Part of the reason I take the time to respond and answer questions is because of the reception I got when I first started blogging here. Believe it or not… we ALL start with 0 subscribers. In 2013 no one knew or cared about my blog. I spent weeks visiting and reading “larger blogs” and their advice. I asked questions and interacted as best as I could. What did I get in response? Cricket farts. No one should ever feel like they must grovel to someone else for help. Bloggers that require that attitude are weak people.
At some point in a blogger’s “career” they begin to grow confident about their social media presence. That is a good thing. What isn’t a “good thing” is the higher than thou attitude many take on towards newbie bloggers that are just starting. I am not sure why people do this, but my guess is that their condescending attitude empowers them and makes them feel better. It also helps that someone is asking them questions and not the other way around. This definitely strokes people’s egos.
When did everyone become a “blogging expert” on social media? I am no blogging expert and I highly doubt many of those claiming the title are either. I have even seen SEO Expert as a title by some and when I checked their articles I saw very little real knowledge base on SEO. You have to be careful who you listen to and really look for evidence of success. Just because someone has been blogging for 7 years means jack shit. I played poker for years before I could even claim to “know” the game. Bad example? Give me a better one.
It amazes me when I come across blogs with hundreds of comments and ZERO responses from the blog author. Their writing must be amazing as shit to garner such attention to someone like that with nothing given back. I don’t view my writing as high level and in fact I have often said that on a scale from 1 to 10 I would give myself a hard 6 in writing ability. If I consider grammar and punctuation that number drops to a 4.75. That is just being realistic with myself, something I think is important to do. We can lie to ourselves daily and after a while we will start to believe those lies. But what the hell is the point in that?
The simplest comment to receive and answer is “can I ask you a question?” Do you respond back and try to answer? So many don’t. Bloggers erect fences faster than a border guard, always worried someone will steal their secrets. That is a sad attitude to have on social media because we are here to be social and to share. If you aren’t here for that and your blog ever goes viral I hope you remember some of these words. It takes very little effort to be kind. It actually takes more effort to block out the world.