Can I ask you a question?

Part of the reason I take the time to respond and answer questions is because of the reception I got when I first started blogging here. Believe it or not… we ALL start with 0 subscribers. In 2013 no one knew or cared about my blog. I spent weeks visiting and reading “larger blogs” and their advice. I asked questions and interacted as best as I could. What did I get in response? Cricket farts. No one should ever feel like they must grovel to someone else for help. Bloggers that require that attitude are weak people.

At some point in a blogger’s “career” they begin to grow confident about their social media presence. That is a good thing. What isn’t a “good thing” is the higher than thou attitude many take on towards newbie bloggers that are just starting. I am not sure why people do this, but my guess is that their condescending attitude empowers them and makes them feel better. It also helps that someone is asking them questions and not the other way around. This definitely strokes people’s egos.

When did everyone become a “blogging expert” on social media? I am no blogging expert and I highly doubt many of those claiming the title are either. I have even seen SEO Expert as a title by some and when I checked their articles I saw very little real knowledge base on SEO. You have to be careful who you listen to and really look for evidence of success. Just because someone has been blogging for 7 years means jack shit. I played poker for years before I could even claim to “know” the game. Bad example? Give me a better one.

It amazes me when I come across blogs with hundreds of comments and ZERO responses from the blog author. Their writing must be amazing as shit to garner such attention to someone like that with nothing given back. I don’t view my writing as high level and in fact I have often said that on a scale from 1 to 10 I would give myself a hard 6 in writing ability. If I consider grammar and punctuation that number drops to a 4.75. That is just being realistic with myself, something I think is important to do. We can lie to ourselves daily and after a while we will start to believe those lies. But what the hell is the point in that?

The simplest comment to receive and answer is “can I ask you a question?” Do you respond back and try to answer? So many don’t. Bloggers erect fences faster than a border guard, always worried someone will steal their secrets. That is a sad attitude to have on social media because we are here to be social and to share. If you aren’t here for that and your blog ever goes viral I hope you remember some of these words. It takes very little effort to be kind. It actually takes more effort to block out the world.



Blogging – I care about it all

There isn’t one thing that makes a good blogger in my book. There are many different aspects of blogging a person has to conquer to really get a handle on it. Often people will get comfortable with one or two parts of social media and will suddenly feel like an expert. That is when the posts about blogging and “how to blog” normally begin to roll out. I read a ton of blogging “advice” because I find it interesting to see what people think works for them. Most of the blogging articles I see and read aren’t great. They offer no real tips, are simple regurgitation of what other people are saying, and they offer very basic advice on how to network on social media. My conclusion is that these posts read as such because the bloggers generally have no idea what they are talking about.

I could spend an afternoon reading tips under the tags “blogging, seo, and WordPress” and feel fairly confident that I would have enough knowledge to share something new with the world. But what is the point? So often people write tips on blogging and they really have nothing to say… they just think they do. I will read lines like “it is always a good idea to interact and meet other bloggers,” but that will be it. Ok, thanks for the obvious tip, now tell me HOW to do that. Tell me WHERE to do that and tell me HOW OFTEN to do that. Specifics make or break an article and if you aren’t going to get specific for us don’t bother writing that junk.

Bloggers ask me what I focus on daily and I tell them the honest truth. I focus on it all because I care about it all. All the numbers, all the parts of a blog, and all the daily routines I do to make my social media platforms hum are all part of blogging to me. Would I love to be so popular that I could just sit every day and write whimsical bullshit that people gobble up? Never having to visit anyone or share anyone else’s work because it is all about me, me, me! Sure! Who wouldn’t want that kind of popularity? Unfortunately that also isn’t very realistic unless you are super hot and posting selfies everyday OR you are an established author. I am neither of those things so I have to grind it out daily like everyone else. Each view, each comment, each interaction I strive for requires effort. I work hard at getting people out of their shell because only with interaction do I feel like my words are truly being heard.

If you want to write blogging tips then go for it. It is your blog and bloggers blog. Just know that if your article reads like every other post out there on blogging people won’t care to read more of your advice. They will roll their eyes, like I do, and move on to the bunny photos below your post. Because who doesn’t like bunnies?

One small note here. If you “borrow” or take an idea from another blogger credit them in some way in a post. I understand that ideas are meant to be shared and used by others, but there is a difference between piggybacking off people and straight up stealing their ideas and passing them off as your own. If you can’t comprehend the difference you aren’t being truly honest with yourself. Think about it. I have had people using my ideas since I began this blog and I am flattered most of the time. There have been occasions where people have taken things from me, such as my blogging formula, and tried to pass them off as their own. That is never right. I would never do that to another blogger. It is a low way to live.

