A basic Dosirakbento and thoughts on blogging

Opinionated Man:

“Why do I blog? And for whom?” The magic question! ;)

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Basic dosirak bento

A basic dosirakbento

A few days ago I was talking with a friend about my blog and she remarked that my recent blog posts have received a lot more likes than before. We tried to pinpoint the blog post where my “followers” and “likes” count suddenly started to go up, but couldn’t really decide when it happened. After that conversation, I actually went to have a look at my stats and saw that in July the numbers trebled from 522 (June) to 1465 views (July)!

But my stats are not the reason why I wanted to bring up the subject “thoughts on blogging”. Because during that same conversation I said something along the lines of “well, yes, I’m very happy that I have new followers and likes, but I do sometimes feel obliged to make sure I create nice and interesting looking lunches / blog posts”.  Her response was to ask…

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Unimportant Me

I revel in the fact that I am unimportant because if I “mattered” then I would have to watch what I say. I will never run for political office, will never be Star Fleet Commander, and will never appear on TV to defend my views. I have always found it amusing how “random people” get thrust into the limelight against their will and often times it is due to the “one time” they dare to express their true opinions. Isn’t it amusing, for instance, how the Freshly Pressed staff normally picks very soft bloggers to feature and in turn forces them into the arena? They rarely pick controversial blogs that I have noticed and I wonder if that is on purpose.

Unimportant me lives an unimportant life and that life gives me the freedom to say what I wish. There will be no blow back from my work, family, religion, or conscience from the things I write and I must admit… I thrive on that freedom. I love it.

Blogging is for real forms of expression and writers come on here to write. If all I wanted to do is share thought farts I would stick to Twitter.



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Tagging – Spreading the love

I know everyone by now has read a post on tagging. I have read many of them and I find that sometimes people leave out some key pieces of info. I thought I would share some of the points I think people leave out.

Yes, we know by now that you are allowed up to 15 tags per post. These tags will then “filter” your post into the appropriate category and they will then enter the overall WordPress reader. Categories count as a tag so if you add a post to one or more categories you must then remove some of the additional tags or your post will go “p00f!”

Here is the part that people miss. Humans are creatures of habit and that flows over into blogging. Often people will habitually use the exact same tags over and over and that is a huge mistake. For starters if you are only using the overall general tags of WP, such as blog, blogging, wordpress, writing, life, love, sex, relationships, food, photography,  and art, then your posts are only visible real time. They get flooded out. Some people will suggest that you use “unique tags” to make your post stand out. That is true BUT to get noticed someone actually has to think of looking for that tag. So if you use a tag like “my cute red socks” your post will never be found off that tag search. Generally people only search for a single or a double word phrase.

I follow a lot of blogs, obviously, but I ALSO read a ton of blogs. I am a silent reader for the most part unless I feel prompted to comment, but one thing I always look at is how people are tagging. What is trending and what are people using these days. Tags and titles ARE the SEO of WordPress. Not of google. The truth is you don’t need “general SEO” to grow an audience if your blog is on WordPress. Your audience is already here and all they are waiting for is an invitation to come to your site.

Tags are almost as important as titles because both serve the same purpose. If you truly want your articles read you need to understand “how” to get them read. Understanding tagging is a good start.


Thank You WordPress

I just wanted to thank WordPress and their staff for the incredible job they do. Too often do we take for granted the free platforms that are created through the engineering, work, and backing of others. Instead we moan and groan when things don’t act “just perfectly.” Heaven forbid there is an UPDATE!

Everyone that is using WordPress for free, as in you are not paying for a premium account or domain, needs to take a second and reflect. What are you offering to the world? If all you are giving is complaints about a free website… check your attitude or go make your own platform.


I do what I want

I do what I want. I understand that some people get angry over my reposts because they clog of their readers. I suggest either blocking my posts, not subscribing by email, or simply unfollow my blog. I never understand why people begin to think a blogger “writes for them.” I suppose if this website said CNN or Yahoo people could claim that… but it doesn’t does it? It says HarsH ReaLiTy which just happens to be the title of my personal blog. Imagine that.

