A difference of opinions

My life as a blogger has been somewhat of a roller coaster, much of which was by my own design.

I entered the world of blogging much like other bloggers, full of opinion and eager to share it. I had no bar, I had no goal at first. I just wanted to share the thoughts in my head that never go to bed.

Fast forward to 2019. After three years of sharing my every thought I learned a few things. Here’s what I learned.

1 – No one gives a shit. Unless somehow it relates to them.

2 – People are assholes.

3 – Jealousy turns people into assholes.

4 – You can show a horse water, but you can’t make that bastard drink.

When you set out to powerblog, which I started out as here, you have to remember that people don’t always give a shit. We get so excited, be it a writer, photographer, or whatever type of blogger you are, in this idea that everyone is gonna care about what you care about. We think of amazing posts, viral posts, that everyone can relate to. Everyone needs this advice we think!

But then no one likes it, or it reaches your threshold for minimal views, and you realize after rereading it a fifth time that it wasn’t that funny. It really doesn’t make sense at all. I should probably delete this shit, I can’t believe I posted it. Holy shit, did my subscriber count just change! No!!!!!!!

Maybe it isn’t that dramatic, but you get the idea.

Six years ago my kids were still very young, barely talking. In 2019 I can’t escape opinions. I get them at home, I get them at work. Then Trump gets elected. I get a promotion at my job. And inevitably I’m pretty fucking tired of opinions and people in general.

Time. Time is one of those factors you really can’t substitute. If you don’t have the time to invest to really push your blog, it isn’t going anywhere. People try to substitute time with things like great photos, awesome artwork, or even humorous posts. If you aren’t blogging to push those posts, however, it doesn’t matter how hilarious you are or how great that art is. No one is going to see it because you failed to invest time to make them seen. Like I said, there’s no substitute for time and I’m out of that every week nowadays.

I once said I valued opinions and the sharing of opinion. I once had a blog where people could do that and thousands did each day. That’s how I got to this mark.

Today, in 2019, a different day has emerged. I know we all have a difference of opinions. Lately I just don’t give a fuck about everyone’s thoughts and my fingers move on their own in this blogosphere, on my website.

I blog now because I just must.

But now I blog for myself.

Jason Chandler Cushman

-Opinionated Man

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HarsH ReaLiTy – One Year Anniversary

Technically the one year anniversary for HarsH ReaLiTy is not for another day and a half, however, WordPress prompted me to go ahead and renew early when I changed my credit card. I went ahead and did that just now so I will go ahead and celebrate the anniversary today.

This is more than just a celebration of my website being up and running for a year. It is actually a reflection upon my first year of blogging in general. Regardless of the rumors or what you may have heard this is my first attempt at blogging for an audience and I have had a fun ride of it so far. When I purchased my premium package last January I will admit I did it because I was afraid someone would steal my account. I was very worried that I would lose the 300 subscribers I had worked so hard for. Looking back I laugh a little bit at how little I knew about WordPress and blogging as a whole. We all have to start somewhere right?

This experience has become so much more than the initial plan of finding a place to write. The relationships and feedback I have received through this website have surpassed even the initial idea of “constructive criticism” I sought when I entered this community. There have been good and bad experiences and definitely many opportunities in which I have learned my own boundaries and limitations. I think blogging can provide a way for people like me to expand their minds and views without having to leave the comfort of their own home. Sometimes the very act of wading through humanity is daunting enough to stifle any thoughts of venturing forth from the safety of our caves.

I feel like my writing has grown over the past year. Since I have removed my previous year’s work, it may be hard for newcomers to determine this, but the beauty is that there are readers on this website that watched me start from day one. Those people I can only hope have appreciated the evolution that is this website and the ever evolving style of my own writing. I love to push my limits and to try new things, it would be a boring “hobby” if I only stuck with writing things I knew I did well.

I must admit I have really enjoyed having two blogs so far. I feel like I don’t really have two websites, just one large one. I hope it isn’t too annoying having to jump across from one website to another, but my plan is for “A Good Blog is Hard to Find” to be an equal to HarsH ReaLiTy in the near future. I appreciate the support and the encouragement with my new site from all of those that have read it.

Here’s to another year of writing. There is nothing else I would rather be doing.

-Opinionated Man