Opinionated Man

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I was born in Pusan, South Korea and was left on a street when I was 3 years old. I was adopted and lived my early childhood in Jackson, Mississippi which was… interesting. I moved to Memphis, TN around the first grade and although similar in some ways, Memphis was very different in others. My adopted parents are white. My mom is a writer and my father is a doctor, I have an adopted sister who is Korean as well, and I have a white adopted brother. I am the middle child.

I grew up playing competitive soccer, golf, and gymnastics. I hate baseball so I guess I will never be “American.” Something about small hard objects being thrown at my face does not appeal to me. I was never tall enough when I was younger and did not get picked often to play basketball. They would say “we will takkkkkkeeee… Cindy!!!” “DAMMIT!!!” Growing up with all white friends and black school mates was a bummer because I was generally in the lower 25% in height and weight. A fact that was readily apparent in physical altercations, but I will say that I gave as good as I got. I grew up white which really is the simple truth. I didn’t even eat Asian food, and yes I say Asian here because I wasn’t Korean at the time.

I attended the University of Tennessee at Knoxville and quickly went from a good student to a below average student. Mainly because for some reason to do well in school you have to attend class, a concept that passed me by. I did not do well in college mostly because of anger at my birth mom, which I discovered in 2000. I still have not met her or talked to her and she has kept me from ever meeting my older sister, whom I didn’t know existed till 2000 as well. It took me 12 years to move past that. I still like soju though… so at least I have a comforting companion.

I enjoy writing, poetry, history, animal shows, ESPN, a few regular shows, and I also LOVE Anthony Bourdain. If I could meet him I would, he has inspired me in many ways. I would also love to meet Robert Jordan, W.E.B. Griffin, and Raymond E. Feist, my three favorite authors. Unfortunately I will have to wait a bit to meet Jordan, RIP we will always miss you Robert. Your light still shines.

Currently I work in information technology under the yoke of Corporate Rule… but maybe one day I will be able to be a real writer. Right now I do not consider myself a writer at all, in fact I would say I am an amateur pretending to be a writer. I will accept the title of blogger though, that I suppose I have earned. I enjoy scotch, 12 years or even older if I can afford it. Famous Grouse is my favorite brand because it is cheap, but if I could drink Macallen every day I would. Unfortunately my Crohn’s keeps me from drinking too much of that, probably a good thing.

What else… this is beginning to sound pretty frivolous. I like debate and I admire conviction and passion in anyone. I dislike people that throw facts around without basis, or that try to validate themselves by throwing up hypothetical statements. That to me is the most annoying thing ever. I guess I am more human than I thought.

I currently live in Colorado with my wife and two daughters. It snows here. I hate snow. Anyways, that is pretty much me.

This blog was created January 3rd, 2013.

Jason C. Cushman

-Opinionated Man

@smokendust

aopinionatedman@gmail.com

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  1. I love snow. I love harsh things such as freezing my fingers off ice fishing.

    You remind me of my son, very “Asian” in appearance but he’s a total hippie (a dead head) and 6’2″ (he got my height). I’ve been following your blog a while and wanted to reach out. Your story, the way you describe it here, is very matter-of-fact and I appreciate that!

    My children are half Japanese actually…maybe your age. I married a Japanese man in 1982 at the age of 18. Turns out, that back then, the culture was just ramping up the whole “cutie” trend that you see now is a big seller making Japan the coolest country on earth and a destination for every geek. Well I got caught up in that “cutie” thing as my husband obviously liked young girls and tried to keep me behaved. This led to a great big mess as you might image.

    Not to bum you out or anything, but I’m always trying to get the word out about what happens when a young person goes headlong into a culture and accepts customs and practices that they normally would not– harmful things. This is what led me to write our story. “The Six-Foot Bonsai.” (You see I was 6′ tall but ended up quite small by manipulation and training.). Would you as a prolific super blogger give me a shout? If you would I’d be so grateful and I’ll reply with my links.

    Bonsai

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  2. Dear Santa,

    ALL I WANTED 4 Christmas was for just Christmas 4 my “Estranged Family Members” LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE! LOL…LOL. So sorry and I see you caught and deleted my nephew, Matthew Lake’s nasty comment her left here on your blog.