I write whatever I feel like here because that is the freedom of blogging. Do I want to bash the president? Do I want to complain about the cold French fries I got for lunch? Do I want to complain about trolls that write posts about me? I make the decision what to write, no one makes that for me.

If you are put off by my current content stop visiting. Feel free to come back another day, but you won’t get an apology from me. Why would I do that? I do what I want.


Kaufmans Kavalkade – Troll

Dear Kaufmans Kavalkade,

We all now see how pathetic you are. You attack smaller bloggers that can’t fight back and when a real challenge comes your way you run like a coward. Stay hidden and back off my friends.

-Opinionated Man

Blogs are like homes. Don’t fart in my home.

I am constantly amazed at how unaware people are of their surroundings. This would explain how a person is actually able to walk into a lake following Google maps… and then get mad about it and try to sue. That is a true story by the way.

One of the first things I noticed about blogging is how quickly people can build loyalties online. It doesn’t seem to matter whether they are self-proclaimed introverts (has anyone noticed how trendy it has become to call yourself an introvert these days?) or people that were probably Mr. and Mrs. Popular in High School. We all seem to rub shoulders equally on the blogosphere and that is what makes blogging fun for many of us. Half the time we, or perhaps this is just me, don’t care what your avatar or picture looks like. Besides… most of those are fake anyways or they are the “REALLY FAR AWAY SHOT” that might as well just show a landscape or the sun.

As with anything you will bond and find groups you wish to be a part of. Communities thrive online and are especially important for writers seeking motivation to keep going. Daily. This is also not a bad thing, but here is the part that gets me. When I walk into a party where I know absolutely no one I don’t immediately show my ass and let out a big fart. Instead I feel out the atmosphere of the place, get comfortable, and then I let it out… silently…

Many first time visitors to my blog are surprised by the fact that a response to their comment actually doesn’t come from me. I am shocked sometimes as well at how quickly others respond because I am pretty fast about it myself. Am I going to apologize for having gathered bloggers here that feel comfortable enough to tell a newbie what they think I will say? No, I won’t. We are all adults here, at least we are supposed to be, and I leave people to fend for themselves for the most part in the comments section. There are arguments still going on in threads that are months old on this blog and that is what makes this blog unique compared to most.

I have stepped in a few times and that is normally when I feel that someone is intentionally picking on another blogger on HR. I hold that right because everyone that visits here has the right to safely read and comment without fear. Understand that sharing opinions freely is different from being combative with your comments. I have always had a soft spot for people I see as falling victim to those that consider themselves to be of greater intelligence. I don’t understand the need of educated people to display their knowledge by knocking others down. As much as I may consider myself intelligent (possibly the smartest Korean in the world), I am fully aware there is always a brighter pebble out there… on some planet…


Guess what? I care.

It has become trendy for people to adopt an “I don’t care” attitude in regards to success and failure. I believe it presents an easy way for people to write off their shortcomings and offers an excuse for why failure occurs.

I read a lot of blog posts daily and one of the most popular approaches to blogging “stagnation” is to adopt this type of attitude to explain a lack of success. Some bloggers think it is even cool to throw that personality at other bloggers in hopes of making themselves feel better. “Oh you care about numbers? I write for myself…” is commonly said to me. At this point anyone that feels the need to say “oh you care about numbers” to me is an idiot. Of course I care about numbers that is what blogging is to me.

How many indie authors claim to not care about success, but then they moan about “bad reviews” and people not buying their book. Which is it? Do you care about your work , dreams, and goals or are you going to shrug it all off because that is easier than increasing your effort?

I care about my blog and pour countless hours into it. I am not sure what I will promote in the future, but right now I push myself to network each day with as many bloggers as I can reach. I care to do this because I understand that the results I get are equal to the amount of energy I put in. I don’t sit around and make excuses for why other blogs are more successful than mine, I don’t sit around and claim I don’t care when I really do, and I don’t need any help from anyone else.

