The Daily Opinion – What would you do?

So what would you do? Would you register like a good peon or would you… stop blogging?


I was in the car today with my wife and we were discussing the recent killing of the journalist by ISIS. I made the comment that although I felt bad about the death of this journalist I also didn’t expect America to start paying ransom demands for people that willingly place themselves in danger. Journalism is a dangerous job with the world in the chaotic state it is in, and I might even place it in a category close to the military in some ways. Did anyone see the movie “We were Soldiers” where it shows a very interesting perspective of journalists in wartime and how they can’t help but not be affected by what happens around them. They are present during times of war and in real firefights, but all they hold is a camera and not a gun. I admire that, I would never do that, but I still recognize their courage.

Those journalists also understand the danger they are in and I am disappointed by the relatives of the recent journalist blaming America for not paying the ransom or “doing more.” I place this scenario in the same box with the reporters that keep getting caught in North Korea all to do what? Tell us it is still bad up there? I realize the importance of real-time news and I hate to be the voice of reason here, but if you place yourself in dangerous situations you must accept those same situations when they turn out badly. I told my wife “people shouldn’t place themselves in scenarios where a miracle is required to save them and then expect that miracle to happen.” This is real life, not the movies, and in real life people die. People also place themselves daily in situations where they may die and they must accept that they made those choices. If I had died going to Iraq while in the military it would have been ultimately my choice and I would not have blamed anyone with my last breath.

“Well what if that were your sister or you” is what my wife said to me. I told her I would feel badly, I would be angry, and hell I would probably try to find that money if it were my sister. I would not expect the United States to miraculously change their stance just for me though and I would also have told my relative NOT to go over there to begin with. My father is a doctor that travels the world giving talks on his studies. He recently went to Egypt to give a speech and I emailed him asking him if he would not go. I say this to show that I do what I say and I actively tried to dissuade him by telling him “there are too many people in that “direction” of the world that hate us Pop. Just don’t go right now, the world isn’t right.” He still went and thankfully he returned to us safely.

I am saddened by the death of this journalist. I do not blame Obama or the United States government though for his execution or for the policies they have held PRIOR to his death. Know what you are doing in life, what your causes are for, and why you do what you do. If you are placing yourself in situations where death is a factor I hope you have considered if it is worth it or not. I also hope your relatives understand that you are willingly giving that sacrifice and they don’t take the opportunity to play the “bashing game/blame game” so many do these days.

Note: If ever a drone were made for a purpose it was to kill a member of ISIS. #truth

-Opinionated Man

The song

Do you hear the sound of humanity rising through the clouds? It is not a prayer. It is the sound of life, the life that you gave… that you began. We raise the volume of our hearts in hope that you remember us. That you will continue to care. Do you hear it now as it washes over the mountains and ferments the hearts of man? It is the song, a wordless essence of care that we all share when we open ourselves to a chance. A chance to matter before we do not matter at all.


Today I lost a Lot of Subscribers

I think at this point I have established the fact that I blog for numbers. I have also written multiple posts on the fact that I differentiate between writing and blogging. Blogging is presenting “something” in front of an audience and does not necessarily have to entail writing. I do take my writing seriously though, since I am a writer, and I still feel I write for myself. The proof is apparent on days like today where my follower number drops because I decide to publish posts I care about, but the world may not. That is ok in my book, but it still presents a complex relationship between blogging and I.

I have had bloggers call me a dumbass for publishing things that knowingly turn off readers, such as my views on abortion. With almost any topic there will always be a percentage of people that disagree and the more aggressive you are with a topic the more you will push people to also have a strong reaction. That is what HarsH ReaLiTy is all about pushing not only my opinions, but forcing people to also have one. Know that I am writing even this because I am bored and feel like it, not because I feel a need to justify why I do what I do.

