“I don’t blog for an Audience”

I get tired of hearing this sentence from bloggers. If you aren’t interested in gathering a following or having others read your work GOOD FOR YOU! Why is it you feel that it is necessary to parade that ideology on every post you can find that talks about “building a blog or an audience?” How many articles have you read on how to successfully build a blog and how many of those articles have you seen at least one commenter that feels the need to clarify that they “write for themselves?” Good for you… now how about you go write in that corner over there since you are so proud of the fact that you don’t care if anyone else sees your post!

Many of us here on WordPress are writers and we ARE seeking critiques of our work or eyes on our articles. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Don’t get discouraged or put off by people that loudly trumpet in your face that “they aren’t after the numbers or the views.” If you want to focus on that and then in turn feel proud of the fact that you have accomplished a “goal” then do so! Be as proud as you feel like! Simply ignore the “noise” around you that will try and tell you that your outlook is wrong. They are your goals, your outlooks, and it is your blog. Screw everyone else.


Doing For Others

No one has to explain to me how busy a person can be and how one can become so focused on their personal goals that the needs of others are ignored. I have the ultimate tunnel vision when it comes to chasing my dreams and I will run over happy bunny rabbits in pursuit of that dream. Still, we must remember that sometimes a small helping hand is all another person needs to make it through the day. While we are on cruise control another person is in the highest gear simply trying to make it up a small hill.

Doing for others just because it is the right thing to do is a lost art. A lost cause. If there isn’t something in it for the “doer” then there is no point to the “doing” these days. I find that to be a sad reality as I see bloggers actively hamstringing each other and refusing to offer even the slightest hint of support to others. It is all about me, my website, my blog, my audience, my goals, and my dreams. Everyone else can be damned!

I do not wake up wanting to be motivational to others. I don’t set out to be an inspiration. I honestly can’t stand people that feel they need to carry the largest fucking cross they can find just so everyone will ohhh and ahhh over their feat. Praise… praise is the fool’s gold of the masses. Have you ever met that one helpful person that is amazing when they want to be, but the minute the “praise stops” they suddenly have better things to do? I have had people make snide remarks that I help other bloggers only for the praise and recognition. Those jabs underline what I am saying in this post, that people are cynical bastards that have killed the simple act of “doing for others” for no other reason than because it is the right thing to do.

That to me is worth lamenting, that to me is worth reflection, and that to me is why I care.

We need not be opponents in this game of life. Everyone has an extra hand.


When I’m Feeling Blue

Opinionated Man:

Good stuff! It is never a bad thing to study your stats and really find out what works with your blog. Many bloggers consider that “lame,” but I personally see it as doing necessary homework. Nice post and best of luck on your next milestone! -OM
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Originally posted on My Decade Long Travels:

Whoa! this is such a revelation …


The graph looks like it’s on its way up but I need to see darker shades of blue than the “sky” ones … I need to attract more visitors

Well, I visit the “Stats” from time to time not really making heads and tails of it. I just know that it counts everything happening in my site but have not thought much of what I can use it for.

After 3 months of being in the WordPress community I am not feeling bad with my stats. In fact the graph looks like I’m on my way up but of course I like the darker shades of blue higher than it is now. Don’t you?
The Darker the Blue the better it is for my site — it means more of you are reading my blog and hopefully don’t just click the “like” star but leave…

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You have my thoughts today Canada. Who the hell shoots a reservist soldier guarding a memorial? A MEMORIAL!!! Seriously? What a cowardly piece of shit.


Get Over Yourself Because We Already Have.

Opinionated Man:

This line was golden “You actually need to dress in digital sackcloth and ashes as you admit your sins to an obvious disproving public.” Well said and thanks for the pingback! -OM
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Originally posted on Life, Music, Musings, Reformational Worldview:

My favorite Asian badass, Opinionated Man from Harsh Reality, strikes again in a recent post today involving one of the biggest problems that plagues mankind; those who dare to disagree on the internet. In the words of a modern day Asian wiseman, “Get Over Yourself.

One of my favorite responses I often see on message boards, forums, my own facebook, ect. are responses and posts to my own such as:

  • “I can’t believe you said that!”
  • “Tell me you don’t think this!”
  • “How dare you be this ignorant!
  • “You can’t say that!”

Newsflash. I said that, I’m not sorry, and I’ll say it again. Fine, we disagree. I honestly thought it would never happen.  Let’s leave it like that right? Wrong.  The hounds start to bark, the crows start to circle, and the night starts to darken.  Demands for your head, your job, your blog, and your…

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White name. Asian face.

Someone in a comment said to me “white people” and I just want to reaffirm that I am actually Asian. Not white. Technically I am Korean, but I’ll accept Asian it doesn’t offend me. I mean we call ALL white people white right and they probably don’t appreciate that. Just don’t label me Oriental, I am not a flying carpet. To again prove I am Asian I will give you my recent photo. This isn’t a selfie! This is documental proof of my existence and my race… apparently.

Jason C. Cushman
-Opinionated Man