The hours I spend on my site directly affect the number of views, subscribers, and comments I receive each day. I do not write stupid articles about “fake likes, fake follows, and fake views” because I value every single view for what it is. Who cares if it is a bot or a person as long as a connection is received? Bloggers that worry overly about whether or not their followers are real tend to miss the point about blogging. It is about who you really connect with and not about whom you “might” be connecting with. Worry about those real interactions instead of wasting precious blogging time.

If you want to care about your blog feel free to be proud of it. Ignore the people that look down on those of us that care. They are simply mad that they don’t share our passion for blogging.


Blogging: They Aren’t Coming Back…

I often tell you that I don’t count on return visits from my followers. I want to share with you a stat image that will further highlight this fact.


You will notice from my graph that there are definite times when my website goes up in views and then trails off to a smaller number. The normal four days or so of heightened views is due in part to my posts, but mainly due to my follower gathering methods.

You see I pick and choose when my website gets viewed heavily and when it becomes dormant. I control this through adjusting my three focus points on blogging and in doing so I adjust the “potential viewers” according to the output. Whether I am currently writing, about to post, or have just posted something I think is of value that is when I pump my numbers towards my blog. When my “weekend comes” and I decide to relax my numbers begin to fall significantly. This is all to show that my website fluctuates, just like many of yours do. It is a normal thing unless you are able to harness corporate traffic.

Most bloggers will tell you that to have a successful website you must have “focus,” a clear goal or blogging subject, and that you must post consistently to get views and new followers. Most bloggers don’t have any clue what they are talking about. They are simply repeating what they have read or what they are told and have NO REAL DATA to even go by. They are just talking. I don’t listen to “most bloggers” and neither should you.

I post when I want, what I want, and even TO whomever I want. What do I mean by “to” whomever I want? Part of gaining attention to a post or article isn’t always looking for those that will agree. I purposefully draw in large numbers of people that will “potentially” hate my work. I do this because you can easily get more views from someone that hates everything they are reading on a site than from someone that totally agrees with everything you have wrote. Most people that find a website “in line with their beliefs” will skim and save that address, but they may never revisit. Why would they? They already agree with everything you wrote so reading your work is much like reading their own thoughts. That quickly becomes boring because people are drawn to controversy and debate these days.

“They aren’t coming back…” I remember saying this to myself in my second month of blogging. It was when I began to fully understand the relationship I was creating with my readers and the potentially “deceitful” value that it had. Sure I found and you will also find bloggers that instantly connect with you. Those connections many times have an expiration date that is never clear, but normally comes around the time you suddenly stop seeing their username anymore as a comment. It happens and will always happen. If you are serious about building an audience they cannot have a face, it must be an ever changing and growing thing. When you begin to “depend” on certain audience members for views you will find yourself waiting by the door. Guess what?

They aren’t coming back…


Your Audience is Not Your Friend

You may find that after you gain a certain number of readers you will begin to feel “secure” in your own environment. This is not a bad thing and a writer should feel comfortable in their own “realm.” I get emails asking me how I write on the hard topics without pause. I have an easy answer for this. Only write on highly charged subjects if you are prepared to fight the good fight alone.

The meaning of my title is pretty straight forward. Don’t rely on your audience to defend you or to support your views. Instead, only write on topics that you are willing to defend, possibly debate, or expound on further. If you are unwilling to suffer the criticism that comes from writing an article, don’t write the post.

Many new readers and perhaps some of my old followers possibly feel that I sit around and brain storm ideas for articles that will generate debate and contention. While I will agree that my writing style does seem to generate this atmosphere, I can assure each of you that my posts are as random as they can possibly be… and still originate from the same brain. I simply enjoy poking anything I can with a stick and watching the ants run. That doesn’t mean I walk around with a stick though…

As you make connections on WordPress you will encounter people that will become “friends” to an extent. I am still of the habit of always being aware of reality, and that reality is that “friends” are always around when it is sunny. As soon as a few drops of rain come, however, they quickly find greener pastures to settle into. Your audience is not your friend.