Today I lost a lot of subscribers due to my post on dogs. I don’t feel badly about what I wrote, but I also recognize the fluctuations… consider it the small amount of Korean in me. My blogging model was created with the principle that I would not expect anyone to ever return to my website. I work hard each day to show my current readers I care by responding to comments and interacting, but I also work equally hard to bring in new readers each day. On the days where my number doesn’t move… those are the days that one of two things either happened. Either I was a lazy ass and failed to attract a single new reader or I succeeded in publishing my honest thoughts and people couldn’t handle it. So even though today I lost, I still feel like I won.


What is going on Akismet?

Either I am being targeted by some very determined spammers or Akismet stopped working. Guest Authors if you see an obvious spam comment do not respond to it please. I can’t even moderate them they are flooding in so fast this week. When did I become so special? Go bother, my website is so small fry…


Way to ruin a good thing

And I am actually not talking about the “woman” that broke the pay it forward chain. I am talking about whoever wrote this story. Why call people out if this was suppose to be a “good thing,” but suddenly someone is a villain for not doing it? Come on people… good causes are voluntary not obligatory. Cut this crap out.–378-starbucks-customers–pay-it-forward–in-florida-151640283.html

Dear Dog Owners

Dear Dog Owners,

Sidewalks are made for humans. If I am walking down the sidewalk with my daughters and your dog is larger than they are you need to make Fluffy walk in the grass. If Fluffy isn’t trained to do that then you should walk your ass in the grass as well. Sidewalks are made for tax paying humans, not for four legged animals that couldn’t care less what they are walking on.

If your dog is larger than my 5 year old daughter don’t allow IT to approach my kids without asking. If my kids approach your dog then that is a totally different story, but there are leash laws for a reason. If you aren’t strong enough to keep your dog in check give your “pet” away or have it put to sleep. If another dog aggressively comes near my daughters that the owner “claims wouldn’t hurt a fly” I will use the belt knife I carry at all times. That is actually a promise and it is a promise made in frustration.

I don’t hate animals, but I am beginning to hate animal owners. Just because your pit bull acts friendly around your kid doesn’t mean it will do the same around mine. I know about dogs and I also know they can be triggered by the smallest thing, sometimes the most random thing. How is my daughter to know that touching his ear will make him bite her? Am I suppose to wait until that happens so you can look shocked and say “Fluffy has never done that!” Uh… no. Like I said, I won’t wait for tragedy to happen to learn a lesson. I’ll create a tragedy instead.

I am sure some animal lover is going to read this and go off. Bite me. Dog owners are becoming as entitled as bicycle riders that hog a whole lane. Move your asses over where you belong and leave the sidewalk to people that walk on two legs.

-Opinionated Man

I am not here to impress you world

I am not here to impress you world. I do not seek your validation. I don’t need more friends. I don’t want pen pals.

The world is so damn needy these days. That is why I roll my eyes when I read comments or posts by my “fans” saying I only write because I need attention. Those same people are such fucking hypocrites though when it comes to trying to “push their book they are working on.” Oh sure it is trendy to say you don’t “care” and honestly if you equate that to what I wrote above then you are just stupid. There is a huge difference.

I understand the relationship between a blogger and their readers. I give back to people not because I must, not because it is expected, but because I “hope” people pay it forward. That is probably why I get easily frustrated and annoyed because when a “good deed” because a hassle it is no longer worth it in my book. Does that make the deed less pure? Who cares? I sure don’t.

I care about my writing, my blog, and interacting back with my readers. That is as far as I set my own obligation. I don’t accept the limitations, rules, or views of what others “think” I should be doing. How about you go do that on your own damn blog if you want to be such a shining example. People are so full of shit too. How many here honestly think that if they worked their asses off for 2 years to create a platform that they would willingly share it for free. Be honest and I am really asking. How many of you would? Or instead how many of you would think “those people should work for it themselves… as I did.”

I treat people the way I wish I had been treated when I first began blogging last year. That doesn’t mean I am always nice and in fact I can be incredibly crass towards people I consider “friends” in the blogging world. I am always busy and honestly I don’t have time for most, if any, of your bullshit. This isn’t a rant, this isn’t a complaint, this is just how I am.

