Gentle

Saturday, a gentle breeze, I feel it deep in me.

A summer breeze, can it be, peaceful misery.

Winter set, on summer set, waking up the mind.

Past times, of future times, a life on rewind.

Gently now, please gentle now, fingertips in the glade.

One finger then, not the middle again, let the passion fade.

Come swiftly back, please come back, back to our home.

Don’t leave me here, past memory clear, left all alone.

-OM

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Life of an adoptee

“No I don’t celebrate Chinese New Year.”

“Martial arts? I know how to swing a stick. Does that count?”

“Yes I’ve eaten kimchi. I’m adopted, not dead.”

“No I can’t show your son how to use chopsticks. He can’t even use a fork.”

“No I’m not Japanese.”

“No I’m not Vietnamese.”

“Yes I’m Korean. Yes… I’m sure…

No… not North Korea…”

“Yes I realize Cushman isn’t a Korean name.

Yes… I’m really sure I’m Jason Chandler Cushman…”

“Yea… that’s my mom. No… I’m not half white. Yes… … I’m sure…”

“No I didn’t steal this credit card. Yes, I have my drivers license to prove it.”

“No I don’t have a green card. Yes I realize immigrants should have one. I’m nationalized. Yes… I’m sure. Ok… I’ll get my paperwork, been here since I was 3.”

“Yes I speak English and understand what you are saying. No… I don’t require a translator.

Yes… I still understand and follow the conversation at hand.”

“No I don’t have an opinion on Chinese Communism and history unless you want to discuss the Silk Road and the Boxer rebellion which I wrote papers on in college.”

“Yes I’ve briefly been to Japan on the way to Korea. Yes I like sushi.”

“No I don’t speak Korean. Because I was adopted. Well… I didn’t choose that route. It was sort of chosen for me.”

“Yes I realize I should learn to speak Korean someday. I’d also like to learn to be a botanist someday, all in good time I suppose.”

“I changed my name because no one would be able to spell my Korean name and I’d get irritated daily because of it. I basically saved myself a lifetime of irritation. Yes… I’m still proud to be Korean.”

“I’m rooting for both teams… no I don’t feel a need to pick between the USA and Korea, I hope for a good game.

This isn’t a war, I don’t have to choose sides ok? Fuck off!”

-Opinionated Man

Leadership

The moment we start to fail at praising and recognizing the contributions of our team members is the day we become just another individual in their day.

Individuals are part of the work in life and become just part of the noise.

Leaders are supposed to be more than that.

-OM

Sighhhh

My 9 year old beat me in a race this weekend.

To add insult and actual injury… I fell and am now aware of just how close to 40 I’m getting. Should anyone want to contact me in the future please visit me at the Redwall Nursing Home on Pity Lane.

-OM

Machiavelli

Machiavelli taught me that you never worry about the bubble you live in, you work in. If you are only worried about the six inches before your face, you have no concern about your hindsight and you definitely have no foresight for the pitfalls before you. If you’ve ever read The Prince you understand that the politics of the mind are far greater than the politics of the moment. Controlling yourself and your outcome is the only way to truly control your future. That’s the only way to really dispel the fog of war.

-OM

Special box

What’s your special box look like?

The place you put the important things. Doesn’t have to be money, doesn’t have to be valuable, but they are normally full of valuable items to you. A box of memories, treasures greater than gold. One of the first things you’d grab in the event of a fire.

-OM

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