Great Bloggers and Networking Opportunities! – Part 1

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Here are some of the great bloggers I interact with daily. Add them to your list and grow your network with other responsive bloggers! -OM Mark Reynolds – http://any1mark66.wordpress.com/ Katy – https://walkerkaty0.wordpress.com/ Stomperdad – https://allinadadswork.wordpress.com/ #Maesha – Ms Nightshade – http://msnightshade.wordpress.com/ Swo8 – https://swo8.wordpress.com/ CC – http://www.ccchanel41.wordpress.com/ Gary – http://www.skipahsrealm.com/ Alvernon – http://embracenerdythings.com/ willowdot21 – https://willowdot21.wordpress.com/ Br Andrew EFO – […]

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Help Please! Disqus/Discuz – WordPress Comment Section

Does anyone know how to add the WordPress comment section back under the disqus comment section since it automatically removes it? I have seen it on a number of self-hosted sites, but can’t recall which ones. Can anyone help me out? If it is a coding answer please email me at aopinionatedman@gmail.com. If I can readd that under the disqus […]

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Awkward Moments

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1 – When you see your new girlfriend suddenly on America’s Most Wanted and she just went in the kitchen to get the “special cookies” she just made for you. 2 – That moment when you turn around to meet your brother’s surprise new wife… the girl from Vegas last year. 3 – Those times where it wasn’t a fart and you are […]

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Mixing Races? How I knew I would marry my Color

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If you have read any of my previous work you have no doubt begun to garner some idea of who I am, or who you think I might be. You may have been able to piece together, detective that you are, that I am Asian, I was adopted and grew up with white parents, had white and black friends growing […]

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I could sing a song, a lullaby, a whisper in the wind. No time like now. There is no beginning without an end. And so I sit and swirl my thoughts as they begin again. They move me, they move my hand and connected pen. I lament the loss of love for the love of words. Gone is the need […]

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Disqus – Feedback Wanted!

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I removed the WordPress comment section and installed Disqus. The notifications weren’t working and jetpack was acting janky… so I removed it as a comment feature altogether. You should now receive notifications when people respond to you in the future. This is a “must have” feature that I must have working. Hopefully disqus works better than the plugin I was […]

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Online Friendship and Loyalty

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I won’t apologize for having people like me online. That isn’t a crime and no one should feel guilty for having a “larger subscriber number” than someone else. People will try to make you feel badly for it though and will try to discredit your support with trendy words like “fandom.” If people gain fans online it is normally due […]

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Manila Folder

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Can I stuff my life into a folder of manila? Hoping for a life so vanilla. Hoping to forget a life I can’t remember. Trying to forget that one December. One day I may burn this file. And cry as the smoke shoots up a mile. Burning me and the place I want to be. Finally living and forgetting how […]

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Site Update!

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I have the theme set for the site and most of the buttons work. Comment notification for responses does not work yet! I can’t figure out why not. Any ideas? I am not going to move the WordPress subscriber button over. There is a post HERE showing you how to add my new personal homepage to your reader. I am […]

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Chasing Hope

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Hope is a funny thing. Such a blessing at times and a poisonous curse at others, it can cause you to do the craziest things. One day you are content with your life and then Hope knocks at your door. She tells you that your life is not complete and that you must travel across an ocean to seek something […]

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Selling Books Through Social Media – HarsH ReaLiTy

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I get a lot of emails asking for help from bloggers seeking to market their books better online. Often authors create blogs because their publisher tells them they must. Today’s market requires a person to prove they have a potential audience before someone will invest money into you. That makes sense to me considering everyone wants to be an author of […]

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Small Time Bloggers

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I often have people say to me “thanks for helping us small time bloggers out.” We are all bloggers here. If you blog you are a blogger. Your audience size has nothing to do with what you call yourself. If it does I missed that memo. I don’t consider my blog large. My subscriber number is growing, but the thing […]

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Clearly I See

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Crisp, the morning air almost hurts for me to breath. I blow fog with each breath I take. It is cold, cold and wet; I feel the damp grass slowly soaking my wool jacket. Above a bird of some type circles. He cries, whether for food or for his mate, I know not. I only know he is free. Soaring, […]

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Another Meeting – HarsH ReaLiTy

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Confidential – Boardroom Transcription April 15th, 2015 Denver, Colorado Location: Top floor – Tower of Evil Bored: “What are we doing here again? I was having fun watching ice melt downstairs.” Sarcasm: “Mr. Bossman has more supposedly important shit to tell us. He obviously hasn’t heard of email.” Jason: “I heard that sarcastic. I thought I intentionally didn’t invite you […]

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HarsH ReaLiTy Meeting 3.0

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Location: a dive bar (how the hell did we end up at a local dive bar??? Help!) Time: Between the hand that is blurry and the blurry thing next to it. Reason: Jason made us. Angry: Who Picked This Fucking Place??? Where the hell are we? Is this… is this a fucking dive bar? Holy shit the name isn’t even […]