    I have my family BLOCKED for years way before my book came out and so they try to find any AVE to be nasty and rude even after 4 years now that my book has been published. So sorry for that Jason!……

    I have no idea what he is talking about as to an “Email or FB Post?” as I have had no contact in years except after my Memoir was published???? They don’t understand nor want to about addiction/recovery and mental health. They have the mindset that if a problem or something they are not uncomfortable with (me in recovery and live with mental health challenges) or it is not in front of them or present? they chose to ignore, take no accountability or confront to discuss it. So we have been estranged for years. So, again sorry for him coming to comment. I think he thought it was my blog???

    (Just wanted you to know what it was about and don’t have to approve this one either, just wanted you to read and delete to say I was sorry) XOXO Cat Lyon “-)

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  3. OM, very interesting bio. I too went to school in Memphis until I went in the military. I did spent two years in Denver going to tech school. I think it was always cold there (and here in Kentucky as well), but with the mountains I never got lost. Very interesting reading … I look forward to future blog posts.
    respectfully,
    g

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  5. hehe, I haven’t been on my laptop in a while. And the wordpress app certainly does like to… just generally be terrible. All the posts are always scattered around by some strange wizardry that somehow makes them think a post from August 15 should be at the very top of the list. So, here I am. Almost a week later only now properly looking at your blog. I hate snow, too. And your makeshift boots certainly don’t look sturdy enough in that picture to go trudging through anything — let alone a good few feet of ice cold death. Maybe you can carve a path out with your sword?

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  6. Jason, you have quite a story! You have every right to be proud of it. I’m new to WordPress myself (just fired up a blog about my current writing journey!) and was THRILLED to stumble across yours. You love Anthony Bourdain?! Bro. He’s an inspiration, isn’t he? His shows are brilliant and Kitchen Confidential is a fascinating read. And ROBERT JORDAN?! That’s my guy. (I know, that triggers WoT fans, so I won’t lay to him any further haha :D) . (on Winter’s Heart at the moment so no spoilers :D). RJ is undoubtedly one of the Greats, and the fact that there’s another WordPresser who recognizes that is awesome. I’ve just subscribed. Best of luck. You clearly have something great here.

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  7. Jason, I’m a relatively new follower and I am really enjoying it. The fact that you speak your mind is actually encouraging to me as I have trouble being as blunt about some things. I’m glad I found your blog.

    On another note, I have a couple of bugaboos (peeves) about grammatical errors, which are admittedly my problem. Your OM title is grammatically incorrect and it bothers me every time I see it. You should say AN Opinionated Man, not A Opinionated Man. Reference: https://owl.english.purdue.edu/owl/resource/591/01/

    Keep writing and teaching us newbies with non-niche blogs how it’s done.

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  8. Hello, Jason!

    I like the way you call yourself- Opinionated Man and it really fits on how your mind thinks.
    By the way, thanks for following me. That means a lot to me as I am a newbie to ‘blogosphere’ (a term which I learned from your blog posts). I do not have my own domain yet because I am still exploring ‘blogosphere’ (man, I really enjoy using this word. LOL). I’ve read your bio because I was looking for an idea on how and what to make and write on my page. And your bio is uniquely written.
    P.S.
    I love your blogs, especially your poems. I also write poetry. I would love to hear your comments too on my blog. And one more thing, how do you get tons of followers? So far, I only have two 😦

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  9. I love the Wheel of Time! … just finished re-reading it and sad that it’s over….by the way – I had lot of problems with acid reflux and food allergies – and got fed up with doctors…just started chewing my food 30-40 times each bite and everything’s settling down – don’t know if you want to try it for reducing the symptoms of Chron’s?

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  11. I’ve followed your blog for a while but never read your bio until this moment. I knew about your sister because of a post that I reblogged. I now have more insight and really appreciate your writing and how “real” you are in the land of FAKE. You inspire me to blog! I have so many thoughts to share and people to collaborate with before I pass from this life. Thanks again!

