HarsH ReaLiTy on Social Media

I do not run this blog on any other websites other than Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. I only mirror my posts on those accounts.

https://www.pinterest.com/source/aopinionatedman.com/ – This is not run by me. I did not create this and I don’t even know how to use pinterest.

Bloglovin – I do not own the page on Bloglovin that my website appears to be hosted on. I have sent letters asking for these websites to be taken down on Bloglovin and they did appear to do so… but then the websites reappeared. Again, I do not own the bloglovin website and I do not know who is pinning my stuff there either.

I am not angry when my work is shared and I encourage people to do so. I do “wonder” if certain websites are hosting my blog so that “someone else” can reap the benefit from it. If that is the case and someone is doing that I have one thing really to say to that person.



Being Moody

Opinionated Man:

I am sure MANY OF US can share your thoughts on this post. I am sorry to hear you can never “shine” in front of those that obviously mattered to you. At some point though you will have to accept your own successes and accomplishments as “good enough” for you. Nice post and hopefully you don’t mind me rebooting it. -OM
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Originally posted on Insomnia, Nightmares and General Madness:

Being ill and possessed of a somewhat foul temper today, I’m being reflective and somewhat bitter. Being grumpy about family issues, primarily. As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been writing for almost thirty years now, beginning with bad Mario Bros. fanfic at the age of 6 on a purloined typewriter from my dad’s closet and progressing to D&D knockoff fiction before finding something resembling my own style, voice and subject matter. That’s fairly common knowledge. Also fairly common knowledge is that I’m a trifle manic depressive, suffer extensively from “I’m never good enough” logic and a lack of self-esteem.

One of the roots of those, at least as it pertains to my writing, is my parents. I know, everyone’s got an axe to grind in that department, and I typically have little to no sympathy for those who blame all their life’s troubles on “Mommy didn’t love me enough, waaaaaaaah.” But…

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Me & WP – One Year Now!

Opinionated Man:

Congrats on the one year anniversary! On to another year! -OM
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Hi Blog Buds! I have been missing you :-)

I’ve been trying to catch up here and there the last few weeks – which might I add have absolutely flown by!! Finally getting over the crud that was going around, and trying to get it together to end this semi-crappy year and move on to a new year, and hopefully some wonderful new adventures and opportunities. I say semi-crappy because in the scheme of things, it could’ve been much worse.

My philosophy in life, generally, is if by the end of the day no one has died, no one is terminally ill and no one is scarred for life, it’s been a damn good day – or at least it wasn’t as bad as it may have seemed.

So, though I have spent the last year “job free” against my will, and we have really pillaged our “retirement” savings, which…

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Writing through the tired

It is nights like this that my subscribers get frustrated with me. I am sure the emails build up, but I don’t feel badly. I am writing through the tired.

I so often harp on the fact that there is no such thing as over posting because if there were I would be guilty of it. Working 10.5 hour shifts grants me a lot of time to both write and to be tired late at night. I use writing to not only focus my mind, but to wake myself up. Nothing gets my mind going faster than finding a topic I actually care about and that is my constant nightly quest. What will I concern myself with today?

The fun thing about blogging is that it is much like online poker, there is always someone on. I have read some blogger reviews of my website and I know it is commonly said that I blog for numbers and treat blogging like a “game.” While it hurts that people are essentially saying I don’t take this media seriously, I in turn shrug off most of those types of uneducated observations. I shrug them off because from a general standpoint they are true.

I started to enjoy blogging when I realized how to control my own destiny. When I say “destiny” I am not attempting to fantasize the blogging world into something it is not. I am not on a quest for a magic egg that will give birth to another magic egg. I am here to build a website. Once you realize your goal everything else is grits and eggs.

My blog is my Starcraft base. Each post I create is a new pylon that enables me to expand both my reach and my potential. I enjoy the numbers because it flows in easily with my infatuation with realtime builds. That is how I view my blogging model, in realtime. Isn’t it more enjoyable to take part in something where you see actual benefit from putting in more effort? That is how I blog and I draw upon myself to motivate me further. It is an internal cycle that any true blogger can use.

We find points of inspiration and we use those points to prod us further on towards our goals. That is due to personal conviction and ambition. It is during nights like this, where I can barely focus due to lack of sleep, that I use what I have learned this past two years to go into auto drive. I wait for the occasional bump to remind myself to stay focused and on the same path. I blog, I build, and I create because of one reason. I enjoy to do so.


Blogger Engagement

For every blogger, author, writer, or dabbler out there that complains about lack of traffic I have a few questions you might want to ask yourself.

Do you respond to comments on your page? If you don’t respond to comments I won’t ever revisit your website. Your lack of interaction has killed any motivation I had to engage you in dialogue. Fix that and then we can talk.

How many blogs do you visit each week? Each day? If the answer is zero then why should ANYONE ever visit your blog? While you sit in your corner complaining other people are meeting new bloggers each day. It is not that blogging is dying, it is that you are killing your own experience before it even begins.

How many other posts do you comment on? If the answer is a big goose egg then you have found your problem. Comments and interaction are like “trails” that lead back to guess what? Your blog! Without a trail to follow no one will ever find you.

If no one reads your posts, comments, or “likes” them ask yourself how many times you post daily. If you only post once a week or even once a day you won’t gain much of an audience. There is only so much attention sending a single boat down the river can gain.

If no one ever revisits your website there might be a good reason why. Do you change your gravatar every day? Do you switch your template every week? Do you have a habit of closing and opening “new blogs” when you feel tired of the old one? All of these are reasons why people will stop following you. All of these are annoying as shit.

Ever wonder why no one reblogs or reboots your posts? How often do you do it for others? But people are supposed to fall over themselves to do you favors first right? That is a great attitude.

If you are wondering about your lack of success in blogging ask yourself what you are doing to pursue that success. If you are waiting for handouts and helping hands you won’t get very far in blogging. Actually you won’t get very far in life either.

-Opinionated Man

Guest Post – The Real Reasons I Blog

1. To ward off dementia.

2. Stay in touch with my roots. No such thing as overworking with Koreans. Rest? Psh. That’s what the grave is for.

3. I don’t want to clean. Who in their right mind would choose mopping and dusting over THIS?

4. It’s my one rightful obsession. I don’t drink, smoke, go on shopping sprees, or get pedicures. You gotta give me sOmething.

5. It’s my only chance at keeping up with technology. I’m terrified to tweet, annoyed with Facebook, have yet to go near an iPod, hate texting.

6. The discussions are the bomb. My readers save me money on therapy. I didn’t have to go this year.

7. I’m repressed. Parents didn’t let me stay out at night. I get to party ’round the clock as the comments roll in.

8. I hand out advice on stuff: blogging, life, men and women. And all these people think I’m for real.

9. I can do whatever. I. want. on my blog and people like me for it. Go figure.

10. I haven’t had this much fun since…since…
*Slump* Pathetic. (Time for my next pick-me-up post)

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