You Can’t Help Them All

I have to remind myself sometimes that I can’t help them all. I don’t see myself as some Joel Osteen and I never want to be. I see people struggling though, trying to figure it all out… and it sticks with me. I may not react that day, but sometimes weeks later I’ll revisit their blog and share one of their posts. No I am not the Korean Santa Claus, I just think it takes such little effort sometimes to help people and why not do it? Why not? Everyone is so focused on their dreams and goals and I am no exception to that. That is why I browse a lot of new blogs every week, to inspire myself and remind me why I love to blog. I am reminded every time I see a new blogger happy with their first post, their first follow, or their first view.

“You can’t help them all.” I can’t help them all; I just don’t have the time or energy. And so I help when and where I can because I remember when I first started last year and the large bloggers wouldn’t give me the time of day. They wouldn’t answer questions or emails and treated me like another peon. No one wants to feel that way, myself included. I treat other bloggers as equals because that is what we are. We are all here pouring our hearts out through our medians and that is blogging. That is why we do it.

Motivation and inspiration are so easy to give. It can come in the form of a random comment or visit to a person’s blog, a kind word of encouragement to someone that is struggling, or just simply recognizing the existence of a person. As much as I network and push my blog, I recognize that the people I push it to ARE real people. That is a difference in outlook by choice and why I don’t refer to those that visit my website as “fans.” You never know who you might be helping even when you don’t actively try. You can’t help them all, but you can easily help someone.

Who will you help today?


One Day Left

Opinionated Man:

I wish you the best with your novel! I hope some people check it out! -OM
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Originally posted on aurorawatcherak:

Read The Willow BranchMy Thunderclap campaign for The Willow Branch has just one day left. On November 25, if I have 100 supporters, a message will go out to through Facebook, Twitter and other social media all at one time. I have 21 supporters so far and a potential social media engagement of over 25,000.

If you haven’t already done so, help a novel out by following the link and lending your social media voice.

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Write Without Fear

Some days I post and I can watch my subscriber number fall like a dying human’s heartbeat. It would actually be alarming to a lot of other bloggers, but for me it is business as usual. I do not “write for offense,” I simply write without fear.

The world wants obedient humans living on it. Society wants subservient robots working in it. Blogs are our voice to the world that we are not all alike. We are not labels, we are not “groups,” we are not races, we are in fact people with daily lives and growing opinions. When we write without fear and share our thoughts with the world we practice a form of liberty that should be celebrated daily. That should never be lost.

You may have read some blog posts or articles on how “blogging gives journalism” a bad name due to the unprofessionalism of most bloggers. Here is what many journalists don’t get, bloggers don’t write to be professional. We write to share and to show we care and that process does not require the technical stages that journalism does. Should we still strive to put out good material? Absolutely, but a personal opinion should never be silenced in the blogosphere for failing to meet the technical requirements of others. We are not all professional writers here, but we still write.

I post about things I care about. I harp on subjects that really interest me just like anyone else. That is what makes a blog authentic and your readers will know whether or not you truly mean your words in most cases. Speak plainly and loudly without fear or shame of your opinions. They are what make us individuals.


CHUFFED!! Stats ☺

Opinionated Man:

Great numbers and congrats on your blogging progress! It is always nice to see bloggers excited about blogging! Well done! -OM
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Over 1,200 Views and 67 Followers since I created my blog 11 days ago. #GRATEFUL #MOVED #DELIGHTED #MISTY-EYED #WIDESMILINGHEART

Abundant joy for all the sensational souls I’ve been introduced to and am engaging in loving, positive conversation with here on WordPress and for the visitors, my friends and family, and the many new friendships made in Twitterland.

This IS my WHY for being here. Nothing else matters, bottom line.

You have bolstered my confidence, served greatly in the recovery process of my Mental Health…inspired deeper self-love, integrity, creativity and compassion.

A debt of gratitude to you all for your support and for sharing your magnificent spirit with me.

Peace, love & light,

PS Named after my Nan DeGruchy, her beloved called her Jewel which began a tradition for others that lasted her lifetime. I steal it from time to time ;)

Jewel & Phil DeGruchy ?