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A HarsH ReaLiTy Meeting

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Bored: Hurrah… another meeting for nothing. You know you could at least order us Qdoba Bar like your company does for you every blue moon. Those tacos looked off the chain last time. Way to not share! Jason: That doesn’t even make sense. Way to not share? Just because I am driving this boat doesn’t mean your ass isn’t on-board […]

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Confidential – Boardroom Transcription

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Confidential – Boardroom Transcription Denver, Colorado Location: Top floor – Tower of Evil This is a record of the board meeting which took place in HarsH RealiTy Corporate on December 27th, 2013. All notes and references are marked as business secure and cannot be distributed outside of the company without specified permission. Failure to comply will result in your bones being […]

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Changing Lanes

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I find myself coasting lately and I dislike it. The middle lane is for coasting, the right lane is for the slow pokes, and the left lane is obviously the fast lane. This is the lane where the speeders dwell, the ones that know where they are headed in life. They zip past those in the other two lanes and […]

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A Writer’s Contemplation

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I am the last person that should preach on self-doubt. I have enough of it to share with the world and then some. Perhaps that is why I should speak on self-doubt because of my own experiences with it. I have finished very few things of meaning in my life. Some of that is due to motivation and attention disorders, […]

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Why I Blog on WordPress

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Can I help you to smile when smiling has become unpopular. Allowing you some respite from the struggle we all share in our own way. I extend a virtual hand because it is virtually effortless to do. Caring to see if care is needed and showing concern where concern has become extinct. Can you feel the want that comes from […]

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Tracing my past

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I could trace my past all day. Drawing question marks in the sand. Rewriting history so many times over in an attempt to understand what happened. Does it ever really help? I could trace the lines of your name. But would I ever know you any better? Rewriting words that will forever be a mystery to me. In a language […]

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The Color of My Words

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Do the color of my words matter? Would you read them better if I dressed them in white or black? Combining the passion of the moment with the honesty of my pen. I color my words blindly just as I color all of you. Do you appreciate my attempt? Or instead do you hate the shade that I chose. I […]

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Gifts of a Stranger

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Gifts of a stranger, a nameless man who in some societies would be called my father. A man I have never met, and yet I receive a gift from him every day it seems. With the coming of age comes the revealing of his face. I see it in the mirror, even if I have never dreamed it. My hand […]

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Shattered Glass

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Shards of a broken heart create stepping stones from Eastern coast. They create a path that leads back home, but where is home to those that were abandoned? As I tenderly step across the white tipped waves I see myself reflected in cacophonous imagery. I am overwhelmed by each step as I live a lifetime in each moment. What could […]

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Frozen tears

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Frozen tears, I will not cry. Instead I’ll smile as I watch you die. Parting clouds I see them not. Warm hole instead, I hope you rot. Hate saved for a better cause. Smiling as I watch you fall. Taking pleasure in another’s pain. How I love the falling rain. Melt my frozen tears today. Let them fall on their […]

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In Loving Memory

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Her name was Kitty. She was an elderly woman at my church and that is all I knew to start off, other than the fact that suddenly I had been “tasked” with fixing random stuff at this old woman’s apartment. I believe that if you had asked me on the first day going to Kitty’s house what my feelings were […]

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Perfect Imperfections

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I love your perfect imperfections. How easily you stand out against the normal black and white of beauty. I love even more how you seem to love yourself. How your self-love is not anchored to anyone else’s approval. Instead you approve yourself each morning and that confidence shows. How it shows. Love your perfect imperfections. They are uniquely yours. They […]

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The Killing Field

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The children run and play amongst the broken bones. Roses grow and butterflies fly above our fallen foes. We cannot escape as much as we turn from the past. Our feet shuffle and toes squish amongst the fallen ash. Tears of the dead have watered those many oaks. They pull in each drop as the rag does soak. And with each […]

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Brushing Death’s Door

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I brush my fingers along the metal bar. It says “Press here to Enter,” but still I wait and ponder. I can feel his presence in my fingertips, it does not bring a feeling of sadness or fear. Nor will I pen some overly used quip about a lost lover. Instead I feel a vibration from the door that comes […]

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Today my sun died

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Today my sun died and the earth rushed to take its spot. I walked inflamed by a world on fire that had no clue it was burning. How brightly it burned, flames casting the shadows of my doubt onto a wall of observation I could not ignore. My life became a storybook with pages ready to fall… how they fell. How beautifully […]

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Blogging {Social Networking} – By: OM

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I browse a lot of blogs daily and that is the first part of social networking to me. It can be a chore and hard to force myself to do daily because we all want to reside in the comfort of our own blogs and wait for the loyal to lineup outside. It doesn’t work that way though. It only works […]

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I stopped by your blog today…

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I stopped by your blog today and noticed something off. Curtains hung that matched a different season as snow piled high around the blog you once loved. I thought at first you had built an igloo to comfort yourself while creating word strings in the night. But it was not so. Instead I heard with alarming clarity my own voice […]

