Thank you!


As I come closer to my first blogging goal ever I feel the need to say thank you to everyone that has continued to read my random posts. Your support and continued interest is what makes HarsH ReaLiTy what it is. I have put in countless hours since I created this blog last January and although it hasn’t “paid off” in the ways I may have dreamed… it has provided encouragement in ways I never thought of.

One goal around the corner. The next goal going in the oven. And that is the grind people.

-OM

“I don’t blog for an Audience”


I get tired of hearing this sentence from bloggers. If you aren’t interested in gathering a following or having others read your work GOOD FOR YOU! Why is it you feel that it is necessary to parade that ideology on every post you can find that talks about “building a blog or an audience?” How many articles have you read on how to successfully build a blog and how many of those articles have you seen at least one commenter that feels the need to clarify that they “write for themselves?” Good for you… now how about you go write in that corner over there since you are so proud of the fact that you don’t care if anyone else sees your post!

Many of us here on WordPress are writers and we ARE seeking critiques of our work or eyes on our articles. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Don’t get discouraged or put off by people that loudly trumpet in your face that “they aren’t after the numbers or the views.” If you want to focus on that and then in turn feel proud of the fact that you have accomplished a “goal” then do so! Be as proud as you feel like! Simply ignore the “noise” around you that will try and tell you that your outlook is wrong. They are your goals, your outlooks, and it is your blog. Screw everyone else.

-OM

What Do You Want From Me?


Opinionated Man:

I think it is less about asking what potential readers want and more about finding out what you want to share first. And then sharing it. I don’t have a target audience myself and I asked that question as the daily opinion to really get people to think about who they wish to connect with. The answer may very well be “everyone,” and that to me is ok! I hope you keep at it and keep on blogging. -OM
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Originally posted on A Momma's View:

I am so new to blogging… I still feel like a newborn and that is what I basically am: A newborn blogger.

Of course I still try to find my way and find out, what my readers like best. I keep an eye on my stats and try to figure out which posts you like best. But it is hard, as I am only in my second month of blogging and over the last 5 weeks have met so many of fellow newborn bloggers… And naturally we check each other out and we do support each other as well.

I ask myself the question every day: What is my blog all about?

I hear my husband’s words in the back of my mind, who told me that I would have to find a subject to blog about and stick to it. I see the words of other bloggers in front…

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When I’m Feeling Blue


Opinionated Man:

Good stuff! It is never a bad thing to study your stats and really find out what works with your blog. Many bloggers consider that “lame,” but I personally see it as doing necessary homework. Nice post and best of luck on your next milestone! -OM
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Originally posted on My Decade Long Travels:

Whoa! this is such a revelation …

views

The graph looks like it’s on its way up but I need to see darker shades of blue than the “sky” ones … I need to attract more visitors

Well, I visit the “Stats” from time to time not really making heads and tails of it. I just know that it counts everything happening in my site but have not thought much of what I can use it for.

After 3 months of being in the WordPress community I am not feeling bad with my stats. In fact the graph looks like I’m on my way up but of course I like the darker shades of blue higher than it is now. Don’t you?
The Darker the Blue the better it is for my site — it means more of you are reading my blog and hopefully don’t just click the “like” star but leave…

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Get Over Yourself Because We Already Have.


Opinionated Man:

This line was golden “You actually need to dress in digital sackcloth and ashes as you admit your sins to an obvious disproving public.” Well said and thanks for the pingback! -OM
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Originally posted on Life, Music, Musings, Reformational Worldview:

My favorite Asian badass, Opinionated Man from Harsh Reality, strikes again in a recent post today involving one of the biggest problems that plagues mankind; those who dare to disagree on the internet. In the words of a modern day Asian wiseman, “Get Over Yourself.

One of my favorite responses I often see on message boards, forums, my own facebook, ect. are responses and posts to my own such as:

  • “I can’t believe you said that!”
  • “Tell me you don’t think this!”
  • “How dare you be this ignorant!
  • “You can’t say that!”

Newsflash. I said that, I’m not sorry, and I’ll say it again. Fine, we disagree. I honestly thought it would never happen.  Let’s leave it like that right? Wrong.  The hounds start to bark, the crows start to circle, and the night starts to darken.  Demands for your head, your job, your blog, and your…

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Get over it


I get so amused when I read debates or social media “arguments” in which a person demands another person “post a public apology.” That shit tickles me to death. I have had three people try to demand I post a public apology on this blog since I created it last year. All three people got a large “fuck you and fuck off.”

Humans are so sensitive these days and they get butt hurt over the smallest things. Before you “demand” someone remove something from their blog ask yourself this one question. What right do you have to make such a demand? Is the post about you directly? Why does it bother you so much?

I get why people engage with trolls. I have and do, but I also get something from it. I get amusement and my readers get entertainment because nothing is ever missed on this website. I will never demand someone write an apology to me on their blog because that is just weak. A demanded apology? Really? When I was a child my mother would demand I apologize to my sister or brother. Guess how much I meant them? So why would I ever want to accept a halfhearted, half assed attempt at mollifying my feelings?

If you write it own it. Even if the world comes crashing down upon you, own your views and don’t allow others to intimidate you into changing your opinions. They will try, they have tried on me and they will try on others, but always remember that the person that demands that others share similar opinion to themselves is not looking for “friends.” They are looking for a congregation to preach too and we aren’t sheep are we?

One last thing. I feel the need to say that I don’t care how many “followers” you have on your social media platforms. I don’t care if you have 200,000 twitter followers or even 1 million blog subscribers. That isn’t going to make me bend over and kiss your ass. If anything attempting to intimidate me will only gain you my attention. You really don’t want my attention in a negative way.

-OM