Women – Don’t Get Me Stabbed


I request that people email me if they have questions or wish to reach out to me. I don’t Facebook message, I don’t private Twitter message, I don’t LinkedIn message, and I avoid uncomfortable situations. Those situations would include the following.

1. I receive an email from an admirer and they inadvertently say “I love you.” My wife finds said email and lovingly places a knife in me. Now while that story holds a lot of love, I would rather not get stabbed… ever.

2. Person A messages me on Facebook and my wife gets on Facebook, but doesn’t realize she is on my account. She decides to message her best friend Helga and then notices that the message button on Facebook is flashing. She obviously clicks on it, because women are clickers, and behold it is a message asking me what I am wearing. Well my wife, since she doesn’t read my blog, has no clue that my previous post was “Guess what I am wearing?” She then grabs a knife and we revert back to the ending from the previous scenario. Again, stabbing not good.

3. Woman B sends me a message through LinkedIn in which she proclaims what an inspiration I am. My wife happens upon this message on my phone, but because women see only what they wish to see she replaces the words “inspiring” with “sexing.” By the time she is done reading the email hell is blazing from her eyes. And hell makes you pay…

4. Blogger C emails me and asks if their new profile photo is a good idea for their blog bio. My wife, because she doesn’t blog, thinks the bio is from an online dating site. The photo happens to be of you in a Halloween costume, which ironically is a Korean school girl. My wife hates Korean school girls. Stabbing and death are the end of this story as well.

I could really go on and as much as you may be laughing this is a serious matter. The above reasons really underline why I don’t “converse” much through social media. Feel free and email me WordPress, but let’s keep the messaging to a minimal. It is never ok to text me either… and honestly that is a bit creepy.

-OM

Social Media – My Biggest Mistake


I have built some perspectives on social media platforms through the years. My entrance into the “internet” was actually not like most other kids. My parents were very religious and hesitant about the internet and the content we might find on it. I got a late start, but quickly connected with people through different platforms such as mIRC, ICQ, MSN, AIM, Trillian, avidgamers, and a lot of gaming sites at the end of high school and through college. People might not realize how “geeky” gamers can get, but I think that most gamers were the first to begin social media connection purely for the sake of video games. I built forums, created webpages, slayed some dragons, and enjoyed learning about social media during those years.

My biggest mistake when creating www.aopinionatedman.com was not making mirror platforms on Facebook and Twitter (@smokendust) sooner. It just wasn’t important to me at the time and I also hated Facebook. I am now rushing to try and catch those numbers up and it is simply not possible. Google + is also a great tool for social networking that I wish I had begun when I created the website. I regret that the most when I consider the road of this blog and that is honestly saying something considering I have already tried my hand at a number of things. I don’t look at “attempts” as either a success or a failure. I just see opportunities to learn, try, and do. I have always been what I consider a “doer.” I absolutely hate procrastination… I mean you still have to do that “thing” later right?

I enjoy the interaction without obligation that I get on social media. I blog because I like to write and once I pen my thoughts I can lay them to rest. Mentally at least. I really don’t strive for perfection on HarsH ReaLiTy. Instead I hope that people read what interests them and pass over the things that don’t. Someone once said they love my blog because they never know what to expect. Well I appreciate that description and it amuses me, but I also work hard to present a forum of possibility. I don’t live in a “busy city” so I created a place where I hope something is always happening. Consider it the ADHD in me.

-OM

My Twitter Purge


I just completed my first Twitter purge. I never understood how someone can have 10,000 followers and only follow 200 people back. Are those people that interesting? I wasn’t aware anyone could be that exciting in under 140 characters. Well you aren’t that interesting to me! I have decided it is annoying to see such an offset number and will probably do this regularly. To those following me @SmokeNdust I appreciate it.

-OM

Guest Post – Holding Out For Skye by S.R. McKade


What do you do when the guy who always annoys you, also steals your heart?
A fun, quirky romance to delight the mind and heart – Holding Out For Skye.

