Project H – Home (A Story from Southern Illinois)


What is a home? Is it that house you grew up in or the town your life story began? Is it the new place you moved to that finally feels like the right spot to wake up and go to sleep in every day and night?

I have struggled my life on figuring out where exactly I belong. My home has been a list of places and honestly, I can’t say an exact location is the perfect home for me.

I grew up in a small city in southwest Oklahoma. Altus, Oklahoma, to be exact. You could Google it and waste a good ten to fifteen minutes looking at all the unimpressive images of it, but save yourself the trouble. There’s not much special about it unless you lived there long enough. It’s the place where you can find my childhood home and part of my story, but it is not where I belong.

For those who don’t know my story from my blog, think Bible Belt town and closeted lesbian. That’s the gist of that story.

Anyway, in the past few months, I have had to accept that the house you grow up in or loved the most as a child might not always be yours to go to. Having been a military child, I should be better about not caring for all of the homes I left behind, but it took a family trip for me to finally understand what home really means to me.

My home is my family.


I know that’s a sort of corny thing to say, but it’s true. Although I have a few preferences of where would be ideal to live, it honestly doesn’t matter to me anymore. As long as I have my wife, my daughter (and the future children), and our kitty cat.

A home is a place where you feel like you belong. And for 26 years, I could never say I absolutely belonged somewhere. But now, I am the person I want to be and with the people that mean the most ro me.  So, now I can say that I am home and super happy.

Oh, just wanted to add one thing. Our current physical home is the outskirts of an Illinois town. We have a sort of farm- chickens and horses. Here’s a picture of the our barn- this was from a week again. We have since then put a tin roof and plywood walls up.


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