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Blogging – Be Responsive

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I think the most important thing with “blogging” is to be responsive. I understand of course we are all here for our own reasons. We all have goals for our blogs. Some are here to share, some to care, some to sell, some to promote, and some simply to spill our thoughts and minds. I have my reasons for logging […]

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10 Reasons I Would Quit Blogging

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The Justice League finally accepts me as a member. North Korea kidnaps me. And then makes me Emperor. WordPress makes me a member of their Freshly Pressed staff. Wait… never mind. That really isn’t a moon up there. The Broncos accept me on as Peyton Manning’s backup. People find out who I really am. My robotic arms stop working. My […]

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A Writer’s World

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I live my life writing scenes mentally. For the longest time that was life for me, living with one foot in reality and the other foot dipped in ink. My journey and tales would be recorded in various colored notebooks that I secreted away in my “not so secret” bottom drawer. Without an outlet I could never fully recharge at […]

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The Tone of my Fingers

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What is the tone of your writing? Do you feel it in your fingers? Sometimes I feel like my ten digits write the sound of my heart. I allow them free reign upon the playing field of my keyboard. The taps of the keys lessen the stress I feel in my shoulders. My body looks to my fingers for guidance, […]

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Kamsahamnida

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Thank you for giving me so much to hate you for. It keeps me warm in the night when my heart begins to feel the bite of loneliness. I hang upon the sky the only Korean word that won’t die. Kamsahamnida. The only word I know, the only word I still cry. Thank you on the nights when I think […]

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The Night of the Big Game

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It is a Friday night and I am just now getting ready for the school football game. It is my sophomore year of high school and things have changed somewhat. My friends and I are able to drive, life is a little bit more fun, but the bullying still exists on a frequent occasion. I yell that I am leaving […]

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A Story of Two Rings

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I have been asked only three times the story behind my two rings. Most males, obviously, wear only one ring. The second ring is not an engagement ring; it is actually a second wedding ring. I have lost 2 wedding rings in my life. One was due to… circumstance. The other fell off my finger at my old job. I […]

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10 Annoying Things People Say

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“I hope you don’t get offended by this but…” You are about to say something that is going to make me want to punch you in the face right? I never understood why people feel the need to say this. It must be due to a weak backbone because they normally follow this phrase with something highly offensive. “I hope […]

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Book Cover – Draft 1

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How the Bottle Drank Me

There was a time in my life when I was an alcoholic. Generally when I share this information people look at me and my youth and instantly shake their head. How can someone so young have ever had a disease that is always given a face of age, grief, and shame? What they see are the walls I have always […]

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vLog – A Book of Triggers Page 1- By: Jason C. Cushman

If I were to imagine a book of life it would best be described as a book of triggers. For what is life other than a slowly revealed circle of need, want, and more need? My book of triggers has always been my journals that I have kept throughout my life. Triggering thoughts, feelings, and emotions of the moment laid […]

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Which way to America?

Thirty years ago a Korean boy stepped off a plane accompanied by a translating chaperone. He was two and a half years old, he was most likely scared, and he was about to step off the plane into a very foreign white and black world. I remember a few things from my early childhood, but the one thing I really […]

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Blogging – To niche or not to niche

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We all blog in our own way and we find what works for us. Some of us seek out like minded bloggers and form communities around our niche. Others, like me, enjoy a wide range of blogs and topics that keep our readers interesting. We freely share our lives and our lives will never belong to a specific category or […]

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Blogging Tip 309

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Rescheduling or respinning posts is an effective way to share articles people may have missed. When you reschedule a post by altering the published date in the quick edit or edit screen it will place your post on your follower’s readers. It will also place it on the overall WP reader according to your tags. Here is a tip. Because […]

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Tagging – Spreading the love

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I know everyone by now has read a post on tagging. I have read many of them and I find that sometimes people leave out some key pieces of info. I thought I would share some of the points I think people leave out. Yes, we know by now that you are allowed up to 15 tags per post. These […]

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Kingdom Come

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Come into my kingdom come and see what my will has done. Scribbled words and forgotten phrases, leftovers from mental mazes. Hoping upon a hopeful thought. Swirling thoughts I’ve already bought. Killing dreams before they’re made. Shelving thoughts for which I save. And then I fall to fitful slumber. A slave to thoughts from which I wander. -OM 44.1 @smokendust […]

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Blogging – Helping Others

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How many of you help others daily? Why do you do it? Do you gain some personal satisfaction from the act or do you physically feel your halo grow brighter each day? I help bloggers daily because I want to. I get bored easily and I find inspiration from seeing other individuals motivated. I feed off that motivation and also […]

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My Opinion on Fashion

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Here is my take on current fashion. I am not fashionable. I was once… when bouncers were letting me skip everyone in line. It doesn’t take much, just move to Knoxville, Tennessee and be the only Asian guy that cares to befriend bouncers. They will remember you (there aren’t a lot of Asians in Knoxville if you didn’t know). When […]

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