DO NOT STEAL FROM ME


DO NOT STEAL MY ARTICLES AND RENAME A FEW THINGS TO TRY AND PAWN IT OFF AS YOUR OWN. DON’T BE A THIEF. I BROWSE WORDPRESS MORE THAN MOST BLOGGERS, I WILL SEE YOUR ARTICLE.

DON’T BE A THIEF LIKE THIS IDIOT.

http://theghanaianboy.wordpress.com/2014/04/23/women-are-crazy/

http://aopinionatedman.com/2013/12/24/women-are-crazy-the-way-to-lose-your-female-readers/?relatedposts_hit=1&relatedposts_origin=10780&relatedposts_position=0

DAMN I AM ACTUALLY MAD…

-OM

Women Are Crazy..

I am not a relationship blogger, but occasionally I will write about and share some of the experiences I have had, and truths, discovered along the way on a journey called “relationships”. Here is one important truth about women: Women are crazy and the funny part is that, they make sense to each other. This truth is hard to debate because my “evidence” below is so sound.

Women pick arguments on purpose. The only time, men pick arguments on purpose is when we do not like someone, we are drunk or when we decide to act macho in front of our ladies. Men do not often like to argue and do you know why? because men are lazy and its hard to argue with you when Manchester United is playing. So why is, women arguing so crazy? Because, the reason they pick up fights and argue with men is “to test their relationship” That is the whole “what if the glass breaks” concept that women are always trying out. They obviously have not heard of the “if it is not broke, don’t fix it concept” that we, men love.

Women ask questions, they know the answers to and they still expect an answer. And God save your soul, if the answer is not a positive one. You have to back your different answer with hard facts, though these facts will help very little since your answer is different from hers. These Q & As sessions can sometimes be tests. Your girlfriend becomes the English teacher from Hell, you hated so much in High School..
Women really dont care about your opinion most of the time. You know “they” say a good conversation is good dialogue between the two participants. Whoever “they” were, “they” were obviously not talking with a woman..

A woman does not want your input on a topic she has already decided upon. You are allowed a couple sighs, hmmmmmms (confirmation noises) to let her know that, you are are still listening and a “yes dear, that is true” at the end of her speech. That is all that is required.

One last thing, if you even dare to talk about a subject she knows nothing about (example football)- JUST GIVE UP!! Women quickly get bored with topics that don’t interest them. Notice her long silence when you are talking and the snobbish “okay” at the end of your talk. Yep! That is it right there..
Give up trying to keep up with her. Be you. Be real. Keep it short and simple. Don’t dare support her friend Leila against her or your jollof rice might just taste differently for a week. Women break down- Just be prepared for it..

I think women came up with “BBF” and “Bestie” so they could have one more thing to break up with in this world. Women are crazy.

TheGhanaianBoy
@isavedhersoul..

My Mom’s Blog


Someone asked for my mom’s blog address because the link wasn’t working from “The Other Woman” article. Here is her address if you want to visit. I would advise politeness if you visit…

http://susancushman.com/

http://aopinionatedman.com/2014/04/21/the-other-woman-by-susan-cushman/

-OM

Cush


It crossed my mind while driving today that everyone on this blog still calls me Jason. My friends actually don’t call me Jason, they call me Cush and always have. I love my last name and it provides endless scenarios of amusement. For instance I once sat and watched a job recruiter walk past me three times while muttering my name under his breath. “Jason Cushman… Jason Cushman… where the fuck is this Cushman???” Obviously not the Korean guy sitting in front of you right.

My family name is old and my father’s line is directed related to David Cushman who helped organize the Mayflower. Yea… I am bragging a bit. I am NOT related to the Cushman that owns Cushman and Wakefield that I know of. I hinted in a post months ago that I was reminded at how unsuccessful I was by a sign with my name on it… yea that was a Cushman and Wakefield sign. Mystery solved!

I have a Korean name… but I was told it was a girl’s name. An older Korean lady told me the name is actually the type that was once used for males or females. I am not sure what my “birth mother” was thinking when she named me Soojin. Maybe a Korean can explain it to me? I do know the last name Ahn is pretty common, you could throw a rock in a Korean market and hit four or five Ahns at a time. They probably will kung-fu your ass though, so I wouldn’t recommend it.

-OM

I am a horrible writer


I often get amused when I get such positive feedback and wonder whether honesty accompanies the words given to me. I think I am a horrible writer on most days, but like every writing blogger I still write. Because I love it.

I dream about writing and hope for the prefect sentence. It is the ultimate quest and I love that it is endless. For what sentence cannot be trumped by a better one? I can only fantasize to write a line that may be considered in that same topic.

