Blog Update

A few updates for those that care to read things entitled “update.” I generally delete those emails.

1. This blog is starting to hum again. I’ve finally stopped crying over what I can’t control and I am really trying to push this blog in several new directions. We shall see if things evolve or stay the same around here.

2. I am also developing my own style of blogging. This is something that is very important to me because I feel like I am branding not only myself and my website, but also my style of doing things. That might be a bit egotistical considering I am only doing what every other blogger is doing, but there are ways of combining different methods to fit your own needs. I am doing that here and hopefully people notice that.

3. I am still working through the guest author list. I appreciate the patience people and that no one is really hounding me. Believe it or not I got several emails about the open slots.

4. I will begin taking on a couple bloggers at a time for “longer periods” of guest blogging. Those interested can email me, but I really already have something in mind for this. A lot will have to do with location of the blogger, their blogging habits, and content will be important to me for certain reasons. I’ll elaborate further as I work on this.

5. I have several projects I will be doing. Some will be fun and will get great response. Others will flop and be lame. That is life and we can’t make gold every time, but I enjoy using this platform for projects that work to connect people. I have done that since day one and will continue to work towards that till the day I close HR down.

6. The HarsH ReaLiTy Challenge has been a lot of fun already and I appreciate everyone that has taken part! You can still enter by emailing me at with your post/post idea for sharing your daily city/village/town/field life.

7. I respin some old posts that I feel share useful info that I don’t see any point in rewriting. If that annoys you or your reader fills up and you hate me… just unfollow and visit my site directly if you should care to.

8. Thanks to those that tag “harsh reality.” I have enjoyed seeing your posts!

9. Lastly thanks to all the new subscribers. Without readers I wouldn’t blog.


Social Media – I am not impressed

I encourage people not to get a big ego on social media. I suppose if you are Kim Kardashian that ship has sailed, but for us “average humans” we should always strive to keep our feet on the ground. I often have bloggers try to impress me with their background or what “they have accomplished” in life. I am not impressed. I also don’t impress myself and do not howl at the moon nightly… regardless what some bloggers write of me.

I am not impressed by glory found on social media because there is always a bigger fish out there. Many bloggers that have taken my tips and “run with them” are even now working on passing my small accomplishments here. That is how it should be! I don’t share tips with bloggers in hope that everyone stays mediocre. I don’t actively work to keep others “lower than me” so that I always feel good about myself. Sadly some bloggers do that. They want to impress people so bad that they lie outright about their methods and how they blog. Those bloggers, those powerbloggers, are pathetic as hell. I will never be like them.

I once had a “debate” with another powerblogger that was gaining a million views every few months. Granted he had content, a community, and he did interact with other bloggers, but what angered me was the image he was putting off. “My writing is just that good. I have worked on it a lot! You can “make it too” if you just put in the effort like I have.” It is all the normal bullshit that bloggers hope you “buy.” In fact they feed this bullshit to the WordPress community daily. It is a horrible way of blogging.

I created this blog January of 2013 and what I found immediately was a responsive platform that was waiting to be engaged. I interact, I build, I push, and I promote myself daily on this website. That isn’t all I do though and I have never once lied and tried to impress upon people that those are the only things required to build a popular blog because they aren’t. I have freely shared how I follow a lot of blogs. I have also shared that I don’t “mass like” because I think it is a turn off. Those are just a few of the things I do daily to generate “notice.” If I were like some powerbloggers I might allow you to all “think” that is ALL I do. Generating admiration in that way is lame.

There are so many tricks in the bag people. Tricks I don’t even feel like taking the time to write down. Mirror sites, phantom posts, multi pushing, piggy backing, buzz words, and a strong tag recognition spread are just some of them. The point of this is that you need to recognize whether or not a blogger or powerblogger is being truthful. If it sounds “too good to be true” it often is. And if someone claims their “great content” got them millions of views and they can’t even edit their first sentence… they are a fucking liar. You should tell them so as I do.


Stop Running from Your Audience

Unless you have a large SEO hook off platform do NOT self-host your blog off WordPress. Stop running from your audience that is right here waiting on you to connect! Bloggers constantly complain about the lack of interaction on their blogs and the most amusing thing is that there is a subway system on WordPress that runs 24/7 full of potential readers. To me it is like hearing people complain they can’t find a poker game on an online poker site. There is always a game going on just like there are always bloggers online! You simply have to learn how to find those people and you don’t learn that by sitting around whining and moaning about what you don’t have.

