They say act a certain way. They ask why your name is so different. They say you are fake because you were given that name. They ask where you got your face and then they tell you who you are.

They tell me to love my birth mother. They don’t know what a bitch she was. They tell me to love mother’s day. They don’t know I hate that day more than any other.

They tell me to learn Korean and to be more Asian. They don’t know that I’ve dreamed of being Korean my entire life. They don’t know that I’d kill to be Asian once more. They ask me why I don’t learn the culture and they tell me why it is important. They don’t know that I am a cultural mix. They don’t know that I am of no culture at all.

They say so much and yet say nothing at all. They tell me things I already know and make me feel worse for knowing it. They put me in a box with other boxes and wonder why I don’t know where I came from. They make me in the image of their creation and not the image I was created in.

They are always there.

They will never be me.

Jason Chandler Cushman

-Opinionated Man




16 thoughts on “They

  1. I definitely relate to this. Being mixed, I’ve never identified with either of my parents races, however people continue to try and place me into some sort of racial/cultural category. It’s frustrating, because there are days when I think it would be easier to just give up and decide to do what everyone wants me to do and label myself as a specific race. I can’t. No matter how many times I say it, or how loud I scream, people don’t listen. It’d be easy to just do what they want and shove myself into a category but I can’t. Like you said, I’m a mixture of cultures. Even though the circumstances are different, I definitely understand how frustrating it is.


  2. Hmmm….They obviously need to ask you some questions.
    They obviously need to listen to your answers.
    They obviously need to learn how to be taught a different perspective, as opposed to wanting you to always adopt theirs.
    It They don’t listen to your views on your life, They obviously are not important to you and the progression of your life.

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  3. They can say whatever they want but they did not went through the struggles that you went. The pain, suffering and happiness that you had your entire life is not determined by them. F them and what they say cause in the end, you are beautiful as who you are despite their judgement. Much love ❤

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  4. I think you’re a fabulous person, and you get extra brownie points for your middle name!(I’m biased though ✌🏻️My hubby is named Chandler!)

    Seriously though, it’s your life and therefore your choices! Do what’s best for you and what makes you happy! You only have one life, use it to the fullest!

    Your body is simply the shell and the canvas for your soul! Feed the soul positivity, and the outer shell will shine it through! 🙂 If it means anything I think you’re awesome!

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