129 thoughts on “The Daily Opinion – Identity 

  1. I use my real name & my handle all over social media. My pic being on the internet is much more rare, there are a couple places I use it for a profile pic, but most places I use my SmallWorlds avatar, usually cut out & pasted onto various backgrounds. The sparing nature of my real pic has been motivated mostly by paranoia, seriously, I watch Criminal Minds…..

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  2. Name and image are genuine. No doubt I struggle at times with what is mine to share and what belongs more to another than to me. I have been asked to reserve parts of myself from all public view, and I have granted one request to do so.

    I am a very private person. I know anything I write holds some truth of my experience, observation, or opinion. I suppose putting my name to what I’m willing to share forces me to examine why I’m sharing it at all. Checks, balances; weights, measures.

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  3. I haven’t used my real name on the Net for decades. It’s just too dangerous in the Wide World of the Web. But on Facebook, of course I use my real name etc., because otherwise my friends wouldn’t know who I am. But I have the timeline and some portions of my profile set to private.

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  4. I use my real first name and pic but not my last name as I don’t wish to mingle my social media. I might one day decide to fully reveal myself, but not today. I don’t want to hear the opinions of my extended family and friends on my writing. Call it cowardly, but I am who I am.

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  5. On Facebook…yes. Here on WP…only once did I share my real name, but I have shown a few photos. I try to separate those 2 worlds, just for privacy and protection of the family members I talk about…mostly, the birth family.

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  6. Sure, there is nothing to fear about sharing your real name and photo on social media, but I think it’s risky to share too much personal information.

    Sharing has always been a prominent part of what the Internet is and how it functions. And with social networks exploding in popularity in the past several years, sharing is probably the one aspect we utilize the most on the web. We share news, information, pictures and experiences, and by doing this we can build and maintain relationships as well as create new connections that we would have otherwise never met or worked with. But can this have adverse affects? Can you share too much information?

    In my opinion, yes, and I get the feeling that most of you would agree (of course if you don’t, I’m open to your thoughts). On many websites, especially social networks, there are literally text fields for every bit of information about you – phone numbers, where you work, where you live, where you go to school, your occupation, age and birthdate, who you know, other methods of contact such as email addresses and other online profiles….the list goes on.

    Rule #1: Don’t Post Anything You Don’t Want Everyone To See

    This is a fundamental that should almost be taught in school alongside Algebra and Biology. It’s important to realize that even if you’ve created filters for your contacts or have your information restricted to only those who follow you or who you approve of, that you should still watch what you share.

    Rule #2: Be Aware & Concerned About Potential Dangers

    Being aware is one thing – sometimes it could just be a lack of knowledge. However, it’s just as important (if not more) to be concerned about those potential dangers. For example, let’s say you know that where you live, you’re at high risk of a break in or robbery – you’re aware. But, you take the approach that you’ll be fine and so you don’t lock your door. You have just increased the odds of your house being broken into tremendously. Now let’s add another aspect – you have a family. You most likely will now lock your doors all the time.

    same way. It can just be just as dangerous, just on different levels. In fact, in some ways it can be even more dangerous because we don’t think of it in the applicable sense that it can be a tool to pry into lives. We think it’ll all be fine, but there are numerous stories of tragedies because someone allowed a little too much information to be shared with the wrong person.

    Location-Specific Statuses and Posts

    Do you use Foursquare or check-in to places on Facebook? Are you aware of who can see these posts? Do you share them publicly? These are important observations to be making. It’s all apart of being concerned and not assuming that you’re safe.

    Oversharing Personal Information

    Some things are just best left unsaid and unshared.

    Sharing your location somewhat falls into this category, however being cautious beyond sharing your location is important. Do you consider who you’re sharing with? Twitter is a rather open platform. There is the option to only show your tweets to those who are following you, who you approve to follow you. However, I find this rather counterproductive to engaging with other users on Twitter. The whole reason you follow someone is because you find what they say interesting. How are you supposed to know if they’re interesting if you don’t know what they’re tweeting about?