-Opinionated Man

When Blogging becomes Work

There may come a time when your blog becomes to feel like work. Like actual work that you should be getting paid for. There really isn’t a number associated with this feeling either. I have seen VERY active Christian blogs with 5,000 members that comment daily and photo blogs that get 100 likes an hour it seems. There are audiences for anyone that wants to find them out there and with those likes, views, comments, and personal emails of admiration comes work. It can’t really be described as anything else when it reaches a certain obligation and time constraint.

I passed “fun blogging” a long time ago. I am not sure if a “fun blog” was ever really my goal on WordPress. As I have stated before I learned I wanted to be a powerblogger within the first couple weeks of making an account on January 3rd, 2013. That was pretty much the day I decided I wanted to be a powerblogger and that is what I have done. There is no magic unicorn or genie that grants a wish and I was never Freshly Pressed nor will I ever be. It was through work ethic and my blogging model that HarsH ReaLiTy is what it IS.

Some nights I ponder why I keep blogging. I don’t get paid for it and I run this website alone. Notice you have never seen a blogger, despite the numerous Guest Bloggers I host, that has stated they co-own this website. If so I want to meet him or her because they are falling behind on their half of the labor. The only other person that can state claim to this blog is my wife and she only does the painting. When a blog becomes work many people take on partners. Well that works for some, but as I have said before I don’t play well with others. I have normally found that other humans are generally not in line with my train of thought. Imagine that…

When does a blog become work? Is it when it takes up a certain amount of time or when obligation enters into the playing field? Like I said, I really wouldn’t know because blogging has always been about work to me. That is just how I like to play.



Social Media – My Biggest Mistake

I have built some perspectives on social media platforms through the years. My entrance into the “internet” was actually not like most other kids. My parents were very religious and hesitant about the internet and the content we might find on it. I got a late start, but quickly connected with people through different platforms such as mIRC, ICQ, MSN, AIM, Trillian, avidgamers, and a lot of gaming sites at the end of high school and through college. People might not realize how “geeky” gamers can get, but I think that most gamers were the first to begin social media connection purely for the sake of video games. I built forums, created webpages, slayed some dragons, and enjoyed learning about social media during those years.

My biggest mistake when creating www.aopinionatedman.com was not making mirror platforms on Facebook and Twitter (@smokendust) sooner. It just wasn’t important to me at the time and I also hated Facebook. I am now rushing to try and catch those numbers up and it is simply not possible. Google + is also a great tool for social networking that I wish I had begun when I created the website. I regret that the most when I consider the road of this blog and that is honestly saying something considering I have already tried my hand at a number of things. I don’t look at “attempts” as either a success or a failure. I just see opportunities to learn, try, and do. I have always been what I consider a “doer.” I absolutely hate procrastination… I mean you still have to do that “thing” later right?

I enjoy the interaction without obligation that I get on social media. I blog because I like to write and once I pen my thoughts I can lay them to rest. Mentally at least. I really don’t strive for perfection on HarsH ReaLiTy. Instead I hope that people read what interests them and pass over the things that don’t. Someone once said they love my blog because they never know what to expect. Well I appreciate that description and it amuses me, but I also work hard to present a forum of possibility. I don’t live in a “busy city” so I created a place where I hope something is always happening. Consider it the ADHD in me.


The Sociopath

Journal Entry 48

TS: 11:21:13

… and I will never change. I see the world through tint. The different colors of my shades present the many facets of my personality. What mood am I in today?

The doorman calls me “Mr. Banks” as I leave the building. He is a Category D and would never make the collection. Still… what would it be like to play along his ribcage with my knife? One can wonder… I roll the idea around my tongue.

