1) Cleaning up dog poop from your front yard when you don’t own a damn dog.
2) Paying for dental work when you can’t see inside your own mouth and that blurry black and white photo they showed you could have been abstract art.
3) Paying taxes for last year because apparently you are privileged to be middle class, but don’t feel very privileged or middle of anything.
4) Explaining why the tooth fairy forgot this time.
5) Having an hour long political debate because you were stupid enough to make an offhand statement on current events as an icebreaker.
6) Going to eat pho with your non Asian friend and finally explaining after the hundredth question that you actually aren’t Vietnamese and don’t know what all the stuff in the bowl is. It just tastes good.
7) Explaining your job to someone that assumes they already know your job. Yes I was in the Air Force, no I didn’t fly planes. Yes I work in IT, no I can’t fix your motherboard.
8) Going in for an endoscopy and finding out it’s actually a colonoscopy.
9) Doing End of the Year reviews and then having to do first quarter reviews and expectations literally two weeks later.
10) Helping someone troubleshoot their cell phone issues when they start the conversation with “your people didn’t make this one very well.”
I had a talk with the girls today on what a safe space is. How our home is our safe space and sometimes we need to be cognizant of the struggles each other are going through to keep it that way. I explained how we will have days that are better than others and that we all need a place where we feel like we can escape everything bothering us – that is home. That is our safe space.
We have this mental image of children running to their rooms and slamming the door to find peace and quiet. I hope that door for my kids can be the front door and they’ll always find solace in all the rooms of my house. My family is by no means perfect, but that’s my personal goal when I refer to safe space and my kids.
The reason this came up is because my girls are unfortunately getting to the age where other kids tease people about liking a boy.
One of my daughters was then upset that the teasing kept happening at home from her sibling and she was contemplating whether the friendship was worth it. That’s where the safe space conversation came into play.
I remember my own childhood fairly well as is evident from some of my past posts. We all need a place we can escape from the jokes we get tired of, the annoying looks and everything that bothers us.