-Opinionated Man


WordPress – You don’t decide who is Popular

How does a person create a popular blog? The normal response one will receive is that you “don’t create a popular blog,” instead popularity finds you through blogging habits, techniques, writing ability, and content. But what if you could directly control how many people view your website daily through hard work? What if you could build your own popularity and viral nature by mass networking and pushing your name to the ever growing public?

WordPress has been a great platform because it has offered every blogger an equal opportunity to be noticed. By offering the same methods of interaction for everyone, WordPress created a fair playing ground for bloggers to grow, network, and promote themselves at their own speed. Unfortunately that culture is changing.

When I began blogging two years ago I found, read, and met some great bloggers. These people had tens of thousands of followers, massive subscription lists, and many of them worked with teams so as to keep their content fresh and continuously populating. WordPress built this platform for the “users,” they created the game and rules, but they do not get to pick who is popular. We as bloggers and readers get to choose that. That is what is so great about blogging, the unpredictable nature of who will be popular and what will garner the most attention.

What happens when the platform begins to pick favorites? Suddenly the rules change, punishment and “moderation” are handed out unfairly, and bloggers who are only copying the early practices of many popular blogs on WordPress are suddenly hit with limitations on the very features that make WP what it is. How is that fair? How is it ever fair when a website, service provider, or host suddenly changes the rules midgame? It is the very example of favoritism.

HarsH ReaLiTy is what it is because I became addicted to blogging. I loved being able to physically pump my blog’s numbers and popularity through increased effort. Unfortunately WordPress is now limiting the number of blogs people can follow daily by limiting the actual account. While I understand the frustration people feel over “fake likes” and “fake follows,” people need to realize there is nothing spammy about pressing a single button. I personally never press the “like” button unless I have read and enjoyed the post. I will, however, press the follow button many times a day. It is one of the many examples that WordPress’s Blogging University offers as an important way to not only network, but also to publicize your blog. Again, by limiting my ability to do so you have sold me a product I never agreed to buy WordPress.

I have spent a lot of time trying to promote other blogs and help people to network. This was when I actually thought WordPress cared about these things… since those methods are what make this platform buzz. Without the bloggers, readers, writers… us, there is no WordPress. As I said WP, you can build the platform, but you don’t get to decide who is popular.

Due to these recent changes I am strongly considering moving off platform. I enjoy the pool of readers and bloggers here, but if I cannot access that “pool” there is no reason to be near it. I also don’t see a need to run Meet and Greet threads when the very community I am promoting doesn’t seem to care about us anymore. Instead WP would love for all bloggers to sit around and pray to be Freshly Pressed as the only way to EVER get noticed. As I have always said a successful blogger doesn’t sit back and wait to be noticed. They go and find their audience. As long as this ability is impaired on my blog, I will not blog publicly on WordPress. As long as this platform plays favorites it will never be as great a platform as it once was. And that is a fucking shame.

-Opinionated Man

Blogging Tip 309

Rescheduling or respinning posts is an effective way to share articles people may have missed. When you reschedule a post by altering the published date in the quick edit or edit screen it will place your post on your follower’s readers. It will also place it on the overall WP reader according to your tags.

Here is a tip. Because the respun post won’t send a notification email to people, since it isn’t actually newly published, a trick to get these posts seen is to piggyback them on a “new” post. I do this often for two reasons. One it is easier to see a blogger’s presence when there are multiple posts floating with your gravatar, website, and name on them advertising you are there. The second is to gain that extra click. Remember that even if you don’t value the “single view” you should still respect the “single click.” The single click is what gets you seen. The single click is what gets you read. It is important.

The greatest mistake I have made in the past two years of building my social media platforms was that I did not immediately make accounts on ALL the platforms and link them when I started blogging in 2013. I should have done that in March of 2013 honestly. Now I have to play catchup on my new accounts and they will never be balanced with my main WP account. Here is why it matters to me. I habitually “flex” my platforms to make my presence known, felt, and seen. That is called building awareness or more technically “branding your name.” If you aren’t regularly flexing your platforms you aren’t networking properly. If networking is your goal you need to learn how to simultaneously “push” your platforms so that the greatest reach is met.

Note: I use the term “respinning” because I like it. It isn’t technically a term.