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The War on Adoption

There is a war going on that many people have no clue about. You would only know if you were part of certain social groups or on certain media platforms. Even though this war is not on the headlines of CNN or Fox News, it is a war nonetheless and it matters a great deal…

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Nameless – Ahn Jong He

If you are out there, this is for you. I wonder what you are doing. Is your life a good one… do you know I exist? Every possible bad scenario has been played out and rerun like a “Friends” episode. I try not to dwell on all the different plots my crooked mind has created.…

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Adoption – The Search – “What is the worst that can happen?”

I have seen this question said many times in the adoption forums I am a part of and I stop myself most  of the time from responding. The reason is simple. Words only hold so much value before someone must experience them to understand. The Search, for an adoptee, is when we decide we want…

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Giving Up…

It is hard to accept we have given up on something. Sometimes the release is necessary to heal and move on. Giving up has never been an action I have viewed favorable, but it is a crutch I have used in the past. It is easy to give up when you don’t care anymore. It…

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“That isn’t your real family”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2016/08/09/as-seen-at-the-olympics-there-is-still-a-lot-of-ignorance-about-adoption/?tid=sm_fb I have written a lot about adoption and adopting yourself through acceptance. One of the hardest things for any adoptee to handle is being told “that isn’t your real family.” Some might balk at this actually happening in real life… because how much of an asshole can a person be? I’ll tell you. People…

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They

They say act a certain way. They ask why your name is so different. They say you are fake because you were given that name. They ask where you got your face and then they tell you who you are. They tell me to love my birth mother. They don’t know what a bitch she was.…

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Dear Adoptee

Dear Adoptee, You do not know me and I do not know you. Our stories are as different as genres placed on opposite ends of a book store, and yet we strive to relate. Why is that? Do we yearn for the companionship only found from those that share the knowledge of loss? I do…