Blogging – Battling Doubt

I spent a week away from my blog… well technically that is a lie. I am never “away” from my website, but I did force myself not to post. I spent a ton of time reading blogs and blogger thoughts. Of course after a week of doing that I have a few things to say to anyone that wishes to listen.

I get so tired of reading post after post of negativity about blogging. It isn’t the median either that is being attacked, it is the idea of success. Now I am no salesman and this is not a pitch to get you to buy my ebook if one existed (by the way buy my ebook). I honestly get annoyed as shit when I read bloggers writing about how “there are so many blogs out there that it is impossible to be noticed.” It is indeed impossible to be noticed with such a crappy attitude. The same people probably “expect” every follower of theirs to read every post they publish. It doesn’t work that way people and I repeat this often.

I view my website as a success because I have met my goals for it. MY GOALS, that is the key phrase here because I do not enslave myself to other people’s visions of success. For every person that spreads doubt and tries to tell you that your blog will never be successful ask yourself this, what has that person ever done in their life? Are they Bill Gates or Mark Zuckerburg? If not tell those people to shut the fuck up! Literally look them in the eye and say “you don’t have a damn clue what you are talking about. Shut the fuck up!”

I am not the most knowledgeable blogger by far, but I own what I know. I believe in what I do or I wouldn’t be wasting my damn time. Do any of you have any clue how many people have told me my blog is a waste of time? That the views and subscriber number mean jack shit. Even when I hit my goal of a million views through hard ass work I was told “so what? What have you achieved?” You see there are three types of people in this world to me. The “doubters” that feel their purpose in life is to shatter dreams of others. Then you have the “dreamers” that dream up amazing shit that never actually happens because of one reason or another. Lastly you have the “doers” and guess what we doers do? We fucking do.

What type of person will you be?

-Opinionated Man

135 thoughts on “Blogging – Battling Doubt

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  2. Supersweet! You have spoken to my soul (the part that handles blogging anyway, my soul is a bureaucratic mess…). I’ve been plugging away at my blog since 2009 – I haven’t always been consistent, but I want to believe that content counts for something – and I feel no shame in saying I got some quality shit on there. But, like you say, I’m going to write it for me and my goals. People might follow, they might not; either way, fuck it. One last thing, you used the word “literally” – this word is, as I reckon it, pure eargarbage. I explain why here – https://braininjourney.com/2017/07/30/this-blog-is-literally-epic/ I submit that this word be exiled from polite discourse. Will you join me in a coalition to exorcise this foul blend of sounds from open discourse. I’ve just now conjured this idea, but I think I will recruit other bloggers to the cause, which shall hencefoth be called “Movement to Invalidate Literally From Speech” or MILFS if you’d rather…on second thought, I don’t think that name will send the right message, plus there are many more words that suck – how about “Coalition Against Words that Suck” or “CAWS” if you’d rather. Crows everywhere will sing our name!

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  4. You were missed. At first I thought I had just missed your posts because I was in the hospital and not on as much. Then later I went looking for your new posts.
    I was hoping you and your family had taken a vacation.
    I am glad you are back.
    I miss you when YOU ARE VISIBLE ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT.

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  5. I havent really read much of your posts before but suddenly you captured my attention and I found myself sneaking around among your posts. Great spirit and attitude and thank you for your useful and great posts for they have given me a better idea of how to do better in the future!

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  6. I’m a dreamer turning into a doer, just because of the simple fact that I would love to live my dreams for once. Starting off with turning my dreams into goals, which includes my blog. I was just thinking about it as I stumbled across this post and it was the last push I needed!

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  7. I am just reading a bunch of your posts today. And again, people are starting blogs for the wrong reasons! If you aren’t passionate about what you write, people won’t be passionate about reading what you write. Duh.

    Anyway, I promise to stop spamming your comments now. Just stop making good points.

