Closing 2013 – A HarsH ReaLiTy – A Look Back – Forward

If my posts have seemed a bit reflective that is because I have been stuck in that state this week. There is a reason. My first renewal payment for this domain is coming up and some might call me crazy, but I actually have juggled with the idea of not renewing it. I am going to write out the reasons why in this post, they aren’t complaints, they are simple realities.

I never knew what I was making here. I just did it. I have created something special through gathering a group of people that love to converse and share their thoughts on writing and the world. I believe, just from my numbers that I am forced to see from the dashboard, that there are about twenty times as many reading on a weekly basis that don’t comment and that is ok. The numbers still shock me sometimes. The popularity of this website is truly remarkable and it could never be what it is without the readers.

Many would consider this the end game and would probably sit back and run this site till they grew bored with it and moved on to a new blog in the future. Some might sell the domain if they were inclined, I actually thought about it at one point. It would have been a decision I would have regretted later. I know the reasons why it would have been a stupid idea, but at the same time I will admit the idea of it brought a temporary sense of relief. This website is a job to be honestly and I still have a real job I work at for 40 hours a week. I then also have two children and a wife with needs, not to mention a home that is secretly battling me and my pocketbook. You add in a couple hundred comments a day that need responding to, ten or so emails from wordpress followers as well, and then personal emails on top… and you have one busy ass schedule.

It has been an awesome year. I have enjoyed growing with this blog and having a place to quickly release my fears, passions, beliefs, and random rants when I want. The bloggers I have met, the challenges I have faced, the two eBooks I wrote, Project O, and the many guest bloggers I have encountered have all been a great experience. This website is now a fresh start though, excluding me sharing my past poetry. I will move on from here with new materiel only and I may even decide if a real novel is worth tackling. Who knows but 2014?

I will renew this website on January 3, 2014. One more year of HarsH ReaLiTy. I have adopted a new habit as well, one you all might be proud of. Any negative comments will be ignored and I have blocked bloggers I know do not like my work, what I am doing on WordPress, or really just me. That is cool there is plenty of room here for us all. Stay over there.

HarsH ReaLiTy will continue to be a place for my thoughts, dreams, and sometimes releases of anger. I hope you will continue to enjoy reading my chaos.

I want to say one final time before this post gets really out of hand and cheesy a heartfelt Thank You! Without you all that come here and read, I would never have written a lot of the things I got to write this year. So thank you.

Jason

67 thoughts on “Closing 2013 – A HarsH ReaLiTy – A Look Back – Forward

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  3. I enjoy your posts so much, and the comments section too 🙂 For me, your comments section is like sitting around the “kitchen table” with everyone! Sometimes there’s no time though, so I can’t let myself read any… and/or just don’t think I’ve anything to add… but there’s almost always a smile on my face 🙂 I can only imagine the time/effort you put forth in building this blog, and I’m really glad you’ve chosen to continue (sans the bad apples). Wishing you all the best in 2014 ❤ Jackie

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  4. I’m glad you decided to stay. I don’t log on to WordPress nearly as much as I would like (job, kids, husband…), but would be really disappointed if you weren’t here. With that said, take care of yourself and remember it’s OK to slow it down if you need to 🙂

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  5. I have enjoyed reading your opinions and other assorted writings. Here’s to another year. Glad that you have a name now but you will still remain OM. (less letters to type out). 😛

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  6. #YayBananas – More opportunities for #ThunderBrain commentary! (attempted sarcasm @ 3am)

    ‘Any negative comments will be ignored and I have blocked bloggers I know do not like my work, what I am doing on WordPress, or really just me.’

    – Great decision. There’s enough legitimate concerns to deal with in our lives doing what needs to be done to live, – let alone subjecting oneself to an onslaught of communication from people who affect our general well being.

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  7. Glad you’re sticking around. You know, being that we just “met” on here and all. Heh! FWIW, I don’t expect blog owners to respond to my comments. I know that folks who have been around for a while have a gazillion followers and also have lives. Mainly I comment to show some support and let writers know someone out here appreciates what they’re doing.

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  8. I am super happy to hear this news. This blog is probably the one out of all the 100 or so I follow that I actually try to keep up with- so hurray for another year! I am glad you are moving forward and not letting the negativity of others bring you down.

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  9. You have been a inspiration to me in developing my little blog. Love your rants. Most of the time I agree. BTW…you still have not accomplished your mission of offending me. I know you try real hard 😎

    DJ

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  10. Thank YOU, my dear. You have made WordPress what it is for me today – a wonderful place indeed. I can’t begin to explain my appreciation for your existence here.
    Thank you, my friend. 🙂

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  11. I’ve enjoyed your posts so much. You bring forth a sharp perspective and your insight on blogging has helped me. I’m truly glad you’ve continued this blog and I look forward to more of your posts…

    By the way, I also have a full-time job, marriage, kids, et al and know exactly what you mean about time management.