I caught a post today where a blogger was asking for feedback on their writing. They had a nice post about it and one single comment. There were two problems with this situation. For starters the blogger wishing for feedback attacked this problem by making a post. That is one way to do it, but in the time it takes to write and edit a post asking for blogger interaction you could have “interacted” with ten bloggers and gained a few proofreaders in the process by simply visiting their websites. “Work smarter, not harder” is a saying we often heard in the military. It is true in many scenarios and no more so than in blogging. Work hard sure, I do and other bloggers do to be successful, but don’t sit in the corner waiting for recognition to come to you. Extend a damn hand, open that damn mouth, and get off that ass and find the people you wish to find. The second issue was the single comment in which a different blogger shared their knowledge that “online readers are hard to find on WordPress.” *GASP* WHAT??? How is it hard to find readers on a website dedicated to writing, publishing, and reading??? Holy shit Batman… some bloggers will say anything.

I hear so many reasons for why people go off platform. They want more options for templates, their current blog is failing and it is due to being on a limited account, or their friend has a beautiful website with tons of widgets on .org and you want that too. I understand the draw to being self-hosted, but let me add a word of caution to those considering it. Only go off platform if you have an audience to take with you. The pool of readers is right here, on this platform and connected to the subway system that is the WordPress reader. If you can no longer access that reader then your audience must come off platform as well. That means you might need to learn what exactly SEO really means and why it is important, because you won’t get any “easy views” off the WordPress feed. To me that is not only stupid, but it is counter-productive if you are truly trying to build an audience. I would also say that having a pretty website or template is overrated. My blog is hellishly ugly, it is a free template that anyone can use, and I roll with it to prove a point. It is proof that a fancy blog means jack shit, what truly matters is the content and the blogger running it.

The audience is right here people. Stop running away from it and instead seek to discover how best to interact with those already present.



Here we go again.

Opinionated Man:

Isn’t it funny when people write “I doubt many people will end up reading this” we all do? -OM
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I’m relatively sure that at some point in the past I told myself I wasn’t going to start a new blog. I was going to keep the one I was working on.

Clearly that went out the window.

I doubt many people will end up reading this, but for those who do, I need some people to hold me accountable. I want to make it a goal to write something every day. I don’t know what, and I don’t really care what, but something. Something about what I know. Something about whatever is going on. We’ll see how this goes.

Until then, this blog of course doesn’t have much of a theme. It’ll get there this time. I have some kind of faith. The amount is debatable, though.

If anyone wants to talk to me about anything, I’ll probably welcome the conversation.

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What’s In An Opinion?

Opinionated Man:

I often wonder why people don’t challenge my opinions more. Perhaps your view is the correct one. Thanks for the mention! -OM
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Often times I come across posts that I am compelled to “give my opinion.”  Many times, my opinions are challenged.  Take climate change (aka global warming), I choose to believe the data is flawed and the ones telling me that the warming of the planet is more dangerous to me than to Radical Islamic Terrorism — okay, so they don’t say Islamic, I just threw that in for effect.  So, I choose to not believe what they are telling me, regardless of how many charts and graphs they show me.

“Just look at the graph, dude!”  As though all the data is factual.

Or, when I state something about faith in a One True God and I get a response similar to, “but you can’t see god so you have no proof,” or “but there are so many gods to choose from, how do you know your’s is the one?”…

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Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter


She comes into your life and brings nature’s blessing. And with her entrance comes a curse of wanton passion. The grass is still alive as it blazes in the sun. The chorus of our laughter floats gently in the Spring breeze. We are the definition of love and our hands are linked as we dance amongst the growing and the grown alike. We enjoy timeless sunsets on picturesque settings creating canvases waiting to be painted at each moment. We love.

Time works wonders and bonds grow firm. We resolve to walk quietly into the night together. Hands held tightly against the shadows we once faced alone. We pick each other up in the heat of the Summer, against the blazing sun and humanity’s punishment. We turn as one, in unison with one another’s needs. I am your need and you are mine. And like an oak tree we grow together.

The rain has come and we have weathered storms. We still touch… but sometimes our hands Fall like leaves from our tired limbs. The chatter of children running around our base keeps us united, we are still united with finger painted signs and chalk figures. But some nights are cold and the moon shines two shadows upon the ground.

It snows here in Denver. The Winter seems to be most of the year… at least lately. But even with the constant ice, it does melt with the strength of will. A will we share each morning and return to each night. The seasons form a timeless ring that hardens into a golden promise. They touch each time our hands unite with infused emotion. Regardless of what emotion that is the presence of feelings means that we still care.

Jason Cushman

-Opinionated Man