Note: Guest Authoring is closed for now. Thanks to those that took part.


An Introduction to Powerblogging – Part 1

There is a reason why I have waited this long to write this post and also why I have shared articles on blogging this past week. They were leading to this point, one which many bloggers will hate. That is the price you pay when you share information freely, especially about topics people dislike. If you were to browse the tags “blogging, bloggers, and blog” right now you would find countless articles on blogging and how to successfully make a blog. You won’t find many people writing on powerblogs, except in the most general way. That is because the term “powerblogger” was given as an insult to label those of us that WordPress and Blogger deem to be all about the numbers and audience. The insult is in the assumption that we also don’t care about our writing.

This post will be longer than usual for me and I plan to cover what I have learned about powerblogging this past year. Yes, you heard correctly, I have only been a powerblogger for a year and ironically I have only been blogging for the same amount of time. Success is a distant marker that we each get the freedom of chasing. I did not wait for someone to tell me the “rules” I made my own. I didn’t wait to learn “how everyone else was doing it” because I have often found that people have very “small minds” when it comes to ideas and execution. The human brain can often not be bothered to think outside the box, thus what we readers get are blog after blog of regurgitated, politically correct crap.

We blog for different reasons and I can confidently say that I blog differently than most of you… probably all of you. Some of the following will be known, but I hope some of it is new and might open your eyes to what a powerblogger is and does.

When I began HarsH ReaLiTy on January 3rd, 2013 I had no real plan other than trying to get my writing seen. That was the number one goal, “how do I get people to read my stuff?” It was only later on that I adapted the “wish” for comments as well, because to be honest a view is a view. Period. There is no “fake view” or “fake follow” the bloggers that claim that are idiots. Did a person not have to see your blog title to press like? Did we not have to read at least a word of your article to like and follow you? If you judge your popularity by “likes and follows” then you will have a fruitless writing career. I don’t pay attention to those numbers, they mean shit other than providing a basic understanding of daily traffic. This understanding can ONLY come from studying your numbers and seeing what gets viewed and why. Many might find this boring, that is understandable, but if you are serious about self-promotion, business, and selling those damn eBooks then you might want to start paying attention to your stats and dashboard. That IS your link to the outside world for your blog.

I value every view, regardless if someone follows me, comments, or presses like. I also don’t “like” any article I have not read. I will generally “follow” a person off the reader, so that connection will show up in their email notification as a “like and follow” by me. In truth I have not pressed “like” on that article. I followed a person because I skimmed their post, liked their title, or I see they are an active blogger. I then will wait for that connection to be returned in many cases. Is this a game of “I follow you and you follow me in turn” like I have seen post after post about? No, it really isn’t, because I am not studying the number of followers. I am waiting to see if a person that just visited my site has gone on a “reading binge” and has “blitzkrieged” my website. That to me is the indiciation that a REAL connection has been made. The “handshake” connection is actually where someone reads my about or bio, likes it, comments, and then disappears. That is STILL a view, I still value that interaction, but it is set in a different category from a habitual visitor.

I have repeatedly said that powerblogging is more than just “randomly” clicking on websites in hopes that people will visit you back. If it were indeed that easy, everyone would be doing it AND successfully, which is not the case. “Following” people is a large part of pushing your website out to the public. You will read and hear endless posts and comments on how bad of a practice this is. “It is insincere” or “I think every blogging connection should be a real relationship and not a ploy for business.” If you powerblog you WILL get these comments. You might even make it to the “big time” and will “randomly” happen upon those awesome posts about you while browsing WordPress. The awesome part is because they will be directly about you and your blog, they will name you, and they will villianize what you are and what you do. If this bothers you or if negative feedback causes you hesitation, powerblogging is NOT for you. You will need to be made of tougher stuff than that. Currently I could rattle off a dozen posts just this past month about me. I can also name many bloggers that think what I do is pathetic and a “low” form of blogging. You will have to decide whether or not public opinion matters to you and if it does you might want to reconsider taking any of these pieces of advice.