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Three people who deserve my thanks

Opinionated Man:

A “thank you” is never wasted! I appreciate you taking the time and thanks for the kind mention! -OM
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Originally posted on Lucky Otter's Haven & Museum of Narcissists:


Three vastly different people have turned out to be the best things to happen to this blog, and in the spirit of Thanksgiving, they deserve credit and thanks for their positive influence, so here goes.

1. Opinionated Man.

OM’s blog (Harsh Reality), as most of us know, is a godsend to new bloggers hoping to get more visibility and learn the ropes of blogging. He follows new blogs and offers encouragement, advice (that actually works!), and support to newbies and veteran bloggers alike. He also answers all questions posed to him on his blog, no small feat for someone who is so prolific and has so many followers. He also answers them quickly.

In my case (as I’m sure in many others), OM reblogged an early post of mine, which gave my blog a huge boost in visibility and gained me a smallish but loyal following. That in…

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Illegal Immigration – Why is it such a big deal?

Illegal immigration is a big deal ALL OVER THE WORLD! The only reason people love to point at America on it is because of our history, how this nation was formed, and our willingness to trumpet a banner of “freedom.” Those reasons make us a target when it comes to dealing with the subject, but how fair is that really?

The largest group of illegal immigrants in the United States is from Mexico because of how close that country is and they number almost 50% of the illegal population here. What happens to an illegal America in Mexico? Does anyone know? Well that depends on who you speak to, but most assuredly you will be jailed and deported. You will also most likely be robbed of any cash you have on hand because the Mexican “police force” is a corrupt entity because it really isn’t an entity at all. How is it that we only harp on how illegals are deported from America and never once does anyone research what happens to illegals in other nations? Do you honestly believe they are treated better in other countries?

What people don’t realize is what happens when a large group of illegal immigrants moves to your city, county, or even your neighborhood. Suddenly your child’s school fills up months earlier and the classrooms are packed with children and an overwhelmed teacher. Now if you are rich and go to a private school you might never witness this. You may never see a single effect of illegal immigration and GOOD FOR YOU if you can afford to avoid it. Illegal immigration directly affects the lower and middle classes and that is why so many people care. That is why so many people are against it.

There was an old argument that “illegals do the jobs people don’t want to do,” and in some cases that reasoning may be valid. That doesn’t excuse the fact that they are here illegally though and we might want to edit those views according to current day struggles. There are many Americans doing jobs they thought they would never do, that they never had to do previously. As many people that say “well Americans won’t pick vegetables,” I can point out large groups that now will because they are struggling. We also have a lot of people that won’t do contract killing… does that suddenly make it right for contract killers to live in America?

I once had an argument with someone over illegal immigration and I said simply that “people should wait their turn in line.” I then explained that I too had to wait my turn to be naturalized and I was left on the street when I was a child before being adopted. I understand why people want to come to America, but that doesn’t make it right to skip those in line that have been waiting their turn. The commenter made note to me that “being in need as an adult is a lot different than as a child and that there are plenty of homeless kids running around Asia.” So I suppose that was intended to make me and the other Asian orphans feel better… “don’t worry there are tons of you hungry at the same time! Bond over that!” I am really glad I have the blogosphere to educate me on being “needy” and showing me that their “needs” are greater and that is why their rights matter more than mine.

With Obama’s “pardon” of around 5 million illegals, and yes it was a PARDON since you were all criminals for being here to begin with, he has shown another example of how American politicians will bend the law as they wish. And I mean all politicians so don’t start in on “Republican this and Democrat that.” This is just another example of the “hide and seek” nation we have created since we have a history of “pardoning people” if they are able to hide for long enough here. Hell we even granted that for harsher crimes than illegal immigration when we allowed criminals a pardon for essentially the same thing, being able to hide. Sounds like the building blocks of a great nation to me.

This country is struggling. Oh sure on the outside we all look like we are doing well still. There is McDonalds and happy people on the television and the world considers “American Life” still as a staple of happiness. That façade is quickly eroding as our money runs out, wars carry on, and our money goes to fund things no one in this nation cares about but a select few. Illegal immigration and the acceptance of 5 million illegals that were “good at hiding” is just another example. This country will break itself before anyone else does.

-Opinionated Man