Holding Out For Skye is a new adult romantic comedy. If you want a fun and laugh-out loud story full of sarcastic, quirky give-and-takes, then you definitely need to go for Holding Out For Skye!

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Synopsis:
Things are finally starting to look up for Skye Fletcher. She’s got a new job with a great salary, she’s finally out of the rat-trap she used to live in and into a decent apartment. She couldn’t be happier. Except for the thorn in her side, a.k.a. Cian Hunter, her arrogant and too good-looking co-worker whom she has the misfortune of being stuck with.

In spite of himself, Cian Hunter fell hard for the surly, unfriendly woman who made no secret of her dislike for him. He knows he and Skye are meant to be. Convincing her of that fact seems like an impossible feat. However, he’s utterly confident he’s up to the task. His future and his happiness depend on it, after all.

When Skye’s one impulsive, uncharacteristic little act changes the status-quo between them, her life gets entangled with Cian’s way more than she’s comfortable with.

That’s when her life really turns upside down…

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5 Star review by by Trudi LoPreto for Readers’ Favorite (http://readersfavorite.com/book-review/27531):

Holding Out for Skye by S.R. McKade is a pure love story. Skye Fletcher and Cian Hunter are destined to fall in love from the first page but their journey is so worth the read. Skye doesn’t like Cian and Cian tries his best to annoy Skye, but little by little that changes. The romance which starts by accident and takes many twists and turns is so very real. Kiera, Tyler, Ash, Nick and Tasha, each having their own romances can’t help, but instantly see that there is love blooming between Skye and Cian. We the readers have the privilege of following along for both the good times and the not so good times, the break-ups, the disagreements, the shopping sprees, the dates, and so much more that makes this story so heartwarming.

S.R. McKade has written two hundred and three pages of love. Holding Out for Skye is a treasure not to be missed. It is a warm and fuzzy love story and impossible to stop reading. I wanted so badly to reach the end and see what really happens to Skye and Cian and I hated that I reached the last page and had to leave all of my new friends behind. If you are a fan of romance, falling in love, and the true meaning of friendship this book is a must read. Holding Out for Skye is a starry-eyed love story winner. I can’t give S.R. McKade enough kudos for this book. I look anxiously forward to reading more from S.R. McKade and have placed Holding Out for Skye on my favorite love story book list.

 

Author Bio:

S.R. McKade has always made up stories in her mind ever since she was a child. She has her own world, where her characters live and breathe. She loves reading and will try practically any genre in either fiction or non-fiction, though she has a soft spot for funny romances and paranormal. Addicted to chocolate, she needs a constant fix to feel human. She firmly believes that being able to spin a story, the effort and love that goes into it, is a miracle in itself.

Blog: http://mckade.wordpress.com/

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You Need “Thicker Skin”


We hear this often when we enter into social media, but the reality of it doesn’t always register for most. That is because most people don’t encounter that much abuse online. Oh sure, you will get the occasional troll or “outrageous” comment directed to you on your blog or in the comment section of a website. These encounters though are usually mild or “as dramatic as you wish them to be.” Some people actually like drama.

In 32 years I have never had this amount of attention focused on me or my writing. It can be exciting, daunting, frustrating, and an adventure all rolled into one. I have found that I sympathize with celebrities and public personalities more and more. I place no lofty airs around my persona, but I have also read more hateful words directed towards me in 15 months than most of the previous years of my life. This is not a complaint, simply a reflection of fact, but it shows why I can understand how celebrities get fed up easily. I brought that attention on myself when I decided to write my thoughts in an unfiltered manner.

You need “thicker skin” if you wish to truly place yourself out on social media. When I mean “yourself” I really mean all of you, documenting your life and thoughts on issues is not something to take lightly. The world looks for the next person to persecute and who better for any angry mob to pick than one that actually speaks their mind freely? That is the REAL danger of social media and why people must be careful about what they say or at the very least they should have the balls to back it up. If you aren’t prepared to defend your view don’t put it out on the internet.

-OM