Generally I follow about 500 blogs a day. On a good day or perhaps a day from last year where my motivation was much higher, I would follow or connect with around 2000 blogs a day. My hope for a “return” on this practice has always been the number 750. I set that as a buffer number, because it is just high enough to push me but not to burn me out. I seek 750 new eyes on my website every day. To an author or someone that is pushing their business or books, this is where I say the marketing really IS. With every follower or every glance at your website you are realizing a “possible sell.” THAT is the name of the game and anyone that says differently is a fool and you should NOT listen to them. But if you instead write “for yourself” and are happy selling your books to only your friends and family… by all means listen to “Cindy and Jack” your kind supporting friends that will never tell you a negative bulletpoint. These people are not helping you though in the long run and an attitude that thinks that they are is the wrong attitude for self-promotion and success.

I listen to no one when it comes to self-promotion. There is so much bad advice out there. So many people with wishful thinking and sugary thoughts of “success will come when it is meant to.” FUCK THAT! I go out and I search for success because success is in all reality the ultimate mythical hart that every hunter seeks. Those that say they don’t care about success, all the while they pour their hearts into their words and product, are not only lying to you but to themselves as well. Living a lie can sometimes be the best remedy for failure. If that is your poison have fun foolishly enjoying it.

You cannot randomly click “follow” and hope to create a powerblog. There is so much more to this “art” then it appears. I say art because the process itself is an art. Anyone that has blogged on HarsH ReaLiTy and has seen my stats knows I am speaking the truth. They have seen my numbers and even more they have witnessed the fluctuations. Not an hour ago I was asked “why have your numbers fallen since last July and can you explain the bell curb?” Of course I can, it is the product of effort and lack thereof. I have not clicked follow or pushed my blog nearly as hard as I did last year and for good reason. They are my reasons. Last year I was actually “following” and actively pushing my website to the number of around 2000 clicks daily. That is not an exaggeration either. What a person must realize is there is a percentage to explain everything in life, especially a blog. Numbers don’t lie and if you know how to read them they can actually reveal the “heartbeat” of your blog. When I was actively pushing my blog I would have over 750 new visits a day and the retention rate of those visitors was higher as well. My content also has a large amount to do with this rate. Removing an offensive title and tagline would be an immeasurable help in gathering followers, but I refuse to change that. A Good Blog is Hard to Find is actually my new sample test against this theory. I can firmly say that it has shown me I have lost A LOT of potential followers because of what HarsH ReaLiTy now “stands for.”

The amount I blog on HR has fallen this year because I always intended it to be so. I never really planned on devoting more than a year to HarsH ReaLiTy, but I have also adapted that plan slightly. The problem with HR is that it has capped in many ways. I still gain followers daily, but the issue is when you get to a certain size people stop seeing you as an attraction. You gain a label and an outlook, regardless if your practices stay the same. When I say practices let me elaborate on what I mean by that. Last year I received anywhere from 300 – 600 comments daily and much of that is due to the fact that I posted on average 5 times a day. I want to reiterate here that “over posting” doesn’t exist, but pushing out tons of posts ALSO won’t gain you tons of followers. The reason being is that you will find few bloggers that actually read ALL of your posts. I have a few people like that, but it is rare and it basically takes time to find a reader such as that. They are what writers seek though. I spend a lot of my time responding to comments, reading blogs (yes, contrary to popular belief I actually read around 200 blog posts a day), and writing articles. The addition of the comments and emails adds considerable amount of work. I work four days a week in Information Technology and have the luxury of being able to blog at work. I therefore spend around 8 hours daily on my blog and often this includes weekends. I sleep very little and because I have kids I force myself to do a lot of my writing at night. This is neither practical nor possible for many people, but I am trying to provide a full picture of what I do.