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  12. When I read this I thought I was reading or heard the voice of a confused teenager. I guess that’s normal if you’re a writer? A silly voice inside your head that predisposes you to think this person is still in a certain age. You’re a really good writer! It made me believe you were something else but when I read at the bottom you were married with kids I almost didn’t believe it! Your writing voice is powerful. I wish I could write like you, but we’re all unique and different and if you think your not a writer then stop. Because as far as I can tell you can really catch the heart and sympathy of your readers! I bet you can even do good writing a novel one day! peace! 🙂

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  13. Hi Jason! I just wanted to thank you for following my blog. It means a great deal to me. I enjoyed reading your bio. Your writing is engaging and entertaining. I feel like I can get a glimpse of your inside while laughing with you on the outside.

    I can relate about aspiring to be a “real writer”. Blessed is he/she who can do what he/she loves for a living 🙂

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  15. Nice to meet you, Jason! First of all, I like your style of writing, there is something usual and unusual at the same time, you are very honest and you are able to show your life without showing your picture. You caught my attention! Secondly, I would like to thank you for following my blog, every reader is a treasure for me! Thank you! A very nice start for a new day! Ann

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  18. The I grew up white quote stayed with me. I get what it’s like growing up as the only (or one of few) around a vast majority. I actually just wrote a poem on it. I didn’t want to be disrespectful and link it here. But you should check it out.

    Anyways, keep doing you thing. I look forward to your blogs like many others do!!!

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  19. Hi OM, well, I have a lot of thoughts upon reading this specific article of yours… In a nutshell, well done, sir! I have read your posts before and enjoyed them very much, and finally today, on your sick day (hope you’re getting better by the minute), stumbled upon this page. Your story is very honest and moving. It inspired me to share some of my poetry as well (which I have never done online in the past, thinking of the “sharing” possibilities)… And I have never lived the childhood you did, though at the age of 20, I also moved to the US and had to start my life all over again. That “new life” void needed to be filled and reading / blogging / art were there to help.
    Thanks for stopping by my page. Hope to see more posts from you soon!

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  22. Hello Jason, yes I found your Bio very interesting in the detail. I’m nowhere near as sophisticated as you in the Blogosphere. I’m intrigued how you manage so many followers. I’ll check you out some more. For now though – pleased to meet you and I’m from South Africa where I guess Color of skin is not taken lightly 🙂 Chevvy

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  24. I can’t believe I never read your bio, although that shouldn’t surprise me because I often forget to do that. It is the hello – this is all about me page! When I take time to get on my Reader (not often enough), I always enjoy reading what you have to say. You are an excellent writer, so don’t give up on the dream 🙂 I’m curious as to what type of book you would like to write?!

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  28. enjoying catching up on your blog…found your bio fascinating as I was married to an orphan from South Korea who was adopted by white Irish-Catholic parents in New York. They also had another adopted son from SK as well as two daughters of their own. Ours was an interesting union and we have remained friends although not still married. Anyway, enjoy your writing and the platform that you give to other’s like myself trying to put passion to verse. Thank you!!

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  29. I love the bio. I always love your honesty. Thank you for allowing me to talk about myself here unapologetically. I am a writer and advocate for children with chronic illnesses and their families. My blog: http://iamnotsickboy.com in honor of my son who lost his battle with chronic illnesses much too soon. With education and some important changes, we can make the necessary changes in our broken healthcare system!
    My second blog: http://strawberriesforever.com is where I put my personal writings, poems, and photos. Hope to see you soon.

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  31. LOL! I love this: “My goal with this blog is to offend everyone in the world at least once with my words… so no one has a reason to have a heightened sense of themselves. We are all ignorant, we are all found wanting, we are all bad people sometimes.”

    I know! Just as Barnabas Collins might say. Thanks!

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  32. Hi Jason,
    Thanks for following my blog! I hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I have just enjoyed reading some of your posts 🙂 You definitely don’t write like an amateur! Your “we will takkkkkkeeee… Cindy!” “DAMMIT!” really made me chuckle, I’ve definitely been there! I look forward to reading many more of your posts.
    Kind regards,
    Debra

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  33. Hello, Opinionated Man! Thank you so much for following my blog!
    I truly hope you like my writing and my stories, since I am really enjoying your posts. Also, let me tell you I appreciate every single like I have gotten from you so far. It really means a lot.
    Have a wonderful day x

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  34. Thank you for stopping by and following my blog. I am really looking forward to discovering your blog more. I am adopted as well and find it interesting what paths in life others are taking. It certainly is not an easy start to life. It seems to get easier as years go by. I wish you luck with your writing and aspirations.

