Facing Criticism

It is inevitable that at some point someone is going to challenge what you are blogging. It doesn’t matter if you share photos, food, hand puppets, or you are writing your heart out… someone will take the time to care and let you know they care about what you are doing. We love it actually and praise is awesome right? It makes us feel like superheros and we run around with our fists thrust forward pretending to fly. Or is that just me…

One day somebody told me to “stop trying to write poetry. Stop writing “word strings” or whatever silly name you made up. It isn’t good.”

You have a few choices on how you act in the face of criticism. Some people get quietly offended, some go private, some ignore the comment, some press SPAM on the comment, some hit the person in the fucking face with a medium sized frying pan from aisle 13 at Walmart…

Contrary to popular belief I am not very excitable. I know my poetry is horrible and I write it anyways because I want to. And this is my blog, I don’t subscribe to the idea that you ever “lose” your website to your audience. I think that is a bunch of bullshit. Even if this was a religious website and you were all my disciples I wouldn’t just “hand my blog over” to our deity… I’d become the fucking deity. Where were your spiritual hands when all the work was being done?

I treat humans the same way. I write a lot of open ended blog posts on blogging to share my thought process, but for the most part I know what I am doing. I am happy with what I am doing.

So how do you face criticism? That seems to be the topic of the day and in a society so ready to tell us their criticisms… what better way to prepare for life.

-OM

@smokendust

34 thoughts on “Facing Criticism

  1. I think poetry is subjective. A thousand people could like it and then thereโ€™s always that one. I write a lot of pretty shit poetry too. It is there because I try to keep a momentum going, then suddenly one day thereโ€™s a half decent one. Itโ€™s a show of process. At the end of the day as long as you enjoy what youโ€™re doing, that is what matters most.

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    • That’s what blogs are for. I assume that people also assume I should write at a certain standard at this point…
      Which is why I purposefully posts “tweets” to disabuse that notion. I still view this blog as a playground. ๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

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  2. I think I’m one of those who would simply reply and let them know that it’s my blog and I can do what I want, but thank them for their opinion. I can take constructive critism, as long as it’s not overly negative.

    I’ve always believed that Poetry’s beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I wouldn’t criticise it either. It’s like, if you don’t like it, don’t read it. I think it’s bad to tell someone to stop doing something creative. Doesn’t seem right… just my opinion! โค

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  3. I like your take on this! I’ve noticed a flood of criticisms / drama / stalker like behaviour / comments over the last week or 2 and have pondered the ‘what to dos’ lol. I’ve spammed 2x, deleted 2x, ignored slash ‘not moderated’ thrice. But came to a similar conclusion – my blog, my domain and as long as I’m doing what I need / want, then it’s all good.

    Btw … if your poetry is shite then mines double shite … but I’m aight with that as I’m sure you are too ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. If I’m being criticized by family, I have no force field against it. It penetrates. It hurts. And I therefore continue in that relationship, but at arms length. With like, people in my writing group, I’ve learned those that over critique and sit straighter when they do – it makes them feel good. I start doodling and turn them off.

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  5. I try, on good days, to acknowledge their comment and respond respectfully on where we maybe agree and disagree and keep in mind that it’s ok for someone to have an opposing opinion. On bad days however I can get a bit snippy or just ignore them all together. Hey it’s my blog, I can do what I want…;)

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  6. We live in such a different world. If you subject yourself to social media, you are vulnerable, and will be hurt. It’s almost a given. I’d send them to spam and move on. Nobody is forcing them to follow a blog. The issue/problem usually belongs to the one doing the criticism.

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  7. Ah, the good old frying pan, the weapon of choice for all men fighting the soldiers of non-constructive criticism. I, for one, think you should carry on writing word strings; constructive criticism is one of the most useful catalysts for positive change, people being a dick is one of the most useful catalysts for sharp increases in frying pan sales – I suppose it’s up to the critics which one they choose.

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  8. One sage wisdom I hold dear to my heart is “Good writers know how to continue writing while bad writers quit.” To me that sums it up. And as far as poetry goes, I don’t even know what good poetry is anymore considering most of the stuff that gets published is absolute trash.

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