7 days a week I was on my blog last year. It has only been recently that I have started to take weekends off and my guest bloggers will attest to the fall in stats because of this. I don’t care because I KNOW what drives stats and views. There is no “dormant stage” for a blog. There is either motivated blogging or lazy blogging to me. I hate laziness and will never entertain the thought of being called lazy by anyone. I have had this word fielded in my direction and honestly, it didn’t deserve the snort that it got.

Powerblogging is about money and making money. Whether you are pushing a product, sharing your writing, or basically trying to create a business for future ventures powerblogging is where you want your website to go if you are truly after numbers and success. Writing is a skill and something to be treasured, thus I have time and time again tried to present the difference to my readers. I take writing and blogging seriously, but I separate them. I always have and always will and this post should share why I do. Blogging is the business and traffic aspect of pushing my website, the writing is something I am always working on and trying to improve. As one commenter said, the reason I post so much is because I am not hindered by public displays of negative feedback. That is why I am writing, any review is welcome. To pick and choose is to pick and choose your followers and that to me is a mistake in principle.

I wrote an eBook back in May of 2013 and I shared my blogging principles and methods. This is a much larger elaboration and I have more still to share. The irony is that this post is probably more in-depth than the eBook, but I have also learned a ton since last May. Well, that is debatable, but I think I have.

Mirror blogs and secondary blogs are becoming more common. You will see many current “powerbloggers” (some of which don’t meet the description to me) hosting mirror sites in which they are simply refunneling their previous posts. While this in itself is not a bad practice, nor is it a bad idea, there needs to be some clear understanding as to what, why, and how this is done. There are some bloggers that will reblog themselves to gain views. The issue I have with this is when they reblog their own post… ON THE SAME DAMN WEBSITE. Who wants to see you reblog yourself? If you have been blogging for years and think you have posts hidden at the bottom of the pile that people might genuinely enjoy “again or for the first time” then simply repost that article. Don’t reblog it and make it obvious you are recycling your posts. When a singer lip sings do they make it obvious? No, they try to play that shit off because people don’t want to think that YOU “think” they are fools. Treat us like adults and instead just repost that entry and see if people like it again.

You will find many bloggers are using “separate” mirror blogs to push their current blog. This is a GREAT practice that has been in use FOREVER! People that think this is a new idea are either not in marketing or failed out of marketing 101 in college. Business owners and strategists have been using the “wall theory” forever. Bouncing ideas off a smaller target or “sample audience” OR simply using a secondary website to get eyes on a topic or issue. There is nothing wrong with this, WordPress isn’t going to run out of room because you decide to make a second website. Anyone that tells you that making new websites is “clogging WordPress” is OBVIOUSLY the best network engineer in the world…

Another thing some powerbloggers do is they create a second website that is completely unaffiliated to their first. They will then “rehash” their previous year’s materiel onto their new blog and by using the scheduling features they are essentially able to create a blog with no new materiel and one that is ready for a year. It is still their writing that they are proud of and are trying to push in front of the public’s eye, so fair is fair when it comes to motivation and even more importantly dedication to promoting yourself.

I don’t schedule my posts, but I have before. I enjoy writing “real-time” and allowing my audience to feel and understand what I think of the moment. I also don’t try and cram every single thought for my day into one post. Many bloggers create well thought out, scripted posts that read like a novel. That is great for them and all and they deserve the recognition and likes people give them from doing that type of task. For me I don’t think a post has to be perfect. When I press publish on this post, an article that is about 7 times longer than most I write, I will probably have a ton of grammatical mistakes that will be obvious to the reader that cares. The thing writers need to remember, especially writers of a blog where they are pushing their thoughts out every day, is that there will be just as many readers that don’t care and will still read. They will also come back and read more, as long as you are putting out new content. If you sit there and second guess your worth and the readability of your articles, you will only filter your website down to a point where it is no longer you. It is a filtered you and who really wants to read that? You should also take note that finding people that are writing about similar topics is the best practice in finding bloggers that “might” like your website. This is particular telling when you actively find people writing about your subjects, even as your topics change daily. This provides a mixture in viewers that will pay you back.