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  35. Hey Jason, I want to express my gratitude for you following my page. feel free to keep in contact. I like your style of writing. Also your spoken word. Maybe it would be cool if there were audiobooks books available “out there” that were spoken by you. Anyway, I would love constructive criticism of my work. feel free to help.

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  37. Hey, your blog is great. Especially, the posts about feminism – they’re hilarious and close to the truth at the same time. I have written a few posts about pseudo-feminism myself and I can relate to you. Keep going.
    -Leela

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  39. I love reading your blogs. I finally got around to reading the about the author section and am floored by how much we have in common (I promise that was not a pick up line). I just don’t know many other “abandoned” South Koreans who like food, who grew up White, and who write! 🙂 Anyways, I just wanted to let you know that I love reading what you throw out there!

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  40. Jason, this is a most interesting blog. Must admit to reading an entire post without understand very much of it but then there are others that I have learnt from and things that I am now aware of from reading them. Thank you for sharing your story. Many of us who’s experienced similar life events are grateful for your openness.

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  42. Interesting! To be honest, I hated your blog at first. The appearance, your posts and especially the frequency with which you posted. But now, for quite some time, I’m loving your posts and everything you write. I’m hilarious and is fun to read. I love your blog Jason 😀 Will it marry mine? Just kidding! Only, why don’t you allow kid guest post bloggers? I want to share one of my poem so bad with you!

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  44. Hey Opinionated Man. Beautiful family. I just wanted to drop in and apologize for being an ignorant ass the first time we talked. I’ve been watching your blog and you’re ready helping a lot of people. Giving them strength to keep blogging. Keep up the awesome work!

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  45. You’re such a handsome and amazing person Jason. We need more people like you in the world who’s paying it forward with motivation rather than money. Stay true, thank YOU! 🙂

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  48. I found you through Lucky Otter. Wondered what you were so opinionated about, so I clicked on your Author Bio to find out. Now I’m angry at your birth mother, too.

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  50. Thanks for the follow, I look forward to reading more of your site,,, I’m new at this, it’s been a struggle trying to figure out the aesthetics of site building, to make it presentable,, plus WTF is a plugin!??😁😳 I thought it might be something naughty,,, lol,, anyhow,, watch and follow me, I plan on becoming the next Anthony Bourdain; female version,,, 😎

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  52. Thanks for sharing your story. It is amazing that you have moved past the anger at your birth mom. I think mastering forgiveness is one of the most difficult things on this planet. Congratulations for that achievement ( and also for your very successful blog, of course).

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      • I was hesitating what to answer.But now that I read your post on your upbringing with faith, I’ll give it a try.
        I’m sorry to hear that you are sill angry.
        That stuff is really hard to forgive.
        I want to share what has helped me recently. I have read two books by Robert Schwartz about pre-incarnation planning, Your Soul’s Plan and Your Soul’s Gift. They contain heart-wrenching real life accounts of people who had to go through major challenges in life. And they contain interviews with psychic mediums who have access to the dialogues of the pre-birth planning sessions.
        It turned out that most of our suffering here was planned before. That blew my mind. There was some higher good for all the challenges. Mainly to make us turn inside and find out about our true eternal nature as love.
        If you are open to this kind of stuff, maybe you find comfort in these books as well. (The second book even contains Jesus channelings by Pam Kribbe).

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  53. Hi, Opinionated Man, you’ve subscribed to my website 8 months ago. I am currently moving my subscribers to a new Newsletter that will be a 100% better than before, 1st you’ll receive less e-mails (About 1 a week). 2nd: all the information of the week will be in that same e-mail, so no e-mail each time I post a new article… And finally I’m sure you’re going to love it because it will feature a beautiful design you’ll love, with pictures, text, hyperlinks and more, all of that in one e-mail. So please, if you want to change the method you receive your e-mail, click on the link below and subscribe ! Once you will be subscribed, it shouldn’t take more than 48 hours for your account to be removed from the older method. (I am commenting on your website because there is no other way to contact you 😉)

    Thanks for your time and keep Simming !

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  55. So glad you are back . I just read this about page. I can’t believe they would suspend you for FOLLOWING someone. I follow a lot of people. I don’t always respond to them, or like them, but I do read as much as I can. And what I want to read. Guess I better not follow too many. I am so slow in figuring out things about anything. I am still trying to figure out how to use some of the widgets. I don’t want to have to worry about following people I like and want to follow.

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  56. Hello OM, I’ve just nominated you for a Liebster Award. I don’t know that you care about this at this point, but to me it was another small way to let you know that you and your blog are loved and respected. Don’t flame me 😛 . Cheers 😉

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  58. Hey I noticed you have a picture slideshow widget! What’s the shortcode for that? Or is it one of the widgets WordPress offers? Me want!

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  59. I just noticed you changed your theme back! Yippee! The OM I know and love has returned! (Oops didn’t mean to say the L word, your bio said not to 😉 )

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      • Well if I’d been visiting your blog for the first time, I would have liked it. It’s not so congested. But you have a brand going with your congested look, and I had a feeling I knew what your theme change really hinted at. It was sad to see the revolutionary opinionated man defeated at last…so I missed the congested theme, the one you have now. Call me crazy, but it’s the truth.

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  60. So, I read a couple different blog posts, all referencing your suspension but none of them explain why. Is there a blog that says what happened? I’m genuinely interested, because you were one of the first bloggers to reach out to me. And, as an adoptive mom, I have a vested interest in continuing to be friends with you. I have to find out how you turned out SO RIGHT. 🙂 I don’t really know why they tried to take you out, but I’m glad you’re still here!

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  61. Oh, OM. I’ve never liked your page, so I never read it. That is my choice as a reader, obviously. I was, however, ready to organize a virtual march on WordPress in order to save your blog. Although I don’t like your words, I’d fight to the death for your right to say them.
    Corny but true.
    If your page was shut down, (for being spammy? For real?) then what? It’s a slippery slope and I’m glad to see you back.
    You know, in an existential kind of way.

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  62. I read on a fellow bloggers site a reblogged post regarding the “take down” of your blog and now of it’s subsequent up and running status. Curious as to why the uproar, I wanted to come visit. Like you, I am adopted, I too have had to come to terms with a birthmother’s choice and move forward.
    I appreciate your honesty and look forward to reading more—
    Sending warmer days to Colorado from Georgia—
    Julie

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  63. Hi, everyone. I am so excited that the suspension has been lifted off HARSH REALITY. Word Press had no clue who they were messing with. Glad to have you back OM. We, and I hope I am speaking for every blogger here, are happy to see the suspension lifted because – yes, we need you. Now, there I have said it. Most of us newbies who have tuned into to Harsh Reality are still here because not only did you inspire and motivate us but you helped us by opening your blog up to us. My own sites have benefited greatly as a result and for that I am thankful. Having said that, I want to tell everyone about two new sites I have been working on. One is for children called Soap Stone Creek Literary Journal for kids of all ages http://soapstonecreekjournal.com/. This site represents our print magazine debuting in May 2015 and yes, we are sending out a call for submissions from children writers around the world. We also accept stories and artwork from children of all ages. Email me and I will gladly send you information about our new blogsite and print kids journal. soapstonecreekjournal@gmail.com.
    I am also working on a Christian site – visit the link to see what we’re up to. https://lighthouseonthehillliteraryjournal.wordpress.com/.
    Thanks OM for another opportunity to toot my horn – you’re the best and Word Press knows what’s best for them, they better leave you be!
    Hey, our families could have been neighbors! I was born in Alabama!
    Warmest Wishes
    Marcella

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  64. OM, a friend of mine asked the folks over at Blogging 101 The Commons to clarify what’s going on here with the following limitations and such. She was told that the ability to follow and like has been restored to people like you and storytimewithjohn, who was also affected. Is that true? And are you gonna come back to us? I missed the old blog layout 🙂

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      • I didn’t take the news very well at all. It was my pleasure, setting the facts straight. Hope you’re doing all right. I was going to nominate you for the Versatile Blogger Award, but I thought you might want your space. I was glad that Ritu nominated you, though. You really deserve it.

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  66. That’s about as straight forward a bio I’ve ever read. I enjoy the honesty and emotion. It’s an excellent take of life. None of the flowery bs were all inundated with on a daily basis. Just the facts ma’am, just the facts. Wishing you well.

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