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  8. lol love it. Cut that ish out you lazy bums! WordPress has opened doors to my main purpose in why I blog. This year found another person who has a child with the same rare disease as I do…. And was able to re-direct them to one of the biggest support groups. I hAve my down moments, but I take each blogging entry as an opportunity. Can’t just sit on your butt and complain… Oh wait you can, but that’s why people skip their crap 🙂 press on!

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  9. Missed you.. No need to for people to be negative if they don’t share a bloggers opinion. It doesn’t hurt to hear what’s on somebody’s mind. Nothing is static. A person can learn if the are exposed to alternate views.

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  10. I’m with you on this one bro. I never get the negativity either. Nothing works when you have the wrong attitude. It’s all about what you do, how you do it, and what you bring to the table for others. No one will read your blog because you just want someone to do it lol. Let the words fly off. I don’t even hear them anymore. I just turn up the music and dance in peoples faces while they give me stale face.

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  12. I blog as I would like to share my thoughts with others and value each view and comments. If I just wanted to write for the pleasure of writing I would journal as that would hit the spot. It is definitely motivating when people read or comment on any blog post is what I find.

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  13. People are so Narcissistic now-a-days. They need to remember the original roots of blogging was Journaling. I dunno about anyone else, but you DIDN’T want people reading your deepest, darkest secrets. In general people should be blogging about something they’re interested in, not for the attention, for the pure joy of doing so!

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  14. I love this! I made a blog on Facebook nearly 3 years ago, only in the last month I’ve turned it into a website and I’m so proud of it! It brings me joy, encouragement passion into my life. I’ve made goals and I’m excited to make them! But you have to do it for you. Any comments or opinions are a blessing as it shows people are reading my posts

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  15. I just love the complete diversity of views of the bloggers on here. For myself, my blog expresses me and I try to present a well written well thought out piece of thought provoking writing. I’ve just found yours and enjoy it. Blog for yourself and if people like it or don’t like it, that’s there choice. Mine is a slow burner but getting a solid following now.

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  16. Way to be, Jason. Way to go. Your way is the best way for you, and I’m glad you keep charging ahead. Your success is deserved, too. Hey, I’m in my 14th straight month of posting at least once every day and I’m damn glad I’m keeping at it, too. Every month my numbers go up. Not that I’m counting. Ha!

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  17. Welcome back. I must say, however, that it was kinda nice not having my Reader overloaded with all your wonderful posts – it gave some of the rest of us a chance to be noticed for a change.

    Yes, I know I can have my Reader block your posts, but why would I do that? I love your posts, every single one of them. 🙂

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  18. Reblogged this on Unconventionally Me and commented:
    I was about to write yet another “Woe is me, why do I bother with keeping a blog when I have nothing of substance to blog about” when I read this,”I view my website as a success because I have met my goals for it. MY GOALS, that is the key phrase here because I do not enslave myself to other people’s visions of success.”

    With that being said, I shall keep my blog and write if/when I can, regardless of the lack of views/comments. After all, it’s not like I’m a single-mom with a full-time job, 7yr old Tasmanian devil child AND a newborn to keep me more than busy…
    oh wait, that’s right, I AM.

    😉

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  19. Nice you are back! Your words keep me going and today I needed to read this. Blogging is a great space for all kinds of writers. And I have read some interesting stuff even if I don’t always agree.

    Yours has inspired me today!

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  20. Ha ha! That told them.
    I’m new to blogging and I’m finding the posts and thoughts of others a little amusing.
    Recently learnt about pintrest as well and have enjoyed pinning, never thought I would. Some posts on them are heartbreaking and some exquisitely beautiful. If every pinner was in it for fame or a reward, it would be sad. It is creating a connectedness as are these blogs.
    People are out there, hoping to be heard. Listened to for the first time in their life perhaps. Others seem to have a wealth of information to share, others a little boring and some interesting.
    I say, enjoy the ride. You never know the effect you have on someone out there.
    If you’re a doer, expect criticism, merely for the fact that your doing something.

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  21. Well said, I agree, and honesty I feel the same about my blog, I didn’t start it to win some popularity contest, if its noticed great, if not I have it there so can track and record important things. I agree with the point you made about negativity… it gets a bit much when everything you read is always someone whining about something or other.