I post lots of times in a day, but each post is generally directly related to a singular topic. I don’t try to carry my readers on some long epic journey through multiple layers of thought because blogging is a “quick fix” type of enjoyment. People read blogs, instead of books, often times for a fast read. Under 1000 words and they really don’t want to think too hard. This is not the case for all bloggers, but understanding the existence of this predominate group will help you when considering what to write, how to write it, and how to present it. If you bury your audience in tireless posts and an overwhelming amount of imagery and mental pictures… you will lose most of your audience.

Titles are everything if you are a writer. If you run a photography or art blog, your titles “might” not matter as much because pictures will show in readers. I don’t post a ton of pictures, actually I rarely do, and because of that I must hedge my bet on a catchy title. But the title won’t make or break your article, it will simply go hand in hand with the percentage that you gather while writing it. It is thus harder on a “true writer” in many ways to gain an audience. This is also why I don’t stick to one topic, theme, or type of writing. I try my hand at anything and that “unpredictable nature” is also a bullet point in my “how to blog” manual. Humans are creatures that grow bored faster than any other animal on this planet. Keep that in mind when you are wondering why people aren’t returning to read the “same type of post” you have been doing for years.

WordAds is a great feature for WordPress users to see at least “a little” monetary gain from their efforts. Why write for free? Also, if your followers aren’t paying the price tag, why should it matter to them if you have Ads? I once had an “Ex-Follower” (yes, we powerbloggers actually get “ex-followers”) who claimed that it was shady of me to gain anything from my followers. I responded with a wake-up call. You do realize that you are paying someone every time you log into any website right? Gmail, google, and EVEN WORDPRESS ITSELF makes money off your usage. Don’t feed me this crap of “it is bad form to make money off anyone” because EVERYONE is making money off EVERYONE. Wake the Fuck Up!

This is getting long and I may come back and add to this later or write an addition. There will be many bloggers and powerbloggers alike that will absolutely hate this post. They will hate that I share this info, or that I do it in such a nonchalant way. As if I am supposed to care about what other bloggers think of it. Unfortunately for them and perhaps fortunately for my audience… I could give a shit less what other bloggers think of me or my methods. To prove this, I will even post this article on my new blog and see if it runs any new followers off. If you are always worried about what others think of what you are doing, saying, or thinking then blogging for an audience is not for you. Save yourself some heartache and instead take on knitting.

-Opinionated Man



Echo Me

How sad the voice sounds when echoed back from emptiness. A validation that your words were not heard and instead clattered down the well of humanity hitting the walls on the way down. I pen a thought in the night so that I remember the deed with the coming sun. The blessed light does not erase the shadows of doubt that I was able to scrape together on fallen wood. I create a sailboat from my unpublished drafts and send them drifting down the stream. They collide with a myriad of other boats at journey’s end… thoughts left to silently die by me. And turning away from my failures I look up as the rain begins to fall. The echo of droplets hitting puddles beneath my feet compound the reality of the moment. A reality I embrace with my last breath.


Day 6

Day 6 is a little better. The tension is a little less, but I still have a quick trigger. For instance I got really mad at a car today for waiting about two car lengths behind a stop light. Don’t you people know there are wires in the ground your car has to trigger to make the light change! What are you doing wishing it to change at 50 feet away??? The Asian guy in the awesomely plain Camry behind you isn’t waving his hands to Lady Gaga he is most likely ME and ME is angry as shit. Move your busted ass vehicle forward people or so help me God!

So as you can see I am doing great… it is going well. I am loving it. Day 6 is everything I hoped day 6 would be. I wish I could stop the clock it is that much fun…

We do what we must though. We give up things we “loved” for those we love. Before anyone starts leaving peachy words of encouragement save it. I couldn’t care less to hear them right now. My temperament is shot and my patience is thin. I seek to hide this ugliness during the day because they don’t deserve to see it.