I rarely like my writing and I wonder if that same affliction affects other writers. I call it an affliction because it can be taken in one of two ways, as motivation or as a hindrance. I choose to use it as a motivator and always push myself to write new things. I don’t think I have ever written two posts exactly alike on this blog… and that is saying something considering I have written over 4,000 posts in 15 months. How many of those were good though, I catch myself pondering the thought.

I judge myself by myself and always have. I absolutely hate being compared to anyone and you know what I AM BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE. Sometimes it just feels good to say that because “fuck it” why not? The only person that can prove me wrong is myself.

-Opinionated Man

Glass Heart


Shatter me with your lust. Listen for the echoes of bewilderment that sound from this empty vessel. Do you hear a beat or instead the slurping sound from the straw of life. The finicky thief steals my last desire, but still the safe is left behind. What good is a door that guards a wish… I wish for it still, if only just for a single beat.

-OM

Dear Followers


Opinionated Man:

What an awesome list and a great way to connect with other bloggers! Thanks for taking the time and for the nice mention!
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Originally posted on On my way to the top:

Happy Monday fellow bloggers/followers! I wanted to say once again THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. I absolutely LOVE hearing from you. I LOVE when people come up to me at random, or text me, message me, instagram me and tell me that they can relate to a blog post or that they enjoyed what they read. It means the world to me to have what I have written inspire you. Or make you laugh. Or to make you think “Lord have mercy I am glad I’m not that girl” Whatever it may be, thank you for taking the time to read what I have to say. I realized I didn’t know much about my followers on my blog, so I followed almost everyone back and read through your blogs over the last few days. I am so glad I did this! I was so pleasantly surprised and…

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I hate you


What stands the test of time like hate? Love comes and goes, sadness is coffee’s companion, and yet hate is enjoyed at all hours of the day. What is more liberating than hate? Free of constraint and obligation, I freely spread the flames of my fury without hindrance. In my need to destroy I will often burn the unsuspecting. The guiltless will look on in bemusement as the guilty are stabbed by the spear of aggression. Do I need permission to wield this mace of vengeance simply for the sake of spite? Who dares stay my hand with words of law or an overwhelming feeling of “wrong?”

There is one that dares. Might I not hate “him” the most for that very reason?

-OM

Why My Blog is No Different from Yours


I don’t work for WordPress. I have seen some comments speculating that I do… which I find amusing since if I did indeed work for WordPress I probably wouldn’t be blogging so much would I? I think it is people trying to find an “excuse” for why other people are successful. I read a long string of reasons why they feel their own website isn’t worth reading so I thought it would be fun to compare and contrast some of the more popular ones.

My website is plain and I don’t even own my domain. No one would want to visit my blog.” The only think I paid for was my domain. I still use a FREE template and all customizations done on this website were done by me. It took time and effort, but it was worth learning “how.” You can use excuses all day to explain why people aren’t visiting your blog, but this is not a valid one. Everyone has a potential audience on WordPress.

No one will want to read what I write especially if it is personal.” Well that is simply not true. People come on WordPress to read personal views and unfiltered thought. If we wanted politically correct articles we would visit CNN.com or some other “crowd pleasing website.” The first step is finding yourself interesting and only you can do that.

“I don’t have a theme… what kind of blog doesn’t have a subject theme or some direction?” HarsH ReaLiTy has no theme. My blog has no direction. People still get onboard for the ride daily… even though we have no clue where the hell we are going! At least I provide alcohol.

“It takes time to grow an audience. Large blogs aren’t grown overnight…” I absolutely hate this saying or any quote like it. People love to think up excuses as to why they are not succeeding or getting where they wish to go. The whole “Rome wasn’t built in a day” view is worn out. In fact Rome might have been built in a day if Koreans had lived there. You can accomplish any goal you really work at in blogging. There are no rules or standards and other bloggers that suggest to you that there are have no clue what they are talking about. They are simply impressing their own limitations on you. Ignore them and do you.

“I will never have a large following because I will never be Freshly Pressed.” When I read sentences like this I want to shoot something. This is such a horrible way of viewing blogging. I have never been Freshly Pressed and will most likely never be in the future. You control your audience size… not Freshly Pressed.

-Opinionated Man

Relationship Blogs – Women GET to be Picky!


I love reading relationship posts, dating, and articles on love when a woman states how hard it is to “get a guy.” I think often the wording being used is wrong because in most cases the woman is talking about a specific guy or a certain type. In general I feel it is VERY easy for women to get guys… just perhaps not the “Brad Pitt” they are looking for.

