Thank you!

As I come closer to my first blogging goal ever I feel the need to say thank you to everyone that has continued to read my random posts. Your support and continued interest is what makes HarsH ReaLiTy what it is. I have put in countless hours since I created this blog last January and although it hasn’t “paid off” in the ways I may have dreamed… it has provided encouragement in ways I never thought of.

One goal around the corner. The next goal going in the oven. And that is the grind people.


“I don’t blog for an Audience”

I get tired of hearing this sentence from bloggers. If you aren’t interested in gathering a following or having others read your work GOOD FOR YOU! Why is it you feel that it is necessary to parade that ideology on every post you can find that talks about “building a blog or an audience?” How many articles have you read on how to successfully build a blog and how many of those articles have you seen at least one commenter that feels the need to clarify that they “write for themselves?” Good for you… now how about you go write in that corner over there since you are so proud of the fact that you don’t care if anyone else sees your post!

Many of us here on WordPress are writers and we ARE seeking critiques of our work or eyes on our articles. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Don’t get discouraged or put off by people that loudly trumpet in your face that “they aren’t after the numbers or the views.” If you want to focus on that and then in turn feel proud of the fact that you have accomplished a “goal” then do so! Be as proud as you feel like! Simply ignore the “noise” around you that will try and tell you that your outlook is wrong. They are your goals, your outlooks, and it is your blog. Screw everyone else.


Celebrate your ugly.

Opinionated Man:

I felt this post was very raw and it spoke to me. I think everyone at some point has body image issues and to be able to freely talk about those shows an amount of strength I admire. This was a very interesting post and thanks for letting me share it! -OM
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Originally posted on Bitch Fit:

Last night, at the very end of a very long day, I received this message on Facebook:

I don’t know if I’ve already said this, but I wanted to say I’m sorry. You might remember when I saw you for XXX’s birthday party… I felt bad after thinking about how I reacted when I saw you for the first time after so long. I was so excited and floored, but that’s what people expect right? I saw that you posted about struggling with your body image and the things that can come from that. I sadly understand those feelings very well, and I got mad at myself after I thought about how I reacted after seeing you. I felt bad for not being nonchalant.

You’ve always been my bus friend from middle school and that won’t ever change. I just hope that you’re doing okay. I wanted to let you…

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Doing For Others

No one has to explain to me how busy a person can be and how one can become so focused on their personal goals that the needs of others are ignored. I have the ultimate tunnel vision when it comes to chasing my dreams and I will run over happy bunny rabbits in pursuit of that dream. Still, we must remember that sometimes a small helping hand is all another person needs to make it through the day. While we are on cruise control another person is in the highest gear simply trying to make it up a small hill.

Doing for others just because it is the right thing to do is a lost art. A lost cause. If there isn’t something in it for the “doer” then there is no point to the “doing” these days. I find that to be a sad reality as I see bloggers actively hamstringing each other and refusing to offer even the slightest hint of support to others. It is all about me, my website, my blog, my audience, my goals, and my dreams. Everyone else can be damned!

I do not wake up wanting to be motivational to others. I don’t set out to be an inspiration. I honestly can’t stand people that feel they need to carry the largest fucking cross they can find just so everyone will ohhh and ahhh over their feat. Praise… praise is the fool’s gold of the masses. Have you ever met that one helpful person that is amazing when they want to be, but the minute the “praise stops” they suddenly have better things to do? I have had people make snide remarks that I help other bloggers only for the praise and recognition. Those jabs underline what I am saying in this post, that people are cynical bastards that have killed the simple act of “doing for others” for no other reason than because it is the right thing to do.

That to me is worth lamenting, that to me is worth reflection, and that to me is why I care.

We need not be opponents in this game of life. Everyone has an extra hand.


What Do You Want From Me?

Opinionated Man:

I think it is less about asking what potential readers want and more about finding out what you want to share first. And then sharing it. I don’t have a target audience myself and I asked that question as the daily opinion to really get people to think about who they wish to connect with. The answer may very well be “everyone,” and that to me is ok! I hope you keep at it and keep on blogging. -OM
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Originally posted on A Momma's View:

I am so new to blogging… I still feel like a newborn and that is what I basically am: A newborn blogger.

Of course I still try to find my way and find out, what my readers like best. I keep an eye on my stats and try to figure out which posts you like best. But it is hard, as I am only in my second month of blogging and over the last 5 weeks have met so many of fellow newborn bloggers… And naturally we check each other out and we do support each other as well.

I ask myself the question every day: What is my blog all about?

I hear my husband’s words in the back of my mind, who told me that I would have to find a subject to blog about and stick to it. I see the words of other bloggers in front…

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When I’m Feeling Blue

Opinionated Man:

Good stuff! It is never a bad thing to study your stats and really find out what works with your blog. Many bloggers consider that “lame,” but I personally see it as doing necessary homework. Nice post and best of luck on your next milestone! -OM
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Originally posted on My Decade Long Travels:

Whoa! this is such a revelation …


The graph looks like it’s on its way up but I need to see darker shades of blue than the “sky” ones … I need to attract more visitors

Well, I visit the “Stats” from time to time not really making heads and tails of it. I just know that it counts everything happening in my site but have not thought much of what I can use it for.

After 3 months of being in the WordPress community I am not feeling bad with my stats. In fact the graph looks like I’m on my way up but of course I like the darker shades of blue higher than it is now. Don’t you?
The Darker the Blue the better it is for my site — it means more of you are reading my blog and hopefully don’t just click the “like” star but leave…

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