They don’t deserve it at all.

Jason Chandler Cushman

-Opinionated Man


Site Update

I extended the thread count to 4 for discussions. I have had it held to 2 for a reason because of how my website is laid out it creates a single line response after a while, but I recognize why people want the threads deeper. I’ll keep it at 4 for now and hopefully that enables better direct responses.


How do you like my kitchen?

My first round of guest posts are up and I will do the rest through this week and weekend. I appreciate those that have responded so quickly and thanks for taking this seriously. I know blogging is meant to be “fun,” but I also hope people realize that some of us view fun in a different way. Fun to me is success, being successful at what I have dedicated my time to. I view my blog in such a light and I don’t waste time simply contemplating ideas. I think, I create, and I do. Hopefully my “fast pace” hasn’t put too many off.

I would like to take a second and ask that if you are still interested in guest posting that you take the time to read some of the current posts up already. Pay close attention to the conversations in the comments section as well. Even though I rarely comment on guest posts I do read everything that happens on my website. While my visitors and readers here are for the most part polite, this isn’t some Yahoo board, they are STILL opinionated and will not hesitate to voice their opinion… especially in disagreement. I hope if you decide to come into my kitchen you are prepared for the experience I have daily and I also hope in the end it is a fun time for you.

Thanks again Guest Authors for your time,



No Creative Commons Images Here!

I want to make this clear one more time. I do not allow creative commons images, google images, or “free images” on my website. Period.

If you guest post here ONLY USE images YOU OWN. I will inquire if I think an image isn’t yours and will remove it if you don’t respond. I rarely use pictures or images of any sort in my own posts and will not play “license” games on my blog.

Please do not ask me if you can use the above types of images.


Dear Guest Authors

I am going to save some time and answer the “same question” to everyone at once.

“What type of article are you looking for?” That is up to you. If someone were to offer you a spot in their magazine for a one time only publishing opportunity… what would you publish of yours? Look at this as a chance to really promote what YOU do. So don’t ask me what to write on, I accept all topics as my original offer said. Ok… within reason. Obviously there are some things I wouldn’t want on my website and that shouldn’t really need to be explained. Just show us what you have, even if it is an old post that you REALLY love that is ok as well! Don’t ask me what I want to host, tell me what you want to host ok?

I’ll still respond to the emails, but I just woke up and almost thought I was reading the same email over and over.

What do you want to share?

Note: About photos. I will only allow photos you own yourself. No “free google images” are allowed on my website or any image you do not own yourself! Please don’t make that more difficult than it needs to be.


Today I killed

Today I killed. It was the most random thing, it was everything, I feel the need for more. I close my eyes and savor the sweet sensation of death, I feel the dying pulse still in my fingertips. Staring into the eyes of my lover, my victim… a stranger. We became so close in such a short time. It is a shame our meeting could not last. I watched as confusion and anger turned into despair… sweet despair. I shattered the reality of another and forced my will upon them. Slowly did the light dwindle in their eyes as tear drops leaked their life’s regrets onto pale cheeks. I marveled at how much sorrow one could feel from the release I was giving.

Today I killed. Tomorrow I will live their life.


It’s all feelings… of excitement

Opinionated Man:

That is a lot of love! Thank you! -OM
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What is this feeling, of getting your first ever follower??? Should i be scared or happy?


When i was in high school i was always trying…not hard enough but still trying to start up a blog (i have around 20 with forgotten passwords and super embarrassing website titles – oh the shame), but i never really knew what to write about. And being a teenager you don’t really have much to write about anyway…Not saying i’m old enough to do this now, but let’s face it, i have been through more than a few things in my life that i can write about (and there is no age limit on writing a blog!!!). Be it life lessons, love lessons, job experiences, or maybe the amazing things that are now happening to me. Isn’t it wonderful to write it out? It is like a diary…like a big…

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Don’t Ever Say This To Me On My Blog

“You have an obligation.”