I am of the strong opinion that most women can afford to be picky in relationships. It really doesn’t matter how cute she is or even how attractive she finds herself, the bottom line is that in most cases women hold the control of whether or not a relationship will take place. Often times you will read women posting their relationship woes and the truth is that they are going for men that are out of their league. The reality is that even though a woman may not be able to pick a certain “category of man” she still has her “choice” in the groups below that one. This does not take into consideration matters of confidence, but I suppose that is really what this article is about. Why do women lack confidence in relationships when they deal the cards, choose the game, and even decide when the game ends?

Only certain men get to be picky. I love it when feminist and disgruntled women paint ALL MEN as predators. “We are all so aggressive in love and lust and we take what is not given to us.” The stereotype that men are the most forward sex is dead wrong. I am not sure what 5% of men in the world set the bar for ALL other men, but the majority of guys I have encountered are anything but aggressive. Sure I know a few that might be classified as “players,” but they do not constitute the majority. Personally I would be annoyed to see all men act alike and always be on the hunt. How ridiculous would the club scene be if every man in the building were equal in their sexual aggression? Are women missing the group of nerds in the corner daring each other to ask a pretty girl at the bar out? Or the fifty guys dancing with the “wall” because they don’t dare move a few steps onto the dance floor? But all men are misogynist bastards out for the kill right? Wrong…

Women get to be picky and that is their right as the “fairer sex.” Was that offensive? Too bad, I wouldn’t even begin to feel sorry for saying the truth. And the truth is that the men many of you women are ranting about consist of such a small percentage of males it isn’t even worth the generalization. But go ahead with your blanket statements of men and how hard relationships are for women. I’m not buying it.

-Opinionated Man

Think before you reblog


I have some real haters on WordPress that will attack you for reblogging me. They won’t read anything but the repost of my article and it will turn them off from your website. Think before you reblog one of my posts. Some people are just pathetic.

-OM

Collaborative SEO – Powerblogging On Steriods


Opinionated Man:

Three things. 1 – WordPress has been unfollowing people randomly for some reason. Why did I just have to refollow you? 2 – I also like Malone’s site. 3 – Is it strange I didn’t know about your .com website?
Thanks for the kind words and for sending me the link. I needed the pickmeup after having two strikes thrown at me in a row. -OM
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I’ve been kicked in the teeth, hard, plenty of times. As one ages it’s harder to get back up, dust oneself off and get back on it. Age brings with it wisdom which is the gift of time.

One of the things I so realised when I’ve been knocked down is that we can’t do *everything* on our own, or it’s incredibly difficult to do it on one’s own. Social media only serves to re-iterate the point. So my perspective is that we need to learn ways to “do it” in relationship with other people, bringing each other up.

A movie I like is “Scarface” and this kind of serves to illustrate my point. Yes Tony becomes incredibly successful, but his problem is that he’s done it on his own, he’s not really sharing his success with anyone else, or letting anyone enjoy their success. It’s got some elements of…

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Current Search – “How to tell if your wife is trying to poison you”


“How to tell if your wife is trying to poison you” is a current Google search for my blog today. And you people think I am not providing a service… I told you!

http://aopinionatedman.com/2014/04/17/signs-your-wife-is-trying-to-kill-you/

-OM

Author Bios – Got a Good One?


As many of you know after 15 months of writing under a pseudonym I finally shared a photo and my name. I know… maybe the most important thing to happen this year. I decided to review my Author Bio, but after rereading it there really isn’t anything I want to change other than adding my name. I suppose that simply means I was being honest all along.

Do you have a good Author Bio written? If you do and would like to share the link please feel free to do so here. A lot of new bloggers struggle with their introductory pages and it might help some.

-OM

http://aopinionatedman.com/harsh-reality/

I Reblog for my Readers


To answer the question, I reblog to give back to my readers. I appreciate that they take the time to come to my website, sometimes daily, and give my writing a read. That is why I do random challenges or similar offers. I actually annoy the hell out of my followers and even have some unsubscribe when I do reblog “overly,” but that is OK to me. I also lose view count, but I think it is worth it and for a purpose.

Again, to my new followers PLEASE disable the email setting for my blog. You don’t want all this junk mail.

Last post today have a safe Thursday WP.

Note: I’ll reblog the new pingbacks to the Challenge tomorrow!

-Opinionated Man

Signs Your Wife Is Trying To Kill You


She announces one night you are both going “Vegan.” That can’t be healthy… she must be trying to kill you. Get a $5 foot long at Subway.