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  12. I hop along and stop by quite often. Sometimes I read and and hop further on my way, sometimes I comment. I guess we probably disagree on some things (not only on the topic of “snow at Christmas” 😉 ), but you make me think. I like thinking. 🙂 So, thanks for that and a successful New Year!

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  13. I’m not too sure if I comment a lot or not much compared to others? I definitely read and like though, and I come on here whenever I log onto WordPress. I love what you write and I always enjoy visiting your blog. I hope 2014 will be an epic year for you and your family!
    Madeline x

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  14. must say, I can relate to your thoughts…..I ask myself from time to time why I started my blogs….and if the honest answer is anything other than for myself…then it’s time to pack it in! the beauty of these blogs is that no one can leave nasty, negative remarks unless YOU allow them first…that way we can remain pure in being true to ourselves – have you ever wondered why people who leave nasty remarks bother to read your blog in the first place? I know I don’t read stuff I don’t like! Keep it up….I enjoy your blog! May God give you strength in the coming year!

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      • me too…and yet back in the cobweb places of my mind is the thought that I am no writer..why should I write. As long as I write to express myself…not to gain readers…..then that thought will have no power over me….just keep writing….and never, never, stop being opinionated! 🙂

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  15. It is not easy to maintain a blog while the rest of your life keep going on, sometimes you do wonder if it is worth it, I just went through a few months of ‘silence’, not just blogging but painting as well, just got back to it and I was happy to found again, the few but dedicated followers who like my work. Also it is difficult to find time to read as many fellow bloggers works as possible, while doing my work, art and the one that bring bread and butter, updating my sites, and sometimes commenting, which I don’t do often, either I feel I have nothing to add or just like reading, visiting and appreciating. Glad you do keep your blog going, I will visit, but more than often, I will be of the quiet type of visitors who just read…and enjoy…:)

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  16. Yes the obligatory return comments to other bloggers is work. Too bad it changes from fun to work. I have put my “I gotta visit” list to 3 categories depending on frequency of their visits/comments: 1. regulars/loyal-at least every other post they make 2. fairly frequent commenters at least once every 2 weeks 3. now and thens, well now and then. #1 rule of courtesy -reply to every commenter on my blog. At the beginning over 3 years ago I cherished every visitor and was hard establishing network. Now the volume is just too vast and I have gained 20 pounds sitting in this chair half the day. Reducing my posts to 2 or three times a week is a New Year’s resolution and that will diminish traffic(I never thought I would have to do that). It does insult me though that a number of close friends never visit.

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  17. You are awesome Jason. From a writer to another writer its just minor distractions and if its ment and I so feel that it is for you continue to follow your dreams and ur HEART. Cant wait for your book!!!! Great luck in 2014 ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

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  18. I commend you on making a tough decision, as I can only imagine how much time you actually do spend on this blog (which doesn’t even include all of the mental energy you’ve put into while you’re not actually writing/responding). I wish you a very happy 2014, and no matter what you do, I hope this experience has created something special in your life that you’ve found worth-while.

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  19. I am glad we have had an opportunity to meet OM and I am pleased to see that you have opened up your identity somewhat to people. I wish I was living in Colorado right now as it doesn’t appear you will be hit with this polar ice storm due to hit us today. It sounds like you are toying with some fun and sensible projects that won’t be quite so demanding of you (if you make it that way). We all need to devote time to what’s most important in life and that, of course, is family. Thanks for your much interesting writings and for being my friend. Can I call you by your real name now? P.S. I know what you look like now. lol

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    • I am curious what you think my real name is other than Jason though. I just googled “Jason opinionated man” and somehow a Jason Collins got linked to my web address. That isn’t my name lol… crazy. o.O

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      • Ahhh! Maybe I have the wrong guy….Nevertheless, it was nice to put a face to a name. Just seems right. Know what I mean? Some people like to remain faceless though. Must be an identity thingy. I enjoy you no matter what you look like. Sending best wishes your way for a wonderful New Year for you and your lovely family. Brenda

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        • Heh, well I have explained why I remain like I do. For my children’s safety. I am sure someone could find a photo of me somewhere, it would be hard. There are a lot of Koreans out there and I hope Jason Collin’s, whoever that is, doesn’t get harassed…

          Oh well, it wasn’t me that connected that name in google search. I feel a little bad for whoever that is if he ever gets any hate emails. =\

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  20. It’s been a pleasure to know you through your blog OM. And I have really enjoyed being here, except for the brief moment when things went out of hand. But well it’s part of an experience. I am glad that you will renew it and that we will be seeing you again next year too.
    Take care and advanced blogversary to you 😀

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