    The only exception to this would be if you know them on a personal level and they aren’t a complete stranger. Which brings me to my second point – Twitter is full of strangers. I follow and communicate with more strangers on Twitter than I do actual friends. But I don’t share any personal information. I have a short bio about myself and my tweets typically consist of things based on my interests, not….my debit cards, for instance (yes, some people tweet their debit cards). Once you understand this, it’s easy to see how those who treat Twitter more like a private social network, such as Facebook, are immediately setting themselves up for an attack – online or off. Both are scary.

    Sharing on Facebook is a little different. Like I previously mentioned, it’s typically more private, but that’s not necessarily true. Your privacy depends on you. If you don’t have things properly set and properly hidden, then you could be exposing yourself to the entire Internet. Sure there are things that you definitely should not post and share on your profile, but sometimes it’s deeper than just not sharing things.

    Facebook’s security settings can be somewhat overwhelming due to all of the options there are to help you remain private and secure. But there is a particular setting that I want to mention that can be deceiving and that is the “Friends of Friends” setting. Many times you might think that you would approve of all of the people that your friends are friends with, but keep in mind that with this setting, you are actually giving up a huge chunk of your privacy and depending on your friends’ judgment to stay secure online.

    Rule #3: Don’t Trust Anyone

    The website http://pleaserobme.com takes a somewhat sarcastic, yet still serious approach on the matter of posting too much information. The overall message that I got was that you should never trust anyone on the Internet. Don’t publish your Foursquare updates to your public Twitter account. Don’t tell the world that you will be away from home. Don’t think that it won’t happen to you. These things do happen and if the proper precautions aren’t taken, it could be you too.

    Be responsible about who you share with and what you share. Think of the Internet as a giant space where people of all sorts roam. If this space was a real place that you were in, would you trust everyone with all your secrets, personal information, etc.? Probably not. Another interesting fact is that sites such as Twitter and Facebook and even companies, like banks, aren’t legally obligated to notify you if your information is shared with the Government. According to an article in the Huffington Post:

    In 1976, the Supreme Court in United States versus Miller ruled that a bank did not have to tell a customer that his financial records had been sent to a government agency, in this case the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms. The Supreme Court ruled that the customer did not have to be informed that his records had been turned over to the government, because the records were the property of the bank and, therefore, the customer had no reasonable expectation of privacy.

    Yes – it’s not just burglars and stalkers to worry about – there’s also the Government. Now, I’m not superstitious or a conspiracy theorist, but at the same time, I don’t necessarily want the Government to know everything about me, although they probably already do. It’s just one more aspect to consider and remember that they too, could abuse this power. Are you willing for that to happen to you?

    Conclusion:

    Now that I have pricked your conscience and you’re panicking about being robbed, arrested, followed and stalked, remember that although it’s scary, you do have control. You can do something about your online privacy. You don’t have to have technical skills, just take the time to familiarize yourself with your different accounts’ privacy policies and settings. If you have any questions regarding them, most services and websites would be more than happy to help clarify and answer any questions or concerns you may have.

    Do you feel that you share too much? Have you already started the process to making your online presence more private? Let us know!

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  7. Real name. Better, easier just to be oneself. That said, social media may bring out personas that we adopt more in the online world than in the offline. But that too is being one’s self. (Jason, good question, by the way.)

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  8. Yes I do. At my age I have finally decided it is okay to be who I am and if it bothers someone well…I don’t need them in my life. Most people know me as Sportochick but everyone knows who I am. Areas that may be of sensitive nature such as erotica book reviews I write in a manner that anyone can read them.

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  9. When I first started posting here on WP, I used a nickname (cyberneticblonde) and I didn’t use my photo. I have trust issues lol. Eventually I gained enough confidence and trust in myself to use my real name and photo.🙂

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  10. On Facebook, yes. On WordPress and Twitter, no. I can’t be online talking about my mental health struggles while I’m applying for disability. Apparently, taking the time to advocate for myself would be seen poorly by Social Security

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  11. I am not even sure I know my real name. I am just “so and so’s mother” or “so and so’s wife”, or the “person that lives in that house”, or “the tall person with the crazy blond hair” or my social security number or employee number.

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