I stroll amongst them, a shining example no one notices. But they will notice me one day. All shapes, sizes, ages, nationalities, I see them all and shudder trimmers of desire.

Not just any can make the cut. An audition worthy of Broadway is held each day as I allow my sensations to take over and visualize the moment with each… Not a Category B today, no I will indulge myself and will not settle for second class meat.

The decision has been made and my hands start to sweat with the sheer joy from the anticipation. There is no stopping me from having what I want… what I need. It will be quiet in the night once more… soon once again.

Mr. Banks

Operation Cleanup

I will commence operation cleanup this afternoon. I know I have missed some comments and that is just not right. I’ll try to find them today and tomorrow and respond.

Regardless of how generic my responses are I do appreciate everyone that takes the time to read my blog. Thanks as well to the new subscribers. Have a safe Sunday people!


Opinionated Man @ HarsH ReaLiTy

I do not write on any other blogs. I own http://shatteredsmoke.com/, but I currently only write on this website. Any other blogs, forums, or webpages that claim me as an author are fake.

I tweet @smokendust only as well. Any other tweeter handles don’t belong to me.

I may very well be the only Korean Jason Cushman in America. Any White Jason Cushmans are not me either.

There seems to be some confusion about this so I really hope this post clears things up. I am not famous or important, I am simply Jason Cushman in Denver that writes under the name Opinionated Man.

I really wish people wouldn’t try to steal my handle.


You don’t owe your audience anything other than a reply

There is always a debate going on about blogger ethics and practice. Some authors feel that a blog is merely a “guest book” that their fans get to login to and sing that author’s praise. I suppose if you are a highly paid author you can get away with that. Even popular bloggers normally must respond to at least some comments in order to generate conversation. I believe it is all about volume really and how many voices you can get talking at one time. The more voices there are the more likely there will be conversation, debate, or sharing of some form.

I stand by a single rule in blogging and it is a personal rule. I believe each person deserves a response that visits HarsH ReaLiTy and I make the effort to provide that. It doesn’t matter if the comment back is generic, often my comments are repetitive even though I write each one myself, but I believe it is the consistency and speed that impress people. It is all about what is important to you and the interaction found here is a large part of my blogging methods.

Set your own rules but also know that your mannerisms will directly affect your audience. I choose to post on certain topics, behave in certain ways, and basically provide an unfiltered mouth because I want to. I knowingly write and act the way I do. Be sure you as well know how and why you are presenting yourself in the manner that you do online. You control the image and routine in which you blog. Own that and be yourself, and if the world doesn’t like it the world can read another blog.



How Do You Run Your Blog?

Opinionated Man:

Everyone has a “blog plan” and pace for their blogging. Thanks for sharing my post and for the kind mention. -OM
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4263193267_fb5cee0c57_zWhile reading Opinionated Man’s blog post about Powerblogging (something I’m far too lazy to do, I think) I started to wonder what other people do with their blogs. I applaud OM’s motivation and it seems to have paid off in spades for him, and I do use some of his techniques in a limited way.

For example, he says:

Generally I follow about 500 blogs a day. On a good day or perhaps a day from last year where my motivation was much higher, I would follow or connect with around 2000 blogs a day.

I do try to connect with bloggers on WordPress. I search the tags, make comments, like posts and read as much content as I have time for. I certainly do not follow anywhere near 500 blogs per day. Hell, I don’t even come close to reading 500 blogs per day, but I do read the…

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Some Powerblogger is going to kill me – Spinning Posts

I share things on this site because I am learning about blogging every day, just like all of you. I also read posts on blogging if that makes any of you feel better. Some powerblogger is going to send me a death threat for this post, but screw em. They never liked me anyways.

This past week I “spun my posts.” Basically I went back and “rescheduled” my old posts for a future date, allowing them to appear as “new posts” in the reader and WordPress feed. It did not spam my followers with emails, which was something I wasn’t positive about until I began. Spinning posts is a great way of “refreshing” old posts you like, gaining some extra views, and allowing your followers to read some of your earlier work. If done in a “moderate fashion” it can be great. If overdone it can be annoying as hell.