You walk by your wife as she is stirring soup and say “Hey Honey what is for dinner?” She doesn’t even look up while smiling and murmuring “Ooooo Nothing…” I hear Campbells Soup is now microwaveable!

Your wife keeps forgetting to set your place at the dinner table. She then mutters “he is still here?” each time you remind her…

CSI, I Almost Got Away With It, and House Hunters International are suddenly her favorite shows. Maybe we really should start paying attention to what they watch men?

You catch your wife doing the “weighing motion” for no reason… several times a day. When you ask her what she is doing she shrugs and says “weighing these melons obviously!”

You get ready for bed and suddenly she is sleeping in your spot. She then looks confused for a minute as to why you are asking her to move…

Your wife removes all the good things in life (sports, beer, sports…) and replaces them with the un-fun things in life (Ballet, The Oxygen Channel, Ballet…).

Your wife suddenly disappears for hours and claims she is going to Pilates. Pilates is a myth… she is plotting.

-Opinionated Man

Blogger Award :O


Opinionated Man:

I think you should get another award just for putting that post together with all the pictures lol. I am impressed and thanks for the nice mention!
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Originally posted on Anime Music Transcribed for the Piano:

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Well.  It looks like I have been nominated for the Beautiful Blogger Award.  Interesting.  Thanks to Lysa Taylor for that. :D

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This is Lysa.  She’s pretty freaking amazing, if you ask me.  Not only does she write her own fantastic short stories (which you can find here) and write her own, full-length novels, but she also talks about music (the last one was from Wolf’s Rain, so… you all know what that means.   ANOTHER ANIME FAN! :DDD).  Absolutely wonderful.  I am very grateful to be nominated by her.  Everyone should definitely check out her site.  I fully recommend it.


From Lysa’s blog:

About the Award

The Beautiful Blogger Award is an honor bestowed by fellow bloggers to show how much they love reading your blog and appreciate the beauty in your words.

Rules

1. Copy the Beautiful Blogger Award logo.

2. Thank the person who nominated you and…

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Blurbs of an unfiltered reality


Opinionated Man:

I like it and the flow. Thanks for sharing how you connected music with writing! I appreciate you taking the time to take part in the challenge. -OM
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Remember me

Sweet green, the scent of money trees

When you think about it, think about me

Medusa smokescreened behind a sea of green

 

Girls are candycane cotton candy kisses.. bubbles blowin in like fishes

Extraordinary riches, 

I kept your name in my sweaters’ stitches, 

Is that a boo boo, baby, let me check lipschitz

 

I wanna dance for you, take a chance with you, 

Devil’s prancin’ you

See

My stance is mad for you

 

….

Practicing being an alcoholic,  you’re good at that

Another gold star Timmy, pat on the back

Another diffused track, any chance of a plan of attack, fades to black

Ashes to ashes, stack to stack

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I write because a kind old professor showed me how


Opinionated Man:

I think that you handled being approached in that manner great. Many people would not have been able to swallow their pride I fear. Thanks for sharing and taking part in the challenge! -OM
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Originally posted on Family Answers Fast:

Love is shown more in deeds than in words. ~ Ignatius of Loyola #quote

Love is shown more in deeds than in words. ~ Ignatius of Loyola #quote

The nagging sense of being an academic fraud was a part of my soul since childhood. In the small, poor schools I attended, I reasoned that is was easy to be labeled smart.  As the first person in my family to attend college, even though I did well I lacked confidence because I knew I was missing something.  It wasn’t until I was in my Master of Public Administration program that an old professor pulled me aside and said, “You haven’t been taught how to write, have you?”  My face flashed red and fighting back tears I simply replied, “No.”  He asked if I would like to learn how to write an essay and that it would take an hour.  An hour!  I jumped at the opportunity.

Quickly, writing became a task to master, a confidence…

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Do you have a moment that you consider the most influential on your writing?


Opinionated Man:

My experience was much the same way with my 12th grade teacher. She inspired me a lot. Thanks for taking part in the challenge and for the memory share. -OM
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Originally posted on Goes Hard in the Acrylic:

The moment that I found to be the most influential on my writing was when my Journalism teacher in high school used my work as an example to the other students, and explained that my piece was what soulful, insightful writing looked like, and that others should take note of my technique in order to succeed in their writing pursuits, and ultimately the course. I was shocked by the fact that he would put me on a pedestal in that way because he had often been a tough teacher to please, and I had always cared tremendously about what he thought of my work. It gave me such confidence in my writing that I began refining my skills and blogging, pursuing writing as a passion rather than an assignment. He gave me the encouragement I needed to become better at what I love, and I honestly could never repay him…

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