Missing Friends

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One of the hardest aspects of blogging is learning to lose friends and let them go. We spend countless hours reading about people online through their open journals and unprotected blogs that we grow to know them.

At least we feel like we do.

Their daily updates and random photos become a running stream of real life that is routinely ingested. When that flow of media and entertainment stops we are left holding empty buckets and praying for water once more.

I have had many blog friends move on from this passion, this hobby that many of us take part in. Only they know what they are now doing. Their online friends, their online audience, and the people that regularly checked their posts in our readers are left wondering what the fuck happened. Where did our friends go? Are they ok? Did they die?

Everything has an expiration date. I truly believe that. This blog, your blog, Don’s blog… all blogs eventually come to an end. All fingers stop moving at some point. That is the harsh reality of blogging and the blogosphere.

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Missing friends mark my reader by their lack of activity.  By their lack of presence… where did they go? Does it make it worse that there was no sign? No indication of the parting that was to come, they simply parted and it was done. At least they left a piece of themselves. Writing on the wall next to the pictures of those that fall. Missing friends that we miss in the night, after we publish something just right. Will we meet again once upon a time? When dreams have died and so have the sighs. Shall I remember you once more as I gaze upon your leftover words that you poured? Missing friends, we miss you here. We miss you from this thing called the blogosphere.

-OM

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65 thoughts on “Missing Friends

  1. Jason,

    I may be going thru drama in my home life but I’m not leaving anytime soon. I started my blog just to write out my feelings and express what was going on in my mind.
    Now my life has taken the turn where I take the blame and accept the fact I have to move away from my husband of 10 years. I don’t know if I’m ready to be single again, but that is where I’m headed.

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  2. Greetings Jason,

    Still kicking…still alive. Still writing…but not as much as I’d like (real life responsibilities and all that).

    Hope all is well with you and yours.

    Very Best Regards,
    Eric

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  3. Oh, I can relate to this so much! The terrible thing about the blogosphere is that you can grow as cloe to your online friends as your “real life” ones — hell, I’m closer to my online friends than I am to my own family — but when they disappear, unless they made some sort of announcement or told you privately in email or chat, you have NO IDEA what happened to them. Did they die? Are they sick? Did they get abducted by aliens? Did they just get tired of blogging? Are they tired of YOU? You just don’t really know. In the physical world, usually you know what happened to those you grow close to.

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  4. Reblogged this on A Blog About Healing From PTSD and commented:

    The first person that followed my old blog died a couple of years ago. I would never have known what happened, if one of her real life friends hadn’t posted the sad news on her blog. She was only in her twenties, a beautiful person. I felt like my heart was ripped out.

    Other bloggers have vanished without a trace. A couple of them, I had been emailing with privately. They stopped replying to my emails, too. I still have no idea what happened.

    After experiencing this unexplained loss for the third time, I considered writing a final “Farewell” post for my blog and setting it to go live a couple of months in the future. Something upbeat, with the Pharrell Williams “Happy” video, which I love so much. I was going to write something along the lines of: “If you are reading this, I am probably in heaven now, WOO HOO!” I figured that I would mark my calendar to reset the post date on the first of every month, for another couple of months into the future.

    But I haven’t done it yet because, knowing me, I would forget to reset the publish date, and the thing would go live while I am still alive. Either that, or while I was working on it, I would accidentally hit the publish tab. Then I would have to quickly write another post explaining the error. Which would be very embarrassing and so NOT COOL!!

    Having the opportunity to say a final goodbye to my online pals would be nice. But… I only have a handful of followers, and I’m not a very important person, so… Never Mind, I guess. Like Jason says in his Missing Friends post, everything has an expiration date.

    Maybe Jason can put his brilliant mind to work and come up with a workable solution that we can all use?🙂

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  6. It is interesting you mention this. Since my blog started out as a mental health blog, many of the bloggers that initially chose to follow me suffer from mental health issues themselves. I have had to very quickly realize that their blogging activity may be at the whim of their mental state. I can only count a small handful of ppl that have been with me from the start.

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  7. Something we all go through, unfortunately. It is always sad to lose a good regular read.

    One other thing I experienced, and I am probably not the only one, is when a storm or an earthquake or some other tragedy hits a country where I know one of my fav bloggers lives, without knowing exactly where, I get nervous.

    I can’t contact them directly, but I can’t help but wonder… Is he/she ok?

    Proving all this is not as “virtual” at it seems… We’re using the internet, but we’re still people dealing with people🙂 Thank God!😛

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  8. Oh yeah, so true. A couple of bloggers I really connected with just disappeared, poof, off the face of the blogosphere, with no warning. Guess that’s life and their prerogative but it does make you wonder what happened. It’s hard not to get invested.

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  9. Is it morning now in that part of the globe? Here it was 2:44 AM. I have been busy all night, and here come these great posts that I would love to read. But hey, I want to die a little, only to arise after some hours from now. Thanks for sharing the posts. I will read them later.

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