10 Reasons I Hate Your Blog

1. You write all over your blog about how “you blog for yourself” and “you aren’t blogging to get rich,” but then you rant continuously about fake followers, falling stats, and no one visiting your website. Do you really care? I am confused.

2. Every post you write starts with “I am sorry to say this, but ___.” Even your comments begin with an apology. You might just be the sorriest person I have ever met.

3. All of your posts are quotes from great writers, philosophers, or thinkers from history. The problem is I actually have read most of their books myself so I really don’t need a Reader full of random quotes you found interesting. Besides the order in which you share them makes me seriously wonder if you actually read the damn books to begin with.

4. You “found” God and you are on a quest to show him to everyone. In the world. Every day. Not just on Sundays. Every day.

5. I have seen so many pictures of your dog that I have hunger pains. I blame the Korean in me.

6. Your blog reads EXACTLY like CNN. As “IF” you literally wrote an article on every “hot topic” because everyone else was. You don’t even share it in a new and exciting way… it is just like reading CNN.

7. You aren’t funny, but you think you are.

8. You write relationship advice and claim to be an expert and yet you show in your bio that you are three times divorced. Shouldn’t you pick a different topic? I mean obviously the Love Doctor act really isn’t panning out. Or maybe you are simply one of those people that can easily help others, just never yourself.

9. Every post you write is about a new sexual exploit. While I am all for “kinky,” I highly doubt you are hooking up with multiple people a day, every day. If you are… you are just gross and so is your blog.

10. You write strongly on bullying, but never with personal experience. It is always “I knew a person once” or “A girl I know.” It is pretty obvious you have never been truly bullied in your life. Having a “rough day” doesn’t count as a life of being bullied either…


To Guest Bloggers

Thank you for all the emails and inquiries into guest posting on HarsH ReaLiTy. I am slowly making my way through the list and I will pick this back up after the holiday break. If anyone else is interested please refer to the below link.



I am a Reader

I frequently see authors and writers complaining about blogging and the “lack of readers” on every platform they can name. Well if you are looking for a “reader” then look no further. I am a reader. That doesn’t mean I will read what you write however.

I am a reader. A single reader with two eyes and just as limited time as anyone else. I view WordPress as a giant newspaper with a live feed being added to it. Just because I subscribe to that “paper” doesn’t mean I am making a promise to read every article on it. That is up to the writer, to all of you. Bloggers are part of the same fabric of social media as everyone else and have an equal opportunity to be recognized because of that fact. For every person that says “I write for myself and don’t care if anyone reads my work” there are literally ten bloggers that DO CARE and DO HOPE to be read. This post is for them and the rest of you can go back to writing your thousands of words a day for no one. Enjoy that experience…

We are all responsible for creating our own popularity online. At least those of us that write, share, post, and blog without a corporate label on our ass. That would obviously include me, remember I am a simple blogger just like everyone else. We hack it out, we grind each day to stay in the game and keep motivated, and we learn as we go along. Adaption and learning are key to anything you wish to be good at and there is no professional sport you can point to that people aren’t always trying to improve. Even professional athletes are always striving to get better. There is no crying in baseball people.

As a reader I expect writers to cater to me. To attract me and gain my interest. That is an expectation ALL READERS have and the bloggers that are not getting read are either not blogging properly or are publishing poor materiel. Only you can fix that and it only comes from actively striving to improve. How many bloggers feel they know it all? That they know everything about social media, publishing, marketing, writing, and have all the pieces they need to create their own dream? Not many people feel that way which is why many bloggers follow my website. They hope to gain knowledge just as I myself seek innovative information every day. What are you doing to improve yourself?

By picturing WordPress as a giant newspaper and not as “a close community where everyone cares about you” people can begin to see the harsh reality. We are all in a rat race if we truly wish to be read and recognized. It may not be a competition, but it should always be viewed as a journey of self-improvement. Drop the expectations bloggers and instead work on actively finding ways of engaging readers. The readers did not all disappear and in many cases those “readers” now wish to be writers themselves. Their time is even more valuable than it was and it is then up to you as the writer to step up your game to gain their attention. How will you do that?


Daily Blogging Goals

One of my daily blogging goals is to gain over a thousand views by noon of the next day. That signifies that I have pushed and promoted my blog successfully the night before. It also means I connected topic wise with my readers in other countries. My blog does not have a steady view count and does not receive tens of thousands of views a day. Every view I receive I work hard for in hopes of presenting something that the viewer enjoys. I also believe I have more to offer than other bloggers. You MUST have that confidence and conviction about your own work to get noticed. If you don’t believe your own blog is worth reading why would anyone else believe that first?


Blogger Engagement

For every blogger, author, writer, or dabbler out there that complains about lack of traffic I have a few questions you might want to ask yourself.

Do you respond to comments on your page? If you don’t respond to comments I won’t ever revisit your website. Your lack of interaction has killed any motivation I had to engage you in dialogue. Fix that and then we can talk.

How many blogs do you visit each week? Each day? If the answer is zero then why should ANYONE ever visit your blog? While you sit in your corner complaining other people are meeting new bloggers each day. It is not that blogging is dying, it is that you are killing your own experience before it even begins.

How many other posts do you comment on? If the answer is a big goose egg then you have found your problem. Comments and interaction are like “trails” that lead back to guess what? Your blog! Without a trail to follow no one will ever find you.

If no one reads your posts, comments, or “likes” them ask yourself how many times you post daily. If you only post once a week or even once a day you won’t gain much of an audience. There is only so much attention sending a single boat down the river can gain.

If no one ever revisits your website there might be a good reason why. Do you change your gravatar every day? Do you switch your template every week? Do you have a habit of closing and opening “new blogs” when you feel tired of the old one? All of these are reasons why people will stop following you. All of these are annoying as shit.

Ever wonder why no one reblogs or reboots your posts? How often do you do it for others? But people are supposed to fall over themselves to do you favors first right? That is a great attitude.

If you are wondering about your lack of success in blogging ask yourself what you are doing to pursue that success. If you are waiting for handouts and helping hands you won’t get very far in blogging. Actually you won’t get very far in life either.

-Opinionated Man

Guest Post – The Real Reasons I Blog

1. To ward off dementia.

2. Stay in touch with my roots. No such thing as overworking with Koreans. Rest? Psh. That’s what the grave is for.

3. I don’t want to clean. Who in their right mind would choose mopping and dusting over THIS?

4. It’s my one rightful obsession. I don’t drink, smoke, go on shopping sprees, or get pedicures. You gotta give me sOmething.

5. It’s my only chance at keeping up with technology. I’m terrified to tweet, annoyed with Facebook, have yet to go near an iPod, hate texting.

6. The discussions are the bomb. My readers save me money on therapy. I didn’t have to go this year.

7. I’m repressed. Parents didn’t let me stay out at night. I get to party ’round the clock as the comments roll in.

8. I hand out advice on stuff: blogging, life, men and women. And all these people think I’m for real.

9. I can do whatever. I. want. on my blog and people like me for it. Go figure.

10. I haven’t had this much fun since…since…
*Slump* Pathetic. (Time for my next pick-me-up post)

Wayfarer on A Holistic Journey