    Great post, I’ll enjoy reading more from you I am sure. 🙂

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  22. Well said. Good time of year to reflect. Along with goals must go a genuine analysis of what youbwanted from your blog in the first place and whether that has changed. Jason, you’re “out there”. Some others seem to me to be less honest: perhaps more so with themselves than their readers. My own blogging experience has been far more rewarding than I ever imagined. On 22 Jan, I will have been blogging for a year….

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  23. ‘I view my website as a success because I have met my goals for it. MY GOALS, that is the key phrase here because I do not enslave myself to other people’s visions of success’ – yes. YES. It’s a shame more people don’t think this way.

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  24. a doer of course, my piddly blog is pretty much right where I expected it to be at this point in time, I am happy with that, I know damn well I could drive those numbers up quickly if I blogged more than twice per week , in due time, in due time…. but for now I am content 🙂

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  25. There you are, welcome back! I don’t find much negativity out there but I do find some posts with great topics and excellent writing by some very interesting bloggers but so very long I lose interest. Of course I have the attention span of a gnat so it’s really my own problem…

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  26. I appreciate your honesty as always. I recently wrote an article/post about blog likes and if they reflect quality of writing. I haven’t come across many bloggers that complain about not being noticed. But, I have realized that if you write and do it for the right motive. “Likes” and comments or being noticed is not why you write to begin with, it’s not why I do anyway.

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    • I write for myself, but I blog for exposure. They are two seperate things to me and I have always kept them as such. It helps me focus my energy in the direction it needs to be for the current task at hand. Because of this attitude likes, comments, interaction, and views do matter to me and always will. It is a motivation. 🙂

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  27. Is it weird that my one prevailing emotion from this post is…disappointment? I mean, c’mon, I know you follow a lot of people, but you READ for a week instead of posting and I didn’t get a single “like” or comment from you? Now I’m feeling negative.

    I’m getting desperate. My next post will about Bieber and bacon.

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  28. I think I do justice to being a ‘reader’. Being able to articulate all possible circumstances including not doing anything at all, is an art..there is an ‘art’ there, after all. Also, It IS a lot of fun reading you. 🙂

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          • I know what you’re talking about, I’ve seen the posts of hopelessness and I’m glad you brought it up. I don’t think I’ve ever felt blogging was daunting, but mostly because I’m not doing it for the general public, I’m continuing to write for my family. That’s all I’ve ever wanted, a comfortable place when I can put my thoughts out there and have a more honest relationship with my family, and anyone else who is interested is more than welcome to read.
            I didn’t want to send out weekly or monthly emails of honesty and struggle because that forces people to see the pain and read something they might not be ready for. This way they can log in at their own pace and the content is there awaiting them.
            This is stuff for Facebook, I wouldn’t want to share a lot of these thoughts with the people who I am friends with unless they sought it out. I don’t advertise that I blog, I don’t openly give the address of my blog if I think someone will act shitty or argue against ever point just to have someone to argue with, then, when they are proven wrong at like a child and go the “whatever” route.
            I’m a do-er, by the way. In life I’m doing all I can to make the business I started with my wife thrive. I’m putting thought into who I am as a person and what steps I need to take to become exactly the person I want to be, in the situation I want to be in.
            There’s a constant in blogging – “am I reaching the right people?” My target audience is much small than yours and MY goals are being met every time I post my thoughts.
            I say, Congratulations to you. You set out with an idea of where you wanted to take YOUR writing and you’ve done exactly that.
            Sadly, it’ll always be a there, the arguments with stupid, uneducated or misinformed people and all you can do is remember that your blog exists for your thoughts and feelings – the doubters, the hecklers, those who feel entitled to being rude just for the sake of elevating themselves literally use the Internet to feel superior to others. It isn’t something they dare in the face to face world, so this is their outlet and damn, if that isn’t the saddest thing in relation to blogging.

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