I overdid it on purpose the first two days to test some things. The data I gathered I now have and will go over, but the bottom line is this. There is no secret to a million views if that is your goal, but there is a trick that can be used. It is simple, gain around five to ten thousand followers, write a thousand to two thousand posts, and spin them on a continuous loop. That is what “some” powerbloggers do and they easily reach their million views in less than a year. I could do it but I always considered it “dirty.” I have adapted my view of it, but I won’t do a continuous loop. The reason I won’t personally is because I have regular readers and many powerbloggers don’t have that, they simply have visitors. My regular readers would get annoyed and I have actually come to care about keeping that small group.

Static. This website has been static for months actually and has barely grown. I should have been close to 65,000 followers by now. That is the price you pay when you write freely and publish immediately. You won’t gain many friends doing that, you won’t get many subscribers, but you will get the views. There is always the views… if that is what you care about.

(Before I get a flood of comments about “you don’t care about numbers” SAVE IT! I don’t care. I do care about the numbers.)

Note: Any powerblogger offended by me giving away “trade secrets” may email me at Idon’tgiveafuck@gmail.com


Blogging – Everyone becomes a Silent Reader… and some always were

It takes a lot to get a response from someone. That person either has to be the “talkative type” or has to connect with the words on your blog… somewhere on your blog. It can either be the article, post, comments, a bio page perhaps, or something that draws the reader to feel the need to respond. You can write wild articles, shooting from the hip like a Wild Westerner, not that we would know ANY bloggers that do that, and possibly generate some responses. You can post great artwork that moves the soul… that will generally pull forth an “awesome!” from someone. But how do you generate meaningful responses on a consistent basis?

There are ways and there are ways. I’ll share some. You will find some bloggers that write well thought out posts. They are generally consistent on their subject matter, but the posts provide references and backstory fit for a CNN.com page. I personally don’t come to WordPress to read that type of article. CNN is a hell of a lot less letters than WordPress so… I would just go to CNN. I come to WP to find unfiltered thought and raw feeling. I look for those articles, even if it comes in some other artistic form.

Blogging is not a new thing. Those of us starting recently, like I am actually, are late to the party. There are already tables being eaten at and the obvious “cool kids” and “not so cool kids” are separated as usual. The great thing about the internet is that there are no borders and we can still stake out our own claim in this place. People that think in “borders” and thoughts of “that has been done” are drawing constraining lines against their own potential. They lack the skill to look outside the need to even think of a “box scenario.” That is their own shortcoming and they have to combat that somehow.

I have spent the better part of this past year breaking down fences and drawing readers out. I have a lot of silent readers and I appreciate all of them. There are only a handful that habitually comment and that is what I mean by my title. They ALL become silent readers eventually, you have to keep working at getting NEW readers. My methods aren’t for everyone, but the point is that if you are looking for comments and “feedback” as so many have expressed then you must seek new readers. How do you do that? How did I find you? Visit other pages, seek out people writing on similar topics, find people from your country, and do all this by tag searching. It is that simple, the work is ON you. That is the thing that drew me to my current business model. With blogging you get as much as you put in, that is the fairest relationship you could ask for.

-Opinionated Man

Why My Blog is No Different from Yours

I don’t work for WordPress. I have seen some comments speculating that I do… which I find amusing since if I did indeed work for WordPress I probably wouldn’t be blogging so much would I? I think it is people trying to find an “excuse” for why other people are successful. I read a long string of reasons why they feel their own website isn’t worth reading so I thought it would be fun to compare and contrast some of the more popular ones.

My website is plain and I don’t even own my domain. No one would want to visit my blog.” The only think I paid for was my domain. I still use a FREE template and all customizations done on this website were done by me. It took time and effort, but it was worth learning “how.” You can use excuses all day to explain why people aren’t visiting your blog, but this is not a valid one. Everyone has a potential audience on WordPress.