I have repeatedly said I am not a corporate blogger. I am just… a blogger. JUST LIKE ALL OF YOU. Guess what? I have ZERO obligation to ANYONE on WordPress. ANYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I swear the next person that says this to me will get perm banned so fucking fast…

Everyone is sooo entitled these days. You don’t deserve ANYTHING on my website. I give if I wish.



“Just Write” ?? Really?

Opinionated Man:

Always happy to provide what encouragement I can! I am glad you took the post in the right way. -OM
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Originally posted on Elaine's Random Thoughts:

I read a post tonight written by A Opinionated Man entitled Just Write.

Jason commented in his post the following  “I simply write when I feel like writing and I feel like writing all the time.”  As I read his words, I couldn’t help but think how much I like to write and feel like writing all the time too but the difference is that I am never sure what to write about that others might find interesting or enlightening.  Of course that is my lack of self-esteem speaking; or is it my ego that doesn’t want to be crushed if nobody likes what I write?  

“Just Write” says Jason. “Don’t think so hard about it”    Sounds like good advice to me!   There are many things I think about in the course of my days as I go about my daily activities, whether it be the  Bible study I…

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Guest Authors Sign-up

I will host some guest authors over the weekends and during the “hours” I sleep. That isn’t many hours… but there are a few during the day. I am asking ONE POST only per guest author though, which is different from how I did it last time. I also have a few things to consider before you take me up on this.

1. I only moderate “hateful trolls” on my website. I do not deny the privilege of commenting to those that may disagree or even “hate” my work though. Neither will I mod people that hate your writing either, so if you are timid in the face of negative comments you may want to consider before signing up. I worked hard to create a diverse group here that are equally diverse in what they enjoy. Take that into consideration and make sure you look at who is commenting before responding.

2. If you are the type of blogger that doesn’t respond to comments don’t sign up. If I see your post grow with comments and no responses I will trash it. I make no promises how long I will keep a post up.

3. Please ensure you at least spell check your posts. If I proof a post and it hurts my eyes I will either email you a short “what the fuck?” or I will trash it. I don’t have time to babysit anyone and if you are serious about writing you should at least run your articles through spellcheck. Also, I make allowances for international guests and understand English is the second language of some. I am not an asshole and will take that into consideration, but know and recognize that my audience is mainly English speaking. They won’t read garbage and neither will I.

4. If you are only seeking to “write a post” so you can add hundreds of links to your site and books… don’t sign up. That gets so old and honestly it turns people off. I WILL ALLOW authors to put a signature, link to their site, and even “tasteful” links to their books, ebooks, or work. I do not want an eye sore on my website though and if you need further explanation on this feel free to ask.

5. HarsH ReaLiTy was built under the ideal that opinions are valuable. Even opinions you disagree with. I allow writers on here that share topics even I don’t agree with. Don’t allow the fact that you write on a different topic to dissuade you from signing up.

6. 18 years or older only please. Look… I have no way of knowing if you lie obviously. But understand that I am a father, I have two children and a wife, I have a life outside this blog… don’t put me in a situation I don’t wish to be in please. Like I have said in the past, I do these guest blogging opportunities as a way to give back to my readers. I don’t even require that a person BE A READER of mine to sign up. Don’t ruin this opportunity for others please.

7. DO NOT HOST STOLEN MATERIAL ON MY BLOG. EVER! THAT INCLUDES PHOTOS, WRITING, A BUNNY PICTURE… ANYTHING!!! DON’T BE A THIEF! I have had my work stolen a few times and it feels like being raped. While I wouldn’t know what being raped feels like… I am guessing. Don’t do it.

8. I will not do back and forth emails over a certain point. If it takes you far too long to figure this whole process out I will bow out. I just have better things to do like watching ice melt…

Thanks to all those that have already shown interest. As of now I should have responded to ALL emails that inquired about guest posting. If I missed you please send me another email at

Thanks again,