by the haters and the idiots saying “you need to care more about ____ or ____.” Fuck those people. Those same individuals probably moan to their spouses at night about how others get a shot and they don’t. Well maybe you people should stop shooting yourself in the damn foot.