No one will want to read what I write especially if it is personal.” Well that is simply not true. People come on WordPress to read personal views and unfiltered thought. If we wanted politically correct articles we would visit CNN.com or some other “crowd pleasing website.” The first step is finding yourself interesting and only you can do that.

“I don’t have a theme… what kind of blog doesn’t have a subject theme or some direction?” HarsH ReaLiTy has no theme. My blog has no direction. People still get onboard for the ride daily… even though we have no clue where the hell we are going! At least I provide alcohol.

“It takes time to grow an audience. Large blogs aren’t grown overnight…” I absolutely hate this saying or any quote like it. People love to think up excuses as to why they are not succeeding or getting where they wish to go. The whole “Rome wasn’t built in a day” view is worn out. In fact Rome might have been built in a day if Koreans had lived there. You can accomplish any goal you really work at in blogging. There are no rules or standards and other bloggers that suggest to you that there are have no clue what they are talking about. They are simply impressing their own limitations on you. Ignore them and do you.

“I will never have a large following because I will never be Freshly Pressed.” When I read sentences like this I want to shoot something. This is such a horrible way of viewing blogging. I have never been Freshly Pressed and will most likely never be in the future. You control your audience size… not Freshly Pressed.

-Opinionated Man

Disabling comments is Weak

I don’t understand bloggers that write highly charged articles and then disable the comments section. Are you that weak in the backbone that you won’t allow anyone to make a comment that might not agree with you? How sad must your world be where you only wish to spout your views and not allow anyone to disagree. I am as stubborn as they come and don’t “change my views” just because people or society tells me to, but I still allow people to call me an idiot in my comment section. It doesn’t faze me because I hold onto my beliefs. I need no help from moderation to do that.

If you feel so scared that you need to disable your comment section you should probably stop writing on social media. In fact I would suggest buying a notebook instead. You are obviously not cut out for this.

Yes, this rant is because I tried to comment on someone’s article and there was no option to. So freaking lame. And YES I do read blog posts daily…


Just a Blogger

I am just a blogger. Just like you all. I am no different than any of you actually and have no more power than anyone else that uses WordPress. I do not own a company. I am not a publisher. I am not an editor. I am not a rich man nor do I have the funds to invest in your product. I do what I can to give back to the bloggers here on WordPress, but I am only a single individual. I run this blog alone and do not have a team like some larger blogs do. I hate teams actually… because I generally dislike people.

I welcome all the new bloggers that have visited and are coming by recently to give my writing a read. Thank you for taking the time to check out my small corner of WordPress. I offer whatever support I can to you all, but just keep in mind what I have said above.

I am just another blogger.

-Opinionated Man

You Need “Thicker Skin”

We hear this often when we enter into social media, but the reality of it doesn’t always register for most. That is because most people don’t encounter that much abuse online. Oh sure, you will get the occasional troll or “outrageous” comment directed to you on your blog or in the comment section of a website. These encounters though are usually mild or “as dramatic as you wish them to be.” Some people actually like drama.

In 32 years I have never had this amount of attention focused on me or my writing. It can be exciting, daunting, frustrating, and an adventure all rolled into one. I have found that I sympathize with celebrities and public personalities more and more. I place no lofty airs around my persona, but I have also read more hateful words directed towards me in 15 months than most of the previous years of my life. This is not a complaint, simply a reflection of fact, but it shows why I can understand how celebrities get fed up easily. I brought that attention on myself when I decided to write my thoughts in an unfiltered manner.

You need “thicker skin” if you wish to truly place yourself out on social media. When I mean “yourself” I really mean all of you, documenting your life and thoughts on issues is not something to take lightly. The world looks for the next person to persecute and who better for any angry mob to pick than one that actually speaks their mind freely? That is the REAL danger of social media and why people must be careful about what they say or at the very least they should have the balls to back it up. If you aren’t prepared to defend your view don’t put it out on the internet.