Just don’t look for it

I learned a hard lesson as a blogger a couple years ago.

Just don’t look for it.

The ‘it’ is of course the criticism and sometimes hate out there about you.

When I was really pushing the traffic towards this blog I used a matrix to search and protect my blog as well. This enabled me to often find when my posts were being stolen. Yes, believe it or not, some poor soul out there thought my mediocre writing was worth lifting simply because I had replugged and respun the shit out of a couple posts as a personal challenge to see how many times I could get them read. One post had close to half a million views and “people” began stealing it to try and get that same traffic. This is actually common in the blogging world.

The other thing I began to find were posts criticizing me and my blog.

At first I was shocked. I mean, I’m a normal guy and an average blogger, so I couldn’t fathom why people would spend the time to post criticism about me.

People will. They don’t care. It’s online. I was immature. I fought back. I got in trouble twice. I learned my lesson. Twice…

If you are a new blogger I would advise you to steel that backbone. For some people criticism is a new thing believe it or not. Walls just kind of fall down in front of them and the wind never pushes them… they push the wind. For the rest of us we deal with it daily because we are probably around people that think we are inadequate. And that’s no different here.

I don’t powerblog anymore so I have no reason to do my searches. Besides, it never changes and I’ve learned now, today, that I don’t deal with criticism that well and I’m working on it. I’m working on that ‘wanting to hug people’ thing too, but I wouldn’t hold my breath.

Just don’t look for it. Why?

-Opinionated Man

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Blogging 104 – Following bloggers

No.

Not actually “following” their blog.

Literally following the virtual trail they’ve left… then sliding around them as you slip into their domain.

I do it all the time. It’s the easiest way to find new blogs, but it takes a certain type of blogger to make these types of connections.

You see most bloggers examine everything too closely.

“Well why did that person like my post?”

“Well why did they like only one…”

“Is it even a real person?”

“What real person calls themselves Fuckadoodle?”

“Can’t be a real blogger… must be a bot.”

Instead of going to “meet and greet” they are examining why the world turns as the world turns around them.

Me on the other hand, I take connection opportunities for what they are worth. A random blogger drops a like, even just one, and I’m hovering my app… I’ll sneak over. I’ll go through their door since it’s open… they left it open when they visited my website.

And I’ll see that it is indeed a real person, often a new blogger. I’ll normally tap on their shoulder in some way and I’ll say “hey, I saw you pass by and wanted to return the favor.” Another connection is made and that’s how you get to 100,000 subscribers if that’s really your goal. That’s how you build whatever it is you want to build.

It’s that simple and it doesn’t matter the size of your media reach. If you aren’t going to grind it out, you won’t ever sustain growth in this game.

-Opinionated Man

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A difference of opinions

My life as a blogger has been somewhat of a roller coaster, much of which was by my own design.

I entered the world of blogging much like other bloggers, full of opinion and eager to share it. I had no bar, I had no goal at first. I just wanted to share the thoughts in my head that never go to bed.

Fast forward to 2019. After three years of sharing my every thought I learned a few things. Here’s what I learned.

1 – No one gives a shit. Unless somehow it relates to them.

2 – People are assholes.

3 – Jealousy turns people into assholes.

4 – You can show a horse water, but you can’t make that bastard drink.

When you set out to powerblog, which I started out as here, you have to remember that people don’t always give a shit. We get so excited, be it a writer, photographer, or whatever type of blogger you are, in this idea that everyone is gonna care about what you care about. We think of amazing posts, viral posts, that everyone can relate to. Everyone needs this advice we think!

But then no one likes it, or it reaches your threshold for minimal views, and you realize after rereading it a fifth time that it wasn’t that funny. It really doesn’t make sense at all. I should probably delete this shit, I can’t believe I posted it. Holy shit, did my subscriber count just change! No!!!!!!!

Maybe it isn’t that dramatic, but you get the idea.

Six years ago my kids were still very young, barely talking. In 2019 I can’t escape opinions. I get them at home, I get them at work. Then Trump gets elected. I get a promotion at my job. And inevitably I’m pretty fucking tired of opinions and people in general.

Time. Time is one of those factors you really can’t substitute. If you don’t have the time to invest to really push your blog, it isn’t going anywhere. People try to substitute time with things like great photos, awesome artwork, or even humorous posts. If you aren’t blogging to push those posts, however, it doesn’t matter how hilarious you are or how great that art is. No one is going to see it because you failed to invest time to make them seen. Like I said, there’s no substitute for time and I’m out of that every week nowadays.

I once said I valued opinions and the sharing of opinion. I once had a blog where people could do that and thousands did each day. That’s how I got to this mark.

Today, in 2019, a different day has emerged. I know we all have a difference of opinions. Lately I just don’t give a fuck about everyone’s thoughts and my fingers move on their own in this blogosphere, on my website.

I blog now because I just must.

But now I blog for myself.

Jason Chandler Cushman

-Opinionated Man

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Five Years of HarsH ReaLiTy

 

 

Well I guess it is that time again. I’m going to renew the site one more time and see where we go from there.

I just can’t bring myself to let https://aopinionatedman.com/ go and it become some online pine cone store. For the guy in the back that just thought… ‘what the fuck is an online pine cone store???’ Man… you just ain’t been living.

A blog is not a single post. A single post can get you famous of course… fame is such a loose term these days, but it can definitely accomplish that for normally the wrong reasons. A true blog paints a whole picture of what a blogger is or is becoming, or it should if a blogger is honest. Most bloggers aren’t.

I find it to be fun to own a website, in general, and call it your own. That’s what this blog is. Most people don’t think that is a big deal and that’s cool, they can have their opinion. Over there. The reason I still putter along over here is because a website never dies.

It only becomes an online pine cone store if you don’t pay the $150 to reup.

Let’s see what 2019 brings.

Jason Chandler Cushman

-Opinionated Man

-OM

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The Truth about Blogging

“You have so many subscribers but I never see many comments or likes. How’d you get your follower count so high?”

What didn’t I do?

I got my first 4,000 subscribers by telling them I knew the secret to blogging. They told their friends and now everyone is waiting for that secret. I’ve been claiming I’m going to reveal it for some time now. It does wonders for your views because “they” keep coming back expecting to see the secret of blogging!

The next 4,000 followers came when I revealed my new religion. Creating a new religion is easy online and people are willing to follow anything.

10,000 followers came from my YouTube videos. I have an amazing singing voice and I can’t help people think my dancing is amazeballs.

I wrote an ebook once. It was actually just my posts compiled as a book because I’m a lazy tard. I got 12.5 new readers from that move, but me thinks they may not really be readers.

1,000,000 views came from simply withholding my name for a couple years and promising it was going to be spectacular when I revealed it. It wasn’t. My name is Jason Chandler Cushman. Feel the amazement? … Well that’s probably why no one kept following after that.

I went self hosted and all three readers I currently have followed me. I ported over my subscribers to the self hosted site and then changed my mind and came back here. Then I changed my mind and went back to self hosted… then was again like ‘eh’ and came back. Now everyone probably thinks this site is written by my not as famous uncle Fred who really just wants to make paper airplanes.

What are we at? Like 22,000? The rest came from advertising that I’ll do personal favors I never did. If you make it exciting… people get excited. And they follow you around until they realize you are just a tease.

That about covers it. If you are ever curious why my subscriber count is so high and the comments/likes so low that’s why. I should have followed through on